1 00:00:00,118 --> 00:00:02,918 Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Here Comes the Drama. 2 00:00:02,958 --> 00:00:04,348 I'm your host, Christa Innis. 3 00:00:04,669 --> 00:00:05,679 Thanks for being here. 4 00:00:05,981 --> 00:00:08,889 First things first, I wanna do a little mini celebration with you guys. 5 00:00:08,889 --> 00:00:13,186 If you follow me on social, you've probably seen, but it's been exactly one 6 00:00:13,186 --> 00:00:18,236 year, June 12th actually was one year, since my book, Here Comes the Drama: A 7 00:00:18,236 --> 00:00:20,266 Ferris and Sloane Story, was released. 8 00:00:20,613 --> 00:00:24,386 I was actually doing a podcast interview and when we stopped recording, 9 00:00:24,663 --> 00:00:27,706 she looked behind me and she was like, " Oh, did you write a book? 10 00:00:27,706 --> 00:00:31,013 What's it about?" And I was telling her all about it, and I happened to 11 00:00:31,013 --> 00:00:35,193 look up at the date and I was like, oh my gosh, it was exactly one year 12 00:00:35,193 --> 00:00:36,513 ago today that it was released. 13 00:00:36,899 --> 00:00:39,573 And after we, you know, signed off and, all that good stuff, 14 00:00:39,963 --> 00:00:41,096 I started looking into it. 15 00:00:41,126 --> 00:00:46,146 It was a year before that, so it was like June 2024 when I started the 16 00:00:46,146 --> 00:00:49,996 Ferris and Sloane skit and started talking to the audience about possibly 17 00:00:49,996 --> 00:00:54,319 writing a book, and then it was June 2025 where the book came out. 18 00:00:54,756 --> 00:01:01,179 And here we are, June 2026, a year later, and it's just wild to see what's changed 19 00:01:01,189 --> 00:01:05,609 since then in my content, more stories that have come out, and the progress I'm 20 00:01:05,609 --> 00:01:10,603 making with book number two So first, if you're new here and you've not read 21 00:01:10,603 --> 00:01:13,290 book number one, here's a little review. 22 00:01:13,690 --> 00:01:15,030 This is one of the most recent reviews. 23 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:18,270 Actually, it was just left… Oh, it was just posted today 24 00:01:18,390 --> 00:01:20,050 as I'm recording, on June 16th. 25 00:01:20,450 --> 00:01:21,816 I did not notice that when I put this in here. 26 00:01:22,186 --> 00:01:23,920 this person says, "Love this book. 27 00:01:23,940 --> 00:01:25,920 I have followed this story since the beginning. 28 00:01:26,248 --> 00:01:30,063 I thought I loved the character then, but with the added details, 29 00:01:30,123 --> 00:01:32,363 they came to life even more. 30 00:01:32,618 --> 00:01:36,443 Can't wait to read even more from Krista." So that was my goal with this book. 31 00:01:36,443 --> 00:01:41,373 So a little quick background, so not to do, like, repeat myself, 32 00:01:41,565 --> 00:01:43,535 2024, I started this storyline. 33 00:01:43,545 --> 00:01:47,378 I was putting my daughter down to bed, and this story popped into my mind. 34 00:01:47,705 --> 00:01:51,548 And I literally heard the first line of the mom walking into the room 35 00:01:51,868 --> 00:01:54,618 saying, "Oh, I knew she would do this to get my son away from me." 36 00:01:54,985 --> 00:01:56,922 And from there, it just kind of blossomed. 37 00:01:56,952 --> 00:02:00,535 At that point, I had no idea it was gonna be as long as it was, and I just 38 00:02:00,535 --> 00:02:03,445 kept kind of adding more and more to it. 39 00:02:03,778 --> 00:02:06,845 this was the first skit that was longer. 40 00:02:06,845 --> 00:02:10,400 I think at that point, my longest one was maybe four parts with 41 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:11,870 not, like, a real storyline. 42 00:02:11,870 --> 00:02:14,020 I kinda just did, like, goofy things. 43 00:02:14,196 --> 00:02:16,024 This one went so long. 44 00:02:16,034 --> 00:02:17,964 The first season was 16 parts. 45 00:02:18,266 --> 00:02:20,684 I did a second season that was 16 parts. 46 00:02:20,744 --> 00:02:25,897 then I did a third season while writing this book that was too much. 47 00:02:25,897 --> 00:02:27,087 I don't recommend it to anybody. 48 00:02:27,327 --> 00:02:30,247 but season three, I think I did a little bit shorter, and 49 00:02:30,247 --> 00:02:31,357 then I also did a prequel. 50 00:02:31,703 --> 00:02:35,947 So if you're just getting into the Ferris and Sloane era or series, 51 00:02:36,170 --> 00:02:37,680 there's a lot you can get into. 52 00:02:38,059 --> 00:02:39,850 I've always told people, go back. 53 00:02:39,890 --> 00:02:43,670 If you're gonna watch it, watch season one, two, then three, 54 00:02:43,766 --> 00:02:45,340 then go back to the prequel. 55 00:02:45,784 --> 00:02:50,875 book one that I wrote, Here Comes the Drama, basically covers season one, 56 00:02:50,875 --> 00:02:54,341 but like this review says, it adds a lot more background that that you 57 00:02:54,341 --> 00:02:56,241 can't see in these one-person skits. 58 00:02:56,509 --> 00:03:01,364 It adds a lot more character development, character detail, descriptions, 59 00:03:01,404 --> 00:03:02,584 and then a lot more dialogue. 60 00:03:02,584 --> 00:03:06,368 And then of course, I changed certain things that happened because when I was 61 00:03:06,368 --> 00:03:10,768 creating these skits, especially then, I was just thinking as I went, right? 62 00:03:11,079 --> 00:03:15,208 I'd kinda have an idea of what was gonna happen, but ultimately I'd pick 63 00:03:15,208 --> 00:03:17,218 up the phone and just saw what came out. 64 00:03:17,546 --> 00:03:20,591 Also at that time, I was not planning very well. 65 00:03:20,869 --> 00:03:24,981 So I would just have all of the accessories in front of me, and 66 00:03:24,981 --> 00:03:29,681 I would basically just I don't know, like pick them up one by one. 67 00:03:29,709 --> 00:03:33,368 I'd be like, "Okay, Jenny. Okay, Faris. Okay, Mom," you know? 68 00:03:33,368 --> 00:03:34,798 And just kind of running through all of it. 69 00:03:34,808 --> 00:03:36,278 So it was a wild time. 70 00:03:36,511 --> 00:03:39,841 now I happy to say I actually script everything out ahead of time, 71 00:03:40,217 --> 00:03:42,967 and so that way I can have, like, outfits for each character, and I 72 00:03:42,997 --> 00:03:44,537 feel like it's a lot more smooth. 73 00:03:44,914 --> 00:03:46,011 but it was a process. 74 00:03:46,041 --> 00:03:51,197 My goal has always been to write a book, so it was just… The timing was amazing. 75 00:03:51,277 --> 00:03:55,837 Everyone was just so excited and interested in this, storyline and 76 00:03:55,847 --> 00:04:00,827 these characters that I was just so overjoyed to be able to do this, 77 00:04:00,827 --> 00:04:02,157 and it was just such an honor. 78 00:04:02,157 --> 00:04:04,791 So Here Comes the Drama: The Faris and Sloane Story, now 79 00:04:04,791 --> 00:04:06,071 officially been out for a year. 80 00:04:06,419 --> 00:04:11,034 Book number two, just a little update for those interested, book number two is going 81 00:04:11,034 --> 00:04:14,244 to be called Drama Ever After as of now. 82 00:04:14,651 --> 00:04:20,544 and it mostly follows season two, but again, there's a lot of extra stuff 83 00:04:20,544 --> 00:04:22,164 that you never saw in the skits. 84 00:04:22,484 --> 00:04:26,411 because when I take it back and write it all through, I reread through 85 00:04:26,411 --> 00:04:29,569 everything so many times and I'm like, "Wait, that doesn't make sense. 86 00:04:29,569 --> 00:04:31,027 I don't like the name for this person. 87 00:04:31,349 --> 00:04:32,547 I don't think they should live there. 88 00:04:32,567 --> 00:04:35,607 I don't think they should wear this." You know, that kind of thing. 89 00:04:35,607 --> 00:04:40,283 So, a lot of updates as I kind of go back through everything so 90 00:04:40,293 --> 00:04:42,313 book number two has been written. 91 00:04:42,572 --> 00:04:44,463 We're kind of in the editing phase. 92 00:04:44,493 --> 00:04:48,323 We already did one round of developmental edits with my, literary 93 00:04:48,323 --> 00:04:52,663 agent, and then I just sent the next edits a couple months ago. 94 00:04:52,663 --> 00:04:57,140 So hoping to hear back soon if there's some more edits we need or what 95 00:04:57,140 --> 00:04:58,780 kind of the next process would be. 96 00:04:59,092 --> 00:05:01,226 Really excited for that, and I'll stop blabbing. 97 00:05:01,246 --> 00:05:04,403 But it just kind of took me for a loop when I was like, "Oh my gosh, 98 00:05:04,403 --> 00:05:08,376 it's been a year since it's been out." It feels like so much and so 99 00:05:08,376 --> 00:05:12,546 much time and so little time, all at the same time, if that makes sense. 100 00:05:12,911 --> 00:05:14,256 Okay, let's get into it. 101 00:05:14,594 --> 00:05:18,403 So starting off today, when I do solo episodes, I really 102 00:05:18,403 --> 00:05:19,883 try to find good dilemmas. 103 00:05:20,220 --> 00:05:22,338 so this is called Wedding Dilemma section. 104 00:05:22,608 --> 00:05:25,848 if you have a wedding dilemma you would like me to address or ask the 105 00:05:25,888 --> 00:05:28,208 audience, please send it to me directly. 106 00:05:28,208 --> 00:05:30,218 You can email me, hello@christainnis.com. 107 00:05:30,908 --> 00:05:32,518 You can DM me on social media. 108 00:05:32,858 --> 00:05:35,308 And these are usually shorter little stories where you're 109 00:05:35,308 --> 00:05:37,468 looking for some real-life advice. 110 00:05:37,788 --> 00:05:40,125 so here's one that I came across today. 111 00:05:40,425 --> 00:05:44,329 Okay, it says, " My husband and I have been married for 10 years now. 112 00:05:44,587 --> 00:05:47,045 Before our wedding, we made the decision to get married 113 00:05:47,045 --> 00:05:49,025 privately with just the two of us. 114 00:05:49,344 --> 00:05:53,632 Afterward, we threw a celebration with all of our friends and family because at the 115 00:05:53,632 --> 00:05:57,692 end of the day, we felt our wedding was about us and our commitment to each other. 116 00:05:58,102 --> 00:06:01,829 My family was incredibly happy for us and completely supportive. 117 00:06:02,165 --> 00:06:06,435 My husband, however, is one of eight siblings, and several of 118 00:06:06,435 --> 00:06:09,205 them, let's just say, are entitled. 119 00:06:09,545 --> 00:06:13,755 They felt the need to call him and tell him he was selfish" Oh my gosh, 120 00:06:13,755 --> 00:06:18,445 okay. " Selfish and wrong for not including them in our actual wedding 121 00:06:18,445 --> 00:06:23,582 ceremony even though every single one of them was invited to the celebration 122 00:06:23,622 --> 00:06:26,656 afterward." Then came the party itself. 123 00:06:27,039 --> 00:06:32,103 Out of all eight siblings, only one gave us as much as a card. 124 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:36,503 One sibling showed up alone because his family didn't want to spend the 125 00:06:36,503 --> 00:06:38,613 money since we were already married. 126 00:06:38,967 --> 00:06:42,266 Others acted like the celebration didn't matter because they hadn't 127 00:06:42,296 --> 00:06:44,006 witnessed the ceremony itself. 128 00:06:44,290 --> 00:06:48,876 I won't lie, it hurt, not because we regretted our decision, but because the 129 00:06:48,876 --> 00:06:53,403 people who claimed they were so upset about being excluded didn't seem to 130 00:06:53,403 --> 00:06:55,713 care once they were actually included. 131 00:06:56,097 --> 00:07:00,399 It's taken me a long time to make peace with it, but here we are, 10 132 00:07:00,399 --> 00:07:05,209 years later, happier than ever, and planning to renew our vows this spring. 133 00:07:05,644 --> 00:07:07,886 So I have a question for your viewers. 134 00:07:08,247 --> 00:07:11,629 Do we invite his family this time around? 135 00:07:12,067 --> 00:07:14,496 Ooh, okay, a lot going on here. 136 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:18,713 My immediate response, and I'm gonna talk myself through this, and I wanna hear 137 00:07:18,713 --> 00:07:19,963 what you guys have to say, of course. 138 00:07:20,307 --> 00:07:21,799 my immediate response is no. 139 00:07:22,307 --> 00:07:26,156 Because, one, we're hearing that they are extremely entitled. 140 00:07:26,580 --> 00:07:30,823 Because you didn't invite them the way they wanted to be invited, they took 141 00:07:30,823 --> 00:07:33,076 that as you don't wanna include us. 142 00:07:33,587 --> 00:07:36,066 But it's not like anybody else was a part of that. 143 00:07:36,076 --> 00:07:40,606 Like you said, it was very important to have that moment alone with just you and 144 00:07:40,606 --> 00:07:43,953 your husband to show your commitment to each other, and I think that's beautiful. 145 00:07:44,169 --> 00:07:45,496 I love that you guys did that. 146 00:07:45,496 --> 00:07:49,289 I think that's so powerful, and you said, "We want this moment alone together." 147 00:07:49,659 --> 00:07:55,761 The fact that none of them… So they came… Wait, out of all eight siblings, 148 00:07:55,831 --> 00:07:59,341 so one gave a card, one came alone, 'cause they didn't wanna bring the 149 00:07:59,341 --> 00:08:01,674 family because you're already married. 150 00:08:02,020 --> 00:08:04,164 It doesn't say anything about the other siblings. 151 00:08:04,494 --> 00:08:09,348 I don't know if I can assume all the other ones came, but they didn't send a card 152 00:08:09,348 --> 00:08:11,488 or anything, or did none of them come? 153 00:08:12,018 --> 00:08:12,468 let's see 154 00:08:12,906 --> 00:08:17,310 Out of all eight, only one gave us a card, one showed up alone. 155 00:08:17,744 --> 00:08:19,956 Others just acted like it didn't matter. 156 00:08:20,167 --> 00:08:23,586 So I don't know if acting like it didn't matter mean they didn't show up, or 157 00:08:23,586 --> 00:08:26,985 when they came, they were kinda just like whatever about it, which to me, 158 00:08:26,985 --> 00:08:28,595 that's kinda icky in itself, right? 159 00:08:28,595 --> 00:08:30,735 they're gonna come by and just be like, "Well, you're already married, 160 00:08:30,735 --> 00:08:33,675 so whatever, it doesn't matter." If they showed up, that's a little 161 00:08:33,715 --> 00:08:37,348 different for my response, like they showed up, But what do they say? 162 00:08:37,388 --> 00:08:39,715 it's not about what people said, it's about how they made you feel. 163 00:08:40,110 --> 00:08:43,525 So if they came, and they kinda just made you feel like, " Okay, well at 164 00:08:43,525 --> 00:08:46,915 least we came to this, but you didn't include us, and we're mad now, and 165 00:08:47,070 --> 00:08:50,542 we're gonna make you feel bad for not inviting us," that's one thing. 166 00:08:50,902 --> 00:08:54,058 I also want you to think about how the last 10 years been with them. 167 00:08:54,570 --> 00:08:55,568 Do you guys see each other? 168 00:08:55,578 --> 00:08:57,368 Do you guys make an effort to see each other? 169 00:08:57,617 --> 00:08:59,388 How does your husband feel about everything? 170 00:08:59,398 --> 00:09:03,702 Does he still talk to them, or is there kind of a weird rift ever since then? 171 00:09:04,042 --> 00:09:07,127 there's a lot of factors include, I can't just say yes or no. 172 00:09:07,467 --> 00:09:09,867 do we invite his family this time around? 173 00:09:10,349 --> 00:09:15,959 My gut, because you're asking it, do we invite it, it makes me think that you 174 00:09:15,959 --> 00:09:20,226 and your husband are already on the edge of like, " No, they don't support us. 175 00:09:20,266 --> 00:09:24,090 They were weird at our initial, wedding celebration." And also, 176 00:09:24,090 --> 00:09:25,350 can we just pause for a second? 177 00:09:25,350 --> 00:09:29,462 Why are people so, like, entitled to other people's weddings? 178 00:09:29,552 --> 00:09:31,082 Like, here's the thing. 179 00:09:31,465 --> 00:09:34,212 Many times when you actually go to someone's wedding, they're not 180 00:09:34,212 --> 00:09:36,272 actually legally married at that point. 181 00:09:36,709 --> 00:09:37,702 Does that bother you? 182 00:09:38,252 --> 00:09:41,332 Someone I talked to once, she said they didn't even, like, have the 183 00:09:41,332 --> 00:09:44,349 paperwork filled out, and some people made comments about it. 184 00:09:44,359 --> 00:09:47,615 They're like, "Well, it's not even a real wedding." And she's like, " Okay, 185 00:09:47,615 --> 00:09:51,065 but you wouldn't be there when we're signing the paperwork anyway," right? 186 00:09:51,065 --> 00:09:54,639 There's a witness later on that's usually with the maid of honor, best man, so 187 00:09:54,685 --> 00:09:56,045 you're not really there to see it. 188 00:09:56,502 --> 00:09:58,515 So I think that's very odd in itself. 189 00:09:58,915 --> 00:09:59,665 So here's my thing. 190 00:09:59,665 --> 00:10:03,585 If the other siblings didn't show up, they were rude, and then over the last 191 00:10:03,585 --> 00:10:07,695 10 years they've made comments, they don't show up to things for you and your 192 00:10:07,695 --> 00:10:11,855 husband, maybe kids' birthdays or things, then I would say maybe don't invite them. 193 00:10:11,865 --> 00:10:15,912 Maybe just invite a close group of friends or people that you can really rely on. 194 00:10:16,236 --> 00:10:21,242 If in the last 10 years you have kinda made amends, you still think 195 00:10:21,252 --> 00:10:24,066 about that day, but you're like, "Okay, we've moved, past this. 196 00:10:24,432 --> 00:10:26,536 My husband's still really close with his siblings. 197 00:10:26,859 --> 00:10:28,732 we've gotten together for holidays. 198 00:10:29,096 --> 00:10:30,552 We're happy in our marriage. 199 00:10:30,562 --> 00:10:34,899 We want to show that to everybody and celebrate," I would say invite them. 200 00:10:35,329 --> 00:10:39,026 So I know it's not just a yes or no, but think about also how many people. 201 00:10:39,156 --> 00:10:41,936 If you're like, "Okay, we only want to invite 20 people," 202 00:10:42,326 --> 00:10:43,306 how's that number looking? 203 00:10:43,545 --> 00:10:46,801 With eight siblings and their significant others, their 204 00:10:46,811 --> 00:10:49,151 kids, that adds up very fast. 205 00:10:49,469 --> 00:10:51,459 so think about how that's gonna fit into numbers. 206 00:10:51,806 --> 00:10:56,826 Is this going to make a bigger, gap in the family dynamic? 207 00:10:57,172 --> 00:10:59,042 Would your husband be upset by that? 208 00:10:59,362 --> 00:11:02,796 So there's a lot of things to kinda think about, and maybe you can give me 209 00:11:02,796 --> 00:11:07,179 a follow-up, too, as well to kind of understand, like, what exactly happened. 210 00:11:07,496 --> 00:11:08,139 it's hard. 211 00:11:08,149 --> 00:11:11,802 It's hard, and it's very complex because of, yes, the 212 00:11:11,802 --> 00:11:13,322 siblings did act very entitled. 213 00:11:13,761 --> 00:11:15,044 I'm a little stumped by this one. 214 00:11:15,396 --> 00:11:18,821 I would ask yourself all these questions and be like, "Okay, what are we looking 215 00:11:18,821 --> 00:11:22,451 for? If they come, are they going to make comments that's gonna make me 216 00:11:22,451 --> 00:11:27,641 uncomfortable? Am I still uncomfortable by them?" Because if you are, and if 217 00:11:27,641 --> 00:11:32,031 your husband and you still kind of feel icky about that day and don't see them 218 00:11:32,031 --> 00:11:33,861 a lot, I would say do not invite them. 219 00:11:34,266 --> 00:11:40,595 So based on what I see in front of me, and the fact that you're asking, " Do 220 00:11:40,595 --> 00:11:46,435 we invite his family?" I'm gonna say no if it's not a great relationship 221 00:11:47,059 --> 00:11:51,611 To me, someone that was entitled to or felt like they were entitled to 222 00:11:51,611 --> 00:11:56,694 see the full wedding ceremony and the after party doesn't matter, they're not 223 00:11:56,694 --> 00:11:59,447 gonna feel like vow renewals matter. 224 00:11:59,732 --> 00:12:03,507 They might roll their eyes, they might come late, they might come 225 00:12:03,507 --> 00:12:06,317 and just make comments about like, "Oh, I had to take off work," 226 00:12:06,317 --> 00:12:08,671 or, just make comments about it. 227 00:12:09,042 --> 00:12:14,121 So if you feel deep down that it's going to take away from the celebration and 228 00:12:14,121 --> 00:12:19,177 take away from the day and kind of make you feel hurt again, I would say no. 229 00:12:19,612 --> 00:12:20,817 I would say leave them out. 230 00:12:21,201 --> 00:12:22,877 so there's a lot to consider here. 231 00:12:23,195 --> 00:12:26,391 I wanna throw this off to my audience as well, so if you guys have something 232 00:12:26,391 --> 00:12:30,621 to say, please comment on social media or YouTube and let us know what you 233 00:12:30,621 --> 00:12:32,211 guys have to say about the situation. 234 00:12:32,555 --> 00:12:38,137 And to this person, if you have more to add, please send it to me, like some more 235 00:12:38,137 --> 00:12:41,780 details that we kinda talked about, and I can comment as well, like oh, from the 236 00:12:41,780 --> 00:12:43,600 person, if you wanna do it anonymously. 237 00:12:43,905 --> 00:12:44,296 All right. 238 00:12:44,296 --> 00:12:45,036 Thanks for sending it in. 239 00:12:45,206 --> 00:12:48,456 again, as I've said, if you guys have your own wedding dilemma that you 240 00:12:48,456 --> 00:12:51,386 want me to push out to the audience, you want me to answer myself, 241 00:12:51,681 --> 00:12:56,210 email me, hello@christainnis.com or you can DM me on the socials. 242 00:12:56,615 --> 00:12:59,440 Okay, let's get into some hot takes. 243 00:12:59,865 --> 00:13:00,313 Here we go. 244 00:13:00,898 --> 00:13:03,200 Guest experience hot takes. 245 00:13:03,561 --> 00:13:09,386 If your wedding requires a flight and hotel, you should not expect a gift. 246 00:13:09,893 --> 00:13:12,613 Oh, one more thing I wanna say about this dilemma. 247 00:13:12,989 --> 00:13:17,263 I don't think the gift or card thing should be part of the issue. 248 00:13:17,686 --> 00:13:20,200 again, I don't know anything about travel, if they had to travel to 249 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:21,700 get to you, take time off work. 250 00:13:22,113 --> 00:13:24,753 The gift thing shouldn't be it, but I think it was already just kinda like 251 00:13:24,753 --> 00:13:26,473 stinging because of how they acted. 252 00:13:26,683 --> 00:13:27,713 Anyway, back to this. 253 00:13:27,753 --> 00:13:28,103 Okay 254 00:13:28,506 --> 00:13:32,376 If your wedding requires a flight and a hotel, you should not expect a 255 00:13:32,376 --> 00:13:36,153 gift I know a lot of people are gonna disagree with me, but I agree with this. 256 00:13:36,546 --> 00:13:39,799 I had this wedding etiquette expert on here, and she talked 257 00:13:39,809 --> 00:13:43,856 about how you shouldn't show up empty-handed to any kind of event. 258 00:13:44,269 --> 00:13:46,669 But that doesn't mean you need to spend a ton of money. 259 00:13:46,979 --> 00:13:48,479 Think about your budget ahead of time. 260 00:13:48,549 --> 00:13:52,733 Like, let's say for all wedding events, you can spend $200. 261 00:13:53,096 --> 00:13:56,886 That means 50 here, 50 here, 100 here, right? 262 00:13:57,229 --> 00:14:01,519 So if you're spending a flight and a hotel, you should not have 263 00:14:01,519 --> 00:14:02,839 to buy a real expensive gift. 264 00:14:02,879 --> 00:14:04,339 I really don't think you should. 265 00:14:04,633 --> 00:14:05,736 But bring a card. 266 00:14:06,086 --> 00:14:10,519 maybe it's a card and then a gift card to their favorite restaurant, or maybe 267 00:14:10,529 --> 00:14:12,519 it's a card and a bottle of wine. 268 00:14:12,860 --> 00:14:15,926 So you can get a bottle of wine for $10. 269 00:14:15,926 --> 00:14:18,926 You can get a bottle of wine for $50 and probably more. 270 00:14:19,102 --> 00:14:21,202 Not that I would know, because I don't buy expensive wine. 271 00:14:21,631 --> 00:14:25,632 but just something nice to show, like, "Thank you for inviting me and bringing 272 00:14:25,632 --> 00:14:30,606 me here." But again, for my own wedding, people that traveled in, I did not 273 00:14:30,606 --> 00:14:33,506 even expect them to get me a gift. 274 00:14:33,516 --> 00:14:39,699 You're paying for a hotel, rental car possibly, a flight, possibly a new outfit. 275 00:14:39,709 --> 00:14:42,289 Like, that takes a lot, taking time off work. 276 00:14:42,677 --> 00:14:46,547 so no, I did not expect a gift from all these people that traveled in. 277 00:14:46,897 --> 00:14:50,677 Guests care more about food and timing than your decor. 278 00:14:51,061 --> 00:14:52,417 I 100% agree. 279 00:14:52,467 --> 00:14:57,817 I know me as a guest, I care way more about the food, drinks, and timing. 280 00:14:58,194 --> 00:14:59,913 I don't wanna be waiting a long time. 281 00:14:59,983 --> 00:15:01,123 I want a good vibe. 282 00:15:01,583 --> 00:15:04,633 I notice decor when I walk in because I've worked in weddings. 283 00:15:04,948 --> 00:15:05,690 I love weddings. 284 00:15:05,710 --> 00:15:11,840 I adore decorations, but your average person is not gonna notice decor. 285 00:15:12,028 --> 00:15:15,190 They're not gonna look back at a wedding and be like, " Wow, that decor." 286 00:15:15,570 --> 00:15:18,200 Some weddings, every once in a while I'm like, I think about a wedding 287 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:19,960 and I'm like, " That was beautiful." 288 00:15:20,210 --> 00:15:23,012 But I, think more about, like, the venue, and I think about, 289 00:15:23,030 --> 00:15:24,340 maybe some little details. 290 00:15:24,576 --> 00:15:30,260 Like, I went to a wedding once, shout out Mandy, where they had a chocolate menu. 291 00:15:30,516 --> 00:15:33,033 The menu was literally made of chocolate, and I'd never seen or 292 00:15:33,033 --> 00:15:35,917 witnessed anything before like that in my life, and I was like, "I 293 00:15:35,917 --> 00:15:38,167 will literally never forget this." 294 00:15:38,456 --> 00:15:42,497 But her and her family are just amazing at detail and everything. 295 00:15:42,966 --> 00:15:46,433 But again, the average person will not care as much about detail. 296 00:15:46,716 --> 00:15:47,147 Okay. 297 00:15:47,503 --> 00:15:52,497 A wedding that runs on time is more impressive than one that looks expensive. 298 00:15:53,006 --> 00:15:56,837 I don't know if impressive is the right word, ' cause there's a lot of things, 299 00:15:56,837 --> 00:15:58,773 like, your guests will never know. 300 00:15:58,933 --> 00:16:02,553 if you're running 15 minutes behind, unless it's the ceremony, everything 301 00:16:02,563 --> 00:16:06,283 else, if you're running five to 10, 15 minutes behind, people will not notice. 302 00:16:06,663 --> 00:16:12,160 Now, where you run into like an hour behind or 45 minutes behind, people 303 00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:13,120 will notice if they're waiting. 304 00:16:13,493 --> 00:16:15,130 but yeah, I, think people like being on time. 305 00:16:15,180 --> 00:16:17,720 I don't know if it's necessarily more impressive or not. 306 00:16:18,139 --> 00:16:21,643 Long gaps between ceremony and reception are worse than having 307 00:16:21,653 --> 00:16:24,044 a short ceremony It depends. 308 00:16:24,094 --> 00:16:27,184 Is there a long gap where there's a cocktail hour and hors 309 00:16:27,184 --> 00:16:29,744 d'oeuvres or, like, snacky foods? 310 00:16:30,045 --> 00:16:31,077 How long is this gap? 311 00:16:31,117 --> 00:16:33,727 I would say no longer than an hour and a half. 312 00:16:34,124 --> 00:16:37,164 that's usually plenty of time to mingle, to hang out. 313 00:16:37,194 --> 00:16:39,494 I love a good gap where you can, like, go see people. 314 00:16:39,757 --> 00:16:42,921 It is kind of awkward when the gap is so short, and you don't actually get to, 315 00:16:42,921 --> 00:16:45,591 like, see people or get to, like, hang out, and it's just, like, one thing to the 316 00:16:45,591 --> 00:16:47,131 other, and it feels very, like, business. 317 00:16:47,131 --> 00:16:48,421 It doesn't feel like a fun event. 318 00:16:48,749 --> 00:16:51,637 So there's a definite, like, happy medium, I would say. 319 00:16:52,055 --> 00:16:55,287 I wouldn't say it's worse than a short ceremony because I don't think 320 00:16:55,287 --> 00:16:56,627 short ceremonies are bad either. 321 00:16:57,015 --> 00:17:00,274 I've been a part of ceremonies that were 10 minutes, and it was perfect. 322 00:17:00,334 --> 00:17:01,654 It was absolutely perfect. 323 00:17:01,974 --> 00:17:05,594 one of the weddings I did last year, she knew exactly what she wanted. 324 00:17:05,594 --> 00:17:08,544 She was like, "We're literally just gonna bas- like, walk out there, get 325 00:17:08,544 --> 00:17:11,717 to our spots, say something, like, very quick. It's gonna be, like, 326 00:17:11,717 --> 00:17:15,857 10 minutes, walk back." That was such a fun wedding to coordinate. 327 00:17:16,331 --> 00:17:18,751 that was not the only part I coordinated, but it was so fun. 328 00:17:18,751 --> 00:17:19,731 She knew what she wanted to do. 329 00:17:19,751 --> 00:17:21,841 It was 10 minutes long, and I had no problem with it. 330 00:17:21,841 --> 00:17:23,082 I thought it was great Okay. 331 00:17:23,403 --> 00:17:26,603 this next category is money and expectations. 332 00:17:26,916 --> 00:17:31,346 The average wedding cost pressure is ruining what weddings are supposed to be. 333 00:17:31,750 --> 00:17:33,896 I 100% agree with that. 334 00:17:34,263 --> 00:17:35,806 I feel like it started with, like, the Pinterest. 335 00:17:35,936 --> 00:17:37,313 Like, and I'm not bashing Pinterest. 336 00:17:37,353 --> 00:17:40,853 I love Pinterest, but you gotta use it in the right way and have the 337 00:17:40,853 --> 00:17:42,683 right, like, blockers on, right? 338 00:17:43,106 --> 00:17:47,283 People see these Pinterest weddings, and they think, This is so doable. 339 00:17:47,501 --> 00:17:51,376 I can do this for $10,000." Like, no, those are, like, usually 75,000 to 340 00:17:51,376 --> 00:17:58,050 $100,000, right? so you can look to kinda get inspiration, but people see 341 00:17:58,050 --> 00:18:01,913 these crazy Pinterest and social media weddings thinking, like, " That's what 342 00:18:01,913 --> 00:18:03,673 I have to do to impress my guests." 343 00:18:03,983 --> 00:18:06,480 And you can do all of it for so much cheaper. 344 00:18:06,736 --> 00:18:08,143 Cut the corners a little bit. 345 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:09,873 Do what's really important to you. 346 00:18:09,883 --> 00:18:11,476 Spend what's important to you. 347 00:18:11,476 --> 00:18:14,246 Like, if food's really important to you, spend more on food. 348 00:18:14,563 --> 00:18:17,913 If, good wine is important to you, spend more on good wine. 349 00:18:18,186 --> 00:18:19,722 If, flowers is more important to you. 350 00:18:19,742 --> 00:18:21,992 Think about what's most important to you and put that top of your 351 00:18:21,992 --> 00:18:23,922 bucket, and don't compare yourself. 352 00:18:23,932 --> 00:18:27,292 that's where people get lost, the comparison of, like, " Oh, I went 353 00:18:27,292 --> 00:18:31,332 to Jenny's wedding, and they were in this ballroom, and there was 354 00:18:31,332 --> 00:18:35,876 a three-course meal, and we had champagne at every table." Just 355 00:18:35,886 --> 00:18:37,706 think about what makes sense for you. 356 00:18:38,046 --> 00:18:39,532 So easy to get lost in it. 357 00:18:39,542 --> 00:18:41,512 So yeah, I think there's a lot of pressure. 358 00:18:41,883 --> 00:18:44,419 Social media, like, I'll be scrolling, and I'm like, "Oh my gosh, this 359 00:18:44,419 --> 00:18:48,656 wedding is beautiful. Oh, I wish I did that." I'm like, "That's so not me. So 360 00:18:48,656 --> 00:18:53,615 unrealistic." open bars are overrated if your crowd isn't big drinkers. 361 00:18:54,185 --> 00:18:54,885 Yeah, I would agree. 362 00:18:54,925 --> 00:18:59,105 I mean, I'm someone where I think an open bar is, like, 363 00:18:59,413 --> 00:19:01,108 pretty standard for weddings. 364 00:19:01,393 --> 00:19:04,968 I've been to some that have been just, like, beer and wine and, some 365 00:19:04,968 --> 00:19:07,038 cocktails, and I think that's fine too. 366 00:19:07,393 --> 00:19:09,711 I don't think you need top-shelf open bar. 367 00:19:10,065 --> 00:19:11,530 but yeah, definitely know your audience. 368 00:19:11,550 --> 00:19:13,867 I think also, what does the couple want? 369 00:19:14,257 --> 00:19:16,327 Are they big drinkers, or do they not drink? 370 00:19:16,693 --> 00:19:19,210 If you don't drink, there's no need for an open bar. 371 00:19:19,590 --> 00:19:22,633 Have just some options if you want, or have a dry bar. 372 00:19:23,153 --> 00:19:23,967 No shame in that. 373 00:19:24,433 --> 00:19:27,503 Spending beyond your means for one day is almost never worth it. 374 00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:29,543 Yeah, I 100% agree with that one. 375 00:19:29,933 --> 00:19:32,700 I've heard some people say they, like, spent crazy amounts of 376 00:19:32,700 --> 00:19:35,990 money, and they, opened up credit cards and- Teach their own. 377 00:19:36,050 --> 00:19:37,850 Teach their own, but I don't recommend it. 378 00:19:38,043 --> 00:19:41,823 you don't wanna start off the first year of your marriage being in 379 00:19:41,823 --> 00:19:44,123 debt and struggling to pay it back. 380 00:19:44,493 --> 00:19:47,525 yes, people will gift you money, but who's to say it's gonna 381 00:19:47,565 --> 00:19:49,749 cover what, what you spent? 382 00:19:50,087 --> 00:19:51,812 Really stick to your budget. 383 00:19:52,054 --> 00:19:56,059 I think it's just so much better walking into a marriage saying like, "Oh, now 384 00:19:56,059 --> 00:19:57,859 we have this extra money in our savings. 385 00:19:57,899 --> 00:20:01,482 We stayed really below budget." I remember saying, like, in my 20s, 386 00:20:01,492 --> 00:20:03,976 like, when I would think about weddings and stuff, I'd be like, "Oh, I wanna 387 00:20:04,036 --> 00:20:05,816 have, like, over 200 people there." 388 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:08,728 And then I guess I got a little bit older and, like, your circle gets a 389 00:20:08,728 --> 00:20:11,378 little bit smaller, and you realize, like, who's really been there for you? 390 00:20:11,728 --> 00:20:13,144 Who do you really wanna see on your wedding day? 391 00:20:13,517 --> 00:20:16,074 I think we ended up inviting, like, 150 maybe. 392 00:20:16,104 --> 00:20:17,524 130 were there. 393 00:20:17,904 --> 00:20:22,721 And I just think it's really important to step back a little bit and, know, see 394 00:20:22,721 --> 00:20:24,271 who's gonna be with you for the long haul. 395 00:20:24,684 --> 00:20:25,061 Okay. 396 00:20:25,387 --> 00:20:26,874 That's all I got for wedding hot takes. 397 00:20:26,874 --> 00:20:29,294 If you have a hot take, send it to me. 398 00:20:29,454 --> 00:20:31,704 I love surveying the audience on these hot takes. 399 00:20:32,091 --> 00:20:33,838 Sometimes I'll, share one, and I'm like, "I didn't really 400 00:20:33,838 --> 00:20:34,831 know that was a hot take." 401 00:20:35,486 --> 00:20:35,516 Okay. 402 00:20:35,966 --> 00:20:37,874 this is a little, like, behind-the-scenes before we get 403 00:20:37,874 --> 00:20:39,224 to this week's story submission. 404 00:20:39,641 --> 00:20:45,108 So on YouTube, I'm starting to do a mini s- uh, not really miniseries. 405 00:20:45,379 --> 00:20:46,168 They're YouTube Shorts. 406 00:20:46,208 --> 00:20:49,545 I'm doing, like, two to three mini… YouTube Shorts every single week now. 407 00:20:49,877 --> 00:20:52,621 They have nothing to do with the storyline that I'm currently working on. 408 00:20:52,877 --> 00:20:55,491 It's just a fun way to share, like, little segments. 409 00:20:55,789 --> 00:21:00,065 so check those out on YouTube Shorts, and then I'm also working on a new series. 410 00:21:00,460 --> 00:21:03,585 I don't wanna spoil too much, 'cause I'm still kinda tweaking it a little 411 00:21:03,585 --> 00:21:08,182 bit, but it's gonna be called, like, Coffee Confessions, and it's gonna be 412 00:21:08,182 --> 00:21:12,012 a new series where there's reoccurring characters from bigger skits. 413 00:21:12,236 --> 00:21:15,399 And again, they'll have nothing to do with the main storyline, but I'm 414 00:21:15,399 --> 00:21:19,449 kinda pulling them out and having them appear in different, fun places. 415 00:21:19,449 --> 00:21:24,459 So that's, again, a little behind the scenes for my, real listeners here. 416 00:21:24,780 --> 00:21:26,279 I'm not gonna post it anywhere else. 417 00:21:26,662 --> 00:21:30,071 no, so these will be mostly on… These will be only on YouTube, my new 418 00:21:30,071 --> 00:21:34,295 YouTube Shorts, and then this, little coffee convos, Coffee Confessions. 419 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:38,420 I thought it'd be a fun way to show, like, the different sides of characters. 420 00:21:38,436 --> 00:21:42,790 Like, if Kate showed up somewhere and was, like, chatting with a stranger, 421 00:21:42,790 --> 00:21:44,590 like, really talking herself up. 422 00:21:44,984 --> 00:21:48,693 so more to come on that, but I just wanted to share a little, little 423 00:21:48,693 --> 00:21:49,933 something I'm working on with you guys. 424 00:21:50,370 --> 00:21:54,829 Okay, let me drink some water and, Get to this week's story submission. 425 00:21:55,483 --> 00:21:55,940 All right. 426 00:21:56,458 --> 00:22:00,681 As a reminder, all of these episodes are… You can listen to them, and 427 00:22:00,681 --> 00:22:02,771 can see the full thing on YouTube. 428 00:22:03,515 --> 00:22:05,735 So obviously, if you're already watching it on YouTube, you know that. 429 00:22:05,745 --> 00:22:08,855 But if you're listening to it, these are also posted on YouTube. 430 00:22:09,205 --> 00:22:13,391 I'm so close to hitting 100,000 followers, which is just wild to think about. 431 00:22:13,798 --> 00:22:17,308 so if you've not yet subscribed on my YouTube, please subscribe there. 432 00:22:17,308 --> 00:22:20,641 I'm gonna be doing a big giveaway when I hit 100,000. 433 00:22:20,661 --> 00:22:24,181 We are about 8,000 subscribers away, so getting there. 434 00:22:24,546 --> 00:22:26,429 Okay, time for this week's story submission. 435 00:22:26,694 --> 00:22:27,192 " Hi, Christa. 436 00:22:27,342 --> 00:22:30,992 I've been listening to and watching your skits and podcasts for quite 437 00:22:30,992 --> 00:22:34,762 some time, and my fiancé surprised me with a copy of your book." 438 00:22:35,026 --> 00:22:36,132 Ooh, Green Flags. 439 00:22:36,192 --> 00:22:37,112 I love that. 440 00:22:37,436 --> 00:22:38,552 " I love them all. 441 00:22:38,829 --> 00:22:41,782 Now it's time for my turn to tell my story. 442 00:22:42,136 --> 00:22:44,949 I'll be sending different parts and writing as I go. 443 00:22:45,329 --> 00:22:49,895 Please feel free to use my story for your podcast or a skit if you would like. 444 00:22:50,212 --> 00:22:54,489 My fiancé Ryan and I," names have been changed, " got engaged around our 445 00:22:54,499 --> 00:22:58,449 11-month anniversary in February of 2026." 446 00:22:58,939 --> 00:23:00,592 This is happening right now. 447 00:23:00,632 --> 00:23:01,112 Okay. 448 00:23:01,516 --> 00:23:05,385 I'm gonna change any other personal details so that no one knows it's them. 449 00:23:05,776 --> 00:23:06,065 Okay. 450 00:23:06,115 --> 00:23:11,102 "We were out on a walk at a park near our home near New York when he took 451 00:23:11,132 --> 00:23:15,232 my hand and led me to a tree where we'd taken our first selfie together. 452 00:23:15,642 --> 00:23:18,079 He got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. 453 00:23:18,416 --> 00:23:22,075 I cried during the proposal and even while saying yes. 454 00:23:22,539 --> 00:23:25,939 Ryan originally planned to propose on our one-year anniversary, 455 00:23:26,197 --> 00:23:27,869 but he couldn't wait any longer. 456 00:23:28,282 --> 00:23:32,816 We announced our engagement on Facebook, called our parents, and celebrated with 457 00:23:32,816 --> 00:23:37,302 dinner at an expensive restaurant thanks to some help from Ryan's coworkers. 458 00:23:37,665 --> 00:23:41,522 While Ryan was planning the proposal, I was going through a difficult time 459 00:23:41,532 --> 00:23:46,792 because I was losing my daytime job at my job…" I'm not gonna say the name. 460 00:23:47,166 --> 00:23:51,233 it's a nurse and chef gear store that also does embroidery. 461 00:23:51,609 --> 00:23:55,713 " My boss had planned to sell everything and switch to an online store. 462 00:23:56,095 --> 00:24:00,623 I wasn't having much luck finding a new job, and it was really stressing me out. 463 00:24:01,025 --> 00:24:03,996 Our engagement helped keep me going while I continued my job 464 00:24:03,996 --> 00:24:08,016 search, went to interviews, and finished my responsibilities at 465 00:24:08,016 --> 00:24:10,189 my job." while she still had it. 466 00:24:10,622 --> 00:24:14,509 About a week after getting engaged, and after a lot of excitement and 467 00:24:14,509 --> 00:24:17,889 encouragement from our families, we finally set our date, and 468 00:24:17,889 --> 00:24:21,059 again, I'm not gonna say the date to give them some privacy. 469 00:24:21,439 --> 00:24:27,005 while we announced the date, my stepmom, Laura, and dad, David, and 470 00:24:27,005 --> 00:24:31,625 later my mom, Michelle, agreed it was the perfect date since it's actually 471 00:24:31,645 --> 00:24:33,815 two days before my 34th birthday. 472 00:24:33,925 --> 00:24:35,145 All names have been changed. 473 00:24:35,539 --> 00:24:39,322 They even said having a wedding that day is actually the best 474 00:24:39,322 --> 00:24:41,142 birthday present ever from Ryan. 475 00:24:41,475 --> 00:24:42,142 I agreed. 476 00:24:42,539 --> 00:24:46,279 It really does feel like the greatest birthday gift, and also a 477 00:24:46,279 --> 00:24:50,649 wonderful anniversary gift for my future in-laws, whose anniversary 478 00:24:50,669 --> 00:24:52,859 is two days before the wedding. 479 00:24:53,275 --> 00:24:56,925 Throughout the first month of wedding planning, there was already some drama 480 00:24:56,935 --> 00:25:01,232 involving my mom, which eventually led to her cutting me out of her life. 481 00:25:01,639 --> 00:25:02,929 Wow, okay. 482 00:25:02,969 --> 00:25:03,689 That's a lot. 483 00:25:04,022 --> 00:25:07,895 For some background, my parents are separated when I was four 484 00:25:07,945 --> 00:25:09,845 and divorced when I was five. 485 00:25:10,122 --> 00:25:13,519 My dad married Laura when I was six, and we didn't get along 486 00:25:13,549 --> 00:25:14,899 until I reached adulthood. 487 00:25:15,229 --> 00:25:18,555 My parents have never gotten along, even after remarrying. 488 00:25:18,952 --> 00:25:23,319 My mom remarried when I was 15, and I got along well with my stepdad, Steve. 489 00:25:23,715 --> 00:25:27,252 There's a lot of people to consider and think about here. 490 00:25:27,659 --> 00:25:32,282 A few years after I moved into my first apartment in 2018, after 491 00:25:32,282 --> 00:25:35,819 my maternal grandma passed away, things started getting rocky 492 00:25:35,819 --> 00:25:37,799 between my mom, Steve, and me. 493 00:25:38,172 --> 00:25:42,349 It happened when I lost my job as a daycare teacher and continued through my 494 00:25:42,349 --> 00:25:45,989 mom's cancer diagnosis in summer of 2022. 495 00:25:46,269 --> 00:25:50,829 Even though I've tried to fix my mistakes, nothing ever seems to be enough for 496 00:25:50,829 --> 00:25:55,945 them, especially when it comes to my jobs and paying back my college loans. 497 00:25:56,262 --> 00:26:00,619 Before moving into my first apartment, I'd also gotten into a fight with my dad, 498 00:26:00,892 --> 00:26:03,585 and we didn't speak for nearly six years. 499 00:26:03,929 --> 00:26:08,472 Thankfully, we're on good terms now again after I reached out in early 2024. 500 00:26:08,472 --> 00:26:10,599 A lot going on here with the parents. 501 00:26:10,599 --> 00:26:14,345 that's a lot to handle Before we even got engaged, my dad and Laura 502 00:26:14,345 --> 00:26:19,175 told us that in October of 2025 that they would help with the wedding. 503 00:26:19,175 --> 00:26:20,345 She's really good with dates here. 504 00:26:20,345 --> 00:26:22,685 I'm trying to, like, picture it all, like, when this all happened. 505 00:26:22,715 --> 00:26:23,065 Okay. 506 00:26:23,572 --> 00:26:24,682 they would help with the wedding. 507 00:26:25,055 --> 00:26:30,865 Then around Christmas 2025, Ryan's cousin had their reception at a rescue fire 508 00:26:30,865 --> 00:26:36,285 hall in another place in New York, and we decided we wanted to use the same venue. 509 00:26:36,585 --> 00:26:39,175 It was beautifully decorated with Christmas trees, fake 510 00:26:39,175 --> 00:26:41,565 snow, and gold and white lights. 511 00:26:41,929 --> 00:26:46,939 Ryan's mom's cousin, we'll call him Mike, owns a catering business and 512 00:26:46,939 --> 00:26:51,425 manages the hall, and luckily, he and my stepmom already knew each other. 513 00:26:51,762 --> 00:26:56,595 in early March, I invited my mom and Steve to come look at the venue with us. 514 00:26:56,892 --> 00:27:00,112 The morning of the appointment, my mom called while I was in 515 00:27:00,112 --> 00:27:01,632 the middle of a phone interview. 516 00:27:01,972 --> 00:27:05,502 When I called her back, she was upset and said she couldn't come 517 00:27:05,709 --> 00:27:07,719 because it would be too awkward. 518 00:27:08,125 --> 00:27:11,545 She was also frustrated about the financial issues we were having, 519 00:27:11,849 --> 00:27:15,132 which had caused some of my paychecks to bounce at the time. 520 00:27:15,422 --> 00:27:18,729 She took that as me not trying hard enough, even though I 521 00:27:18,729 --> 00:27:22,559 was actively job searching and handling things as best as I could. 522 00:27:22,889 --> 00:27:26,409 Situations like that made me feel so overwhelmed that I worried 523 00:27:26,419 --> 00:27:28,159 about my health from the stress. 524 00:27:28,545 --> 00:27:33,859 I told my stepmom that my mom wouldn't be coming, and she would eventually 525 00:27:33,919 --> 00:27:39,075 talk things through and find a way to help keep the peace, even suggesting 526 00:27:39,075 --> 00:27:41,215 separate wedding showers if needed. 527 00:27:41,639 --> 00:27:42,305 I hate that. 528 00:27:42,305 --> 00:27:43,985 Why can't we get along for one day? 529 00:27:43,995 --> 00:27:47,525 Like, I get there's, like, a lot of nuance to different relationships, and 530 00:27:47,769 --> 00:27:51,089 we don't know what happened, but put them on opposite sides of the room. 531 00:27:51,089 --> 00:27:56,485 Believe me, I've been to weddings, showers, bachelorette parties, 532 00:27:56,800 --> 00:28:00,600 many different events where two people hated each other in the 533 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,540 room, and they made it work. 534 00:28:03,027 --> 00:28:03,750 They made it work. 535 00:28:03,750 --> 00:28:07,390 Maybe they went home and talked badly about each other, I don't know, but 536 00:28:07,430 --> 00:28:08,940 they were there, and it was fine. 537 00:28:09,567 --> 00:28:10,920 I think people can do that, right? 538 00:28:11,752 --> 00:28:12,162 Oh gosh. 539 00:28:12,162 --> 00:28:12,562 Okay. 540 00:28:12,864 --> 00:28:16,846 " I felt a little bit better until we got to the wedding venue and I saw 541 00:28:16,846 --> 00:28:19,106 my mom's car already parked there. 542 00:28:19,504 --> 00:28:21,416 None of us expected her to show up." 543 00:28:21,446 --> 00:28:22,096 That's weird. 544 00:28:22,464 --> 00:28:25,879 " Thankfully, everyone was polite and the meeting went smoothly. 545 00:28:26,250 --> 00:28:30,646 Ryan and I decided to book the fire hall for both the ceremony and reception. 546 00:28:30,927 --> 00:28:36,986 After we paid, my mom left right away." Okay, interesting Later 547 00:28:36,986 --> 00:28:40,206 that night, I checked in with her and thanked her for coming. 548 00:28:40,544 --> 00:28:45,056 She replied that she had fun, but that turned out not to be true. 549 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:46,706 I wonder what made her change her mind. 550 00:28:47,277 --> 00:28:52,494 we moved forward with planning the bridal shower and other details, but more drama 551 00:28:52,504 --> 00:28:58,440 hit on March 13th when my mom called me repeatedly during another job interview. 552 00:28:58,784 --> 00:29:03,444 When I finally called her back, she accused us of ruining her 60th 553 00:29:03,464 --> 00:29:06,154 birthday because Ryan's allergies. 554 00:29:06,174 --> 00:29:06,754 What? 555 00:29:08,014 --> 00:29:12,440 She knew he couldn't eat at the restaurant she had chosen. 556 00:29:14,554 --> 00:29:16,710 I'm sorry, what? 557 00:29:16,901 --> 00:29:20,404 And despite trying to find options, nothing was safe for him. 558 00:29:20,650 --> 00:29:24,274 That argument ended with me telling her not to worry about 559 00:29:24,284 --> 00:29:26,524 helping with the wedding anymore. 560 00:29:26,980 --> 00:29:27,270 Okay. 561 00:29:27,694 --> 00:29:30,270 A lot of people have allergies, whether it's like gluten 562 00:29:30,270 --> 00:29:31,977 intolerance, dairy, whatever. 563 00:29:31,987 --> 00:29:32,837 They have allergies. 564 00:29:33,234 --> 00:29:35,337 It's not him ruining, her wedding. 565 00:29:35,488 --> 00:29:38,418 I mean, you guys know this listening, but any sane person knows that. 566 00:29:38,871 --> 00:29:43,141 She can pick a restaurant and he can bring something, or he can, you know… 567 00:29:43,151 --> 00:29:45,361 Maybe they just have a small, birthday. 568 00:29:45,371 --> 00:29:47,657 Like I would never accuse… Like one of my best friends 569 00:29:47,677 --> 00:29:49,387 has a ton of allergies, right? 570 00:29:49,784 --> 00:29:52,890 I would never accuse her of ruining something I wanted to 571 00:29:52,890 --> 00:29:54,370 do because of her allergies. 572 00:29:54,380 --> 00:29:56,420 That's wild, wild behavior. 573 00:29:56,900 --> 00:29:57,430 Okay. 574 00:29:57,793 --> 00:30:01,850 So it led to them not wanting to help with the wedding anymore. 575 00:30:02,070 --> 00:30:04,953 The next day, things escalated even further. 576 00:30:05,233 --> 00:30:11,523 She called again demanding money and accused me of killing her financially. 577 00:30:11,803 --> 00:30:14,440 So what is this about the finances? 578 00:30:14,450 --> 00:30:20,107 So the mom's struggling, the person writing in, the bride is losing her job. 579 00:30:20,433 --> 00:30:22,373 But where's the gap here? 580 00:30:22,730 --> 00:30:24,527 Does she owe the mom money? 581 00:30:24,843 --> 00:30:28,367 Does the mom think the daughter owes her money for something? 582 00:30:28,730 --> 00:30:30,523 That's what I'm kinda missing here. 583 00:30:30,787 --> 00:30:35,267 It doesn't say why the mom's wanting money from her. 584 00:30:35,267 --> 00:30:38,393 I don't know if there's some, like IOU thing or what's going on. 585 00:30:38,850 --> 00:30:40,510 She insisted we meet. 586 00:30:40,830 --> 00:30:42,113 Then I got into her car. 587 00:30:42,450 --> 00:30:44,223 She began to yell at me. 588 00:30:44,630 --> 00:30:48,660 When I tried to leave, she refused to let me out until I 589 00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:50,070 threatened to call the police. 590 00:30:50,423 --> 00:30:51,470 Okay, this is toxic. 591 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:54,490 Yeah, I would not be inviting this person to my wedding or having them 592 00:30:54,490 --> 00:30:56,960 anywhere near me, especially your mom. 593 00:30:57,030 --> 00:31:03,614 Okay She threw my ID at me, called me names, and told me to have a nice life. 594 00:31:03,714 --> 00:31:04,704 Okay, done. 595 00:31:04,764 --> 00:31:05,514 I don't know what that is. 596 00:31:05,604 --> 00:31:05,874 Done. 597 00:31:06,424 --> 00:31:07,034 That's what I meant to do. 598 00:31:07,854 --> 00:31:08,694 Done, done. 599 00:31:09,144 --> 00:31:10,998 again, I don't know the backstory here. 600 00:31:10,998 --> 00:31:13,915 I feel like there's a little gap, something's missing, something 601 00:31:13,915 --> 00:31:15,005 between you and your mom. 602 00:31:15,015 --> 00:31:18,091 I know you said something started a while back, but I'm not sure where the 603 00:31:18,091 --> 00:31:21,611 finances are coming into it, if she felt like you owed her for something, 604 00:31:21,871 --> 00:31:23,776 she was never paid back for something. 605 00:31:24,123 --> 00:31:25,558 Do you agree that you owe her something? 606 00:31:25,889 --> 00:31:29,022 Is she now mad seeing that you guys are putting money into a wedding 607 00:31:29,022 --> 00:31:30,232 when you still owe her money? 608 00:31:30,352 --> 00:31:31,232 I don't know what that is. 609 00:31:31,589 --> 00:31:35,898 It just says she's frustrated about financial issues we were having. 610 00:31:36,242 --> 00:31:38,084 so I'm a little confused by that. 611 00:31:38,306 --> 00:31:40,324 Okay, maybe we're gonna get a follow-up on that. 612 00:31:40,721 --> 00:31:41,170 okay. 613 00:31:41,416 --> 00:31:45,166 After that, Ryan and I made the decision to not invite her or my stepdad. 614 00:31:45,462 --> 00:31:49,203 It was incredibly difficult, but Ryan stood by me through everything. 615 00:31:49,702 --> 00:31:52,096 See, here's where I would be a little apprehensive now. 616 00:31:52,309 --> 00:31:54,546 I agree with not inviting her because anyone that acts like 617 00:31:54,546 --> 00:31:57,536 that, this toxic behavior, you don't know what they're gonna do. 618 00:31:57,703 --> 00:32:00,883 you're gonna need security, ' cause she knows where you're getting married now. 619 00:32:01,180 --> 00:32:04,060 and I'm glad I took out… 'Cause when this person sent me all these 620 00:32:04,060 --> 00:32:06,830 details, like she put in like the city, she put in where they're getting 621 00:32:06,830 --> 00:32:07,710 married, when they're getting married. 622 00:32:08,039 --> 00:32:10,020 I'm like, I'm gonna take out all these details. 623 00:32:10,390 --> 00:32:16,057 but it sounds like the mom was there, so I would get some kind of security to make 624 00:32:16,057 --> 00:32:20,727 sure she doesn't show up, 'cause the fact that at the venue walkthrough she said, 625 00:32:21,026 --> 00:32:24,090 " I'm not coming," and called you that morning freaking out, but then was there 626 00:32:24,090 --> 00:32:28,547 early before everybody else and seemed fine, she has the potential to maybe 627 00:32:28,547 --> 00:32:32,203 show up at a wedding she's not invited to it says, "My dad and Laura apologized 628 00:32:32,213 --> 00:32:35,493 for what I went through and encouraged me to focus on the wedding instead. 629 00:32:35,869 --> 00:32:39,213 I picked up more hours at work, we adjusted financially, 630 00:32:39,476 --> 00:32:40,613 and we kept planning. 631 00:32:40,986 --> 00:32:45,253 We also tried to plan an engagement party, but ended up canceling due 632 00:32:45,253 --> 00:32:48,956 to schedule conflicts." Okay, I do not wanna come off judgy here. 633 00:32:49,319 --> 00:32:52,050 I need to know more about this financial issue. 634 00:32:52,329 --> 00:32:53,480 Is it with the mom? 635 00:32:53,749 --> 00:32:56,023 Are you and your husband having financial issues? 636 00:32:56,286 --> 00:32:57,903 Is she taking some of the burden? 637 00:32:57,973 --> 00:33:00,193 Where's this financial, like, stress coming from? 638 00:33:00,603 --> 00:33:04,366 I would say if you guys, again, and I'm not a financial coach, don't 639 00:33:04,366 --> 00:33:08,703 take financial advice from me, I'm just curious about if there's 640 00:33:08,713 --> 00:33:13,816 stress with finances or debt, there seems to be a lot of extra costs. 641 00:33:13,836 --> 00:33:15,636 I'm trying to say this in the nicest way ever. 642 00:33:15,636 --> 00:33:17,830 It seems like we're planning a wedding, paying for a venue. 643 00:33:18,113 --> 00:33:19,726 Is that money coming from somewhere else? 644 00:33:19,726 --> 00:33:21,952 Is that your money or, fiancé's money? 645 00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:23,952 And then don't plan these extra things, right? 646 00:33:23,952 --> 00:33:26,792 Engagement party, not needed, not needed. 647 00:33:27,032 --> 00:33:29,702 The only time I think they're really fun is, like, if they propose, like, 648 00:33:29,702 --> 00:33:32,092 that day and then you guys do some, like, fun little shindig together. 649 00:33:32,491 --> 00:33:35,219 But to plan these elaborate engagement parties, it's not needed. 650 00:33:35,394 --> 00:33:37,856 it's such a money suck, an extra cost. 651 00:33:38,137 --> 00:33:39,406 If you can afford it, great. 652 00:33:39,637 --> 00:33:42,296 If there was already some financial stress and, like, that's 653 00:33:42,306 --> 00:33:44,542 pulling people away, it's okay. 654 00:33:44,552 --> 00:33:45,472 It's okay to hold off. 655 00:33:45,781 --> 00:33:46,152 Okay. 656 00:33:46,252 --> 00:33:49,362 "On top of everything, we were dealing with the loss of a family 657 00:33:49,362 --> 00:33:53,742 member, friends facing job struggles, and uncertainty about who would 658 00:33:53,742 --> 00:33:55,502 even be able to attend the wedding. 659 00:33:55,814 --> 00:33:57,866 It felt like one thing after another. 660 00:33:58,241 --> 00:34:00,692 Despite all this, we are still moving forward. 661 00:34:00,971 --> 00:34:04,359 Planning has slowed down, but we're focusing on what matters 662 00:34:04,359 --> 00:34:06,809 most and doing the best we can. 663 00:34:07,147 --> 00:34:08,659 That's part one of my story. 664 00:34:08,789 --> 00:34:12,056 With everything that's happened so far, I'd really appreciate 665 00:34:12,096 --> 00:34:13,286 any advice you might have." 666 00:34:13,296 --> 00:34:13,646 Okay. 667 00:34:13,686 --> 00:34:17,456 So I know I've kinda stopped along the way and shared my advice as it kinda comes up. 668 00:34:17,855 --> 00:34:19,106 There's a lot going on here. 669 00:34:19,445 --> 00:34:22,162 I think you guys are made a really smart choice of not 670 00:34:22,172 --> 00:34:23,372 allowing your mom at the wedding. 671 00:34:23,372 --> 00:34:26,546 I think it sounds like you and her already had some issues, and it's toxic. 672 00:34:26,556 --> 00:34:29,752 At this point, her screaming at you, throwing things at you, telling you 673 00:34:29,752 --> 00:34:33,212 to have a nice life, she's either serious or she's trying to test 674 00:34:33,232 --> 00:34:34,612 and see what she can get away with. 675 00:34:34,866 --> 00:34:35,356 that's good. 676 00:34:35,521 --> 00:34:37,562 keep that distant, I think. 677 00:34:37,844 --> 00:34:40,492 as for everything else, I'm not really sure, again, where 678 00:34:40,512 --> 00:34:41,742 there seems to be a gap here. 679 00:34:41,742 --> 00:34:42,742 Something is missing. 680 00:34:42,752 --> 00:34:46,462 I don't know where the financial issues are coming from, where 681 00:34:46,462 --> 00:34:49,072 the mom keeps bringing up, we're having financial issues. 682 00:34:49,086 --> 00:34:51,809 The job thing as well, I'm not really sure. 683 00:34:51,809 --> 00:34:54,939 It sounds like you're still able to work a little bit before the 684 00:34:54,939 --> 00:34:56,789 job completely moves online. 685 00:34:57,153 --> 00:35:00,111 So I would just, keep doing what you're doing with focusing on that. 686 00:35:00,412 --> 00:35:02,135 It sounds like there's a lot of parties here. 687 00:35:02,175 --> 00:35:05,125 You guys are doing a good job of sticking together. 688 00:35:05,135 --> 00:35:08,075 It sounds like your husband or your soon-to-be husband is by 689 00:35:08,075 --> 00:35:11,231 your side in every decision you make, which is what you need. 690 00:35:11,619 --> 00:35:14,238 I'm hoping you don't have a part two with more other stories. 691 00:35:14,542 --> 00:35:20,141 It sounds like you are anticipating more stories, more things to happen. 692 00:35:20,469 --> 00:35:21,348 I hope not. 693 00:35:21,602 --> 00:35:25,825 But again, I would really encourage you to look into some kind of 694 00:35:26,105 --> 00:35:29,551 security for your wedding, just to make sure mom doesn't show up. 695 00:35:29,561 --> 00:35:32,081 Because it sounds like she knows what the venue is, she knows the 696 00:35:32,081 --> 00:35:34,948 date, she knows all the details. 697 00:35:34,948 --> 00:35:38,914 so making sure you are limiting your, her access to you. 698 00:35:39,314 --> 00:35:41,674 yeah, that's what I would say about that. 699 00:35:41,684 --> 00:35:44,064 Again, you guys listening, tell me what you guys think. 700 00:35:44,415 --> 00:35:45,991 I think there is a lot missing here. 701 00:35:46,001 --> 00:35:47,991 I think we could get a little bit more out of here. 702 00:35:48,405 --> 00:35:49,247 Just trying to make sure. 703 00:35:49,529 --> 00:35:52,264 I know people, sometimes you guys listen it back through and you'll be like, "Oh, 704 00:35:52,264 --> 00:35:56,089 you missed this. oh, she said this." when I read it through the first time 705 00:35:56,502 --> 00:35:58,722 live, I, sometimes I miss some things. 706 00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:04,912 So it sounds to me when I'm reading it through that your mom is maybe 707 00:36:04,982 --> 00:36:10,055 stressed about you not having money or a job coming in, and then 708 00:36:10,085 --> 00:36:11,979 there's some kind of other, thing. 709 00:36:12,403 --> 00:36:12,885 Okay. 710 00:36:13,240 --> 00:36:13,475 Wait. 711 00:36:13,505 --> 00:36:15,265 I'm finding it as I'm kinda going back here. 712 00:36:15,265 --> 00:36:15,495 Okay. 713 00:36:15,495 --> 00:36:19,049 So it says, Even though I fix my mistakes, nothing ever seems to be enough for 714 00:36:19,049 --> 00:36:23,749 them, especially when it comes to my jobs and paying back my college loans. 715 00:36:24,135 --> 00:36:25,109 That's what it is. 716 00:36:25,342 --> 00:36:28,829 So the mom is mad that you're not paying her back for your college loans. 717 00:36:29,255 --> 00:36:31,619 Again, that's a thing that's gonna be different for every family. 718 00:36:31,619 --> 00:36:33,509 Some families, the parents pay. 719 00:36:33,785 --> 00:36:35,439 Some, they expect the kids to pay back. 720 00:36:35,755 --> 00:36:37,635 Some, it's financial loans like college loans. 721 00:36:37,635 --> 00:36:39,305 Like, that's what I'm currently paying off. 722 00:36:39,645 --> 00:36:44,527 but It sounds like you guys were on good terms up until the wedding, 723 00:36:44,527 --> 00:36:45,977 and she was supportive of the date. 724 00:36:46,240 --> 00:36:50,540 So I think the stress of the wedding is getting to her, and she's 725 00:36:50,540 --> 00:36:53,280 like, "Well, you haven't paid me back for your college loans yet. 726 00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:55,317 Why are you paying for a wedding? 727 00:36:55,584 --> 00:36:57,180 And now you're losing your job. 728 00:36:57,517 --> 00:37:03,170 Where's this money coming from?" And finance and money brings a lot of stress, 729 00:37:03,180 --> 00:37:07,100 like, and if we have financial stress from our previous generation, it gets 730 00:37:07,100 --> 00:37:09,314 carried on after each generation, right? 731 00:37:09,687 --> 00:37:11,337 so I think it really has to do with that. 732 00:37:11,347 --> 00:37:15,080 She's seeing you spend this money, but maybe her and her husband now 733 00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:18,224 are having financial issues because she feels like she's owed this 734 00:37:18,224 --> 00:37:19,934 money from your college loans. 735 00:37:19,934 --> 00:37:21,594 And again, I'm not gonna say what's right or wrong. 736 00:37:21,624 --> 00:37:22,754 Every family does it different. 737 00:37:22,764 --> 00:37:24,624 I don't know what you and your mom agreed to. 738 00:37:24,654 --> 00:37:28,184 If she said, "Oh, I'll pay for half your college, and you pay the rest," 739 00:37:28,184 --> 00:37:30,864 or, " We're gonna go through a financial institution, and you have 740 00:37:30,894 --> 00:37:32,977 to make payments," I don't know. 741 00:37:33,349 --> 00:37:36,734 So that I can't really give too much advice on, but it sounds like 742 00:37:36,744 --> 00:37:38,344 a lot of stress on both sides. 743 00:37:38,603 --> 00:37:40,747 I mean, it's not like you even asked her for money for the wedding. 744 00:37:41,173 --> 00:37:44,820 Saying that you're ruining, or that Ryan is ruining her 60th 745 00:37:44,830 --> 00:37:46,450 birthday is very odd to me. 746 00:37:46,809 --> 00:37:52,090 Again, I don't know what his allergies are, I'm sure you can find a place if she 747 00:37:52,090 --> 00:37:53,490 really wants to celebrate with everyone. 748 00:37:53,895 --> 00:37:56,650 If it doesn't work, I know people that have allergies, and they just 749 00:37:56,660 --> 00:37:59,770 bring something separate, or they eat before, or they eat after. 750 00:38:00,132 --> 00:38:01,517 Usually, they can make it work. 751 00:38:01,917 --> 00:38:05,379 I've never heard of an allergy where you just, like, can't go places, 752 00:38:05,739 --> 00:38:06,904 unless it's, like, super extreme. 753 00:38:07,293 --> 00:38:08,737 So I think you're doing everything right. 754 00:38:08,747 --> 00:38:10,917 Make sure you guys just stay on the same page. 755 00:38:11,323 --> 00:38:15,210 Cut out the toxic behavior, and then just get on the same page when it comes to 756 00:38:15,220 --> 00:38:16,730 everything you wanna do moving forward. 757 00:38:17,014 --> 00:38:19,760 sounds like you were able to pick up more hours at work. 758 00:38:19,780 --> 00:38:21,350 I don't know if that's your current job. 759 00:38:21,826 --> 00:38:23,477 I'm really dissecting this one, you guys. 760 00:38:23,743 --> 00:38:25,367 What do you… What… Tell me what you guys think. 761 00:38:25,689 --> 00:38:27,047 I really hope there's not more. 762 00:38:27,047 --> 00:38:30,017 It sounds like you're anticipating more issues, but if you guys just 763 00:38:30,017 --> 00:38:31,897 stay firm with your mom's not invited. 764 00:38:31,897 --> 00:38:34,527 I don't know if you've told her yet, or how you're gonna tell 765 00:38:34,527 --> 00:38:36,347 her, or if you're gonna tell her. 766 00:38:36,750 --> 00:38:39,537 but I would just say stick together, yeah. 767 00:38:39,587 --> 00:38:40,187 That's wild. 768 00:38:40,217 --> 00:38:40,717 That's wild. 769 00:38:41,532 --> 00:38:42,167 All right. 770 00:38:42,490 --> 00:38:43,980 sometimes I'm just at a loss for words. 771 00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:46,240 I think I had many words, but, you know. 772 00:38:46,696 --> 00:38:47,017 All right. 773 00:38:47,017 --> 00:38:48,837 Let's end with some confessions. 774 00:38:49,313 --> 00:38:53,747 A moment you felt overwhelmed at your own wedding or someone else's 775 00:38:54,254 --> 00:38:55,424 I was maid of honor. 776 00:38:55,464 --> 00:38:59,914 At cocktail hour, a friend spilled a full glass of wine on me accidentally. 777 00:39:00,430 --> 00:39:02,805 Yeah, that would overwhelm me, yeah. 778 00:39:03,125 --> 00:39:05,475 Had to greet everyone, didn't eat properly. 779 00:39:05,555 --> 00:39:06,815 I've heard that a lot. 780 00:39:06,825 --> 00:39:10,909 If you are a bride, sneak some snacks in the back, have something 781 00:39:10,909 --> 00:39:13,629 set aside for you, have a wedding planner, day coordinator, your 782 00:39:13,629 --> 00:39:17,079 maid of honor pull something aside so you can scarf down some food. 783 00:39:17,471 --> 00:39:18,325 Make sure you're eating. 784 00:39:18,325 --> 00:39:21,925 My photographer was amazing and literally put in the schedule, "Christa, eat." 785 00:39:22,337 --> 00:39:24,792 And when I would get too distracted and start talking to my bridal party, 786 00:39:24,792 --> 00:39:26,042 she's like, "Christa, you gotta eat. 787 00:39:26,401 --> 00:39:27,572 Christa, you gotta eat. 788 00:39:27,787 --> 00:39:28,492 Here's a sandwich. 789 00:39:28,492 --> 00:39:30,562 You gotta eat." So, you need someone like that. 790 00:39:31,019 --> 00:39:34,829 tried not to cry from stress when guests kept asking me questions. 791 00:39:35,219 --> 00:39:37,839 Is that during the wedding planning or during the wedding itself? 792 00:39:38,165 --> 00:39:38,285 Okay. 793 00:39:38,547 --> 00:39:41,639 When distant relatives came through the receiving line and 794 00:39:41,639 --> 00:39:43,989 my dad assumed I knew them well. 795 00:39:44,310 --> 00:39:47,039 This makes me think you didn't know they were invited and 796 00:39:47,039 --> 00:39:48,749 your dad just invited them. 797 00:39:49,279 --> 00:39:53,522 There's something weird about certain people where they want, like, second 798 00:39:53,522 --> 00:39:57,664 and third cousins invited or, like, distant relatives that they never see, 799 00:39:57,950 --> 00:40:00,737 and you don't know them, and it's like, "But it's, a party for everybody." 800 00:40:00,737 --> 00:40:05,234 It's like, no, like, that's weird to meet someone or, like, see someone for the 801 00:40:05,234 --> 00:40:06,774 first time after 10 years at your wedding. 802 00:40:06,784 --> 00:40:07,714 Like, we don't need that. 803 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:08,670 Okay, guys. 804 00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:09,710 That's all I got this week. 805 00:40:09,740 --> 00:40:10,670 My voice is dried out. 806 00:40:10,670 --> 00:40:12,030 I need to rest it a little bit. 807 00:40:12,314 --> 00:40:14,680 Thanks for hanging out with me, and I will see you next time. 808 00:40:14,770 --> 00:40:15,340 Bye now.