<v Speaker 1>Jared, you, Katy and Josh makes one hundred.

<v Speaker 2>I am so happy right now. I'm so happy happened?

<v Speaker 2>He Man's on Prime? Masters of the Universe. Yeah, it's

<v Speaker 2>on Prime and it's free, Like, if you have Prime,

<v Speaker 2>you can just watch it. I was watching it during

<v Speaker 2>that song.

<v Speaker 3>Are you gonna watch it yours?

<v Speaker 1>Today?

<v Speaker 2>He was so happy?

<v Speaker 4>Love that?

<v Speaker 2>Are so happy? Man Day on Prime? You don't even know.

<v Speaker 2>I might just watch that today for no reason. I

<v Speaker 2>may watch it too. You should. It's a good movie.

<v Speaker 2>I can't believe nobody went and saw it. It's so

<v Speaker 2>good anyway. That has nothing to do with anything right now,

<v Speaker 2>but it makes you happy.

<v Speaker 1>So glad we got stuck.

<v Speaker 2>Watching it on my phone? Are you sure we got

<v Speaker 2>to do this silly radio show? I might playing other

<v Speaker 2>songs so I can keep watching it. Sucks for the

<v Speaker 2>rest of the hour. Sucks for the rest of the show. Hey, listen,

<v Speaker 2>coming up right around eight twenty or so, we're gonna

<v Speaker 2>be opening the phone lines and having you go I

<v Speaker 2>sound off and call in about the worst neighbor that

<v Speaker 2>you ever had. All based off a Netflix show that's

<v Speaker 2>going on right now, So be thinking about it. If

<v Speaker 2>you've ever had a horrible neighbor in your life. We're

<v Speaker 2>definitely gonna want your calls and comments coming up a

<v Speaker 2>little later here, right around eight twenty or so with

<v Speaker 2>jkj All right, So what's this Franklin effect KA raving about?

<v Speaker 1>Well, because here's the thing, Like, have you ever been

<v Speaker 1>in the situation where somebody like compliments something you're wearing

<v Speaker 1>or something that.

<v Speaker 2>You have on right every day?

<v Speaker 1>And well, and immediately it's just like you like that

<v Speaker 1>person a little more, just like kind of catches you

<v Speaker 1>like a little bit like huh. Well, Benjamin Franklin, he

<v Speaker 1>kind of thought differently. He thought the exact opposite would work,

<v Speaker 1>and it kind of did. Ben Franklin would ask enemies

<v Speaker 1>for small favors to make them like him. They actually

<v Speaker 1>call it the Franklin effect. And he said stop pleasing

<v Speaker 1>people instead inconvenience them, and that will make them like you.

<v Speaker 1>So here's the story behind it. It was in n

<v Speaker 1>seventeen thirty seven.

<v Speaker 2>He had a very.

<v Speaker 1>Powerful enemy in Pennsylvania's parliament, right, so instead of flattering him,

<v Speaker 1>he asked to borrow a rare book from his personal library.

<v Speaker 1>Now the man was surprised, but he said yes, and

<v Speaker 1>a week later they were lifelong friends. This story goes

<v Speaker 1>on to say that they were very close, that this

<v Speaker 1>moment is what brought them together, and he actually cracked

<v Speaker 1>a bug in human psychology, the person who did you

<v Speaker 1>a favor will do another one.

<v Speaker 2>Okay, they say they try to.

<v Speaker 1>We try and buy our loyalty with gifts and kindness,

<v Speaker 1>but the real currency is requests, not rewards. And it's

<v Speaker 1>pure cognitive dissonance at work.

<v Speaker 2>So the b I could see this.

<v Speaker 1>Here's why. Because the brain refuses to hold two contradictions

<v Speaker 1>at once, it cannot say I hate him and I

<v Speaker 1>helped him. It results with it rewrites the story for you.

<v Speaker 1>It says I helped him, so he must be worth it,

<v Speaker 1>and it.

<v Speaker 2>Makes you feel that, wow, this person came to me

<v Speaker 2>for something. I have something they need to so it

<v Speaker 2>also feel superior in a way.

<v Speaker 3>Well, and you're more inclined to help someone again if

<v Speaker 3>you've already helped them one time, as opposed to if

<v Speaker 3>someone keeps asking you for help and you're offering and offering,

<v Speaker 3>you start to kind of despise that person. Where now

<v Speaker 3>if they come to you and ask you for help

<v Speaker 3>and you have helped them that one time, you're more

<v Speaker 3>inclined to do it again. Yeah, keep helping that person win.

<v Speaker 3>And Ben Franklin came up with this by doing that

<v Speaker 3>to the enemy. And it's brilliant and love is it is.

<v Speaker 1>And if we think about it, like we love people

<v Speaker 1>for the good we did them, and then we resent

<v Speaker 1>people for the harm we cause them. So if you

<v Speaker 1>act like a doormat, you become convenient, useful, but never respected.

<v Speaker 1>So in relationships they say that this plays out without exception,

<v Speaker 1>like people don't value what costs them nothing.

<v Speaker 2>The Ikea effect proves it.

<v Speaker 1>A crooked chair you built yourself feels like a masterpiece,

<v Speaker 1>make people invest action and their perception of you shifts.

<v Speaker 1>So this was just fascinating to me, absolutely fascinating, and

<v Speaker 1>I've tried to It.

<v Speaker 2>Goes against kind of all logic, it really does.

<v Speaker 1>It goes against all logic, but it makes total sense also, right.

<v Speaker 2>It's almost along the lines of the whole keep your

<v Speaker 2>enemies closer, right that whole thing. Sure, you're actually keeping

<v Speaker 2>that enemy closer by asking them to assist you. They

<v Speaker 2>feel some sort of power in that that they were

<v Speaker 2>able to help you.

<v Speaker 1>And also like you asking them signals a type of confidence.

<v Speaker 2>Well it's that and you're almost like inerior submissive, yes,

<v Speaker 2>an inferior to them, like, oh well you need something

<v Speaker 2>from me exactly, And it makes you feel you that

<v Speaker 2>a little adrenaline.

<v Speaker 3>It puts them on a pedestal. It makes you kind

<v Speaker 3>of think, hey, you know what, maybe I am better

<v Speaker 3>than this person because they're coming to like they see

<v Speaker 3>me as better and.

<v Speaker 2>Then they kind of get to know you, and then

<v Speaker 2>things play out and then you actually are like, you

<v Speaker 2>know what, I kind of like this guy exactly. I

<v Speaker 2>hate him, so we should put his face on money.

<v Speaker 1>You're changing their perception of you, and it's all very

<v Speaker 1>you know, calculating, manipulative almost in a way.

<v Speaker 2>But I gotta try this. Who do I hate around here?

<v Speaker 2>Isn't that instantly get you thinking about Okay, oh my god,

<v Speaker 2>who do I hate? And who do I get along with?

<v Speaker 2>And what can I ask them for?

<v Speaker 1>So they're saying like every small request builds a quiet dependency.

<v Speaker 1>Like you said, you know, it's just like they're they

<v Speaker 1>now they're rooting for you.

<v Speaker 2>Like say you hate I don't say you hate your

<v Speaker 2>office manager at work? Maybe go to them and say, hey,

<v Speaker 2>can I get some disinfecting.

<v Speaker 1>Wipes exactly, can I get?

<v Speaker 2>It's like baby steps or maybe And then before you

<v Speaker 2>know it, you're like, hey, can you watch my dog?

<v Speaker 1>And here's the thing is maybe not ask them for

<v Speaker 1>something they're already use doing for you, Like our office

<v Speaker 1>manager is already used to doing that for us. Maybe

<v Speaker 1>go to them and say something like, hey, do you

<v Speaker 1>have mail me? Like break down this email? Like I

<v Speaker 1>don't quite under can you help me with this? You

<v Speaker 1>know what I mean? Like you make them feel like they,

<v Speaker 1>like you said, are a little smarter, but also like

<v Speaker 1>they're helping you, and that makes them feel good too, like, well,

<v Speaker 1>we help people, it gives us a feeling of accomplishment,

<v Speaker 1>and so they associate that with you as well, Like

<v Speaker 1>I felt really good when I helped them last time.

<v Speaker 3>I do it again.

<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so yeah, I just I love it.

<v Speaker 2>Just twisted and I kind of like it.

<v Speaker 1>Like it.

<v Speaker 2>Okay, You're gonna have to really, I think, work hard

<v Speaker 2>at trying to reverse your thinking when it comes to

<v Speaker 2>people that you don't like and you don't want to

<v Speaker 2>be around and you don't want to ask for help

<v Speaker 2>from it. You're gonna have to really rewire your brain

<v Speaker 2>to make this work.

<v Speaker 3>Positively, but that's each party, right, it's a thing.

<v Speaker 2>I think that it works. It's gonna work in a

<v Speaker 2>big way. It works. It doesn't negate the fact though,

<v Speaker 2>that he still wanted to make the nation's bird a turkey.

<v Speaker 5>Right.

<v Speaker 1>We can't forget that, Ben.

<v Speaker 2>Sorry, we're not gonna let boy. But this is pretty

<v Speaker 2>solid advice. Pretty good. There you go, making me a

<v Speaker 2>little smarter and a little wiser. This morning yesterday on

<v Speaker 2>the show, I was talking about a Netflix show that

<v Speaker 2>I just started watching and it really intrigued me, really

<v Speaker 2>caught my eye. It's called Worst Neighbor Ever, and it's

<v Speaker 2>a four part docu series on Netflix. Right now, here's

<v Speaker 2>the titles of the four different episodes. Number one is

<v Speaker 2>she Finally Snapped, and then you go into Midwest meltdown

<v Speaker 2>and to fear Thy Neighbor and then the Executor and

<v Speaker 2>it's all really intense, heavy stuff when it comes to

<v Speaker 2>the world of horrible neighbors. I actually just finished episode

<v Speaker 2>one last night. There was a murder involved.

<v Speaker 1>No goodness.

<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, it's really nice, deep, but it's a good show.

<v Speaker 2>It's just one of those you're like, how in the

<v Speaker 2>world does this stuff go on?

<v Speaker 1>Out there well, and you can't pick your neighbors. It's

<v Speaker 1>not like they go throughout the community and get a

<v Speaker 1>consensus on people whether they want somebody joining the neighborhood.

<v Speaker 1>It just happens, and then you have.

<v Speaker 2>To deal with this. Yeah, like if you're house shopping,

<v Speaker 2>you move into a new hood, you don't know what

<v Speaker 2>you're gonna get get.

<v Speaker 5>Out around you.

<v Speaker 2>You really don't. It's horrible.

<v Speaker 1>Do people what their neighbors are like before they buy homes.

<v Speaker 2>There is there a way to do that. I will

<v Speaker 2>tell you that when we were looking and somebody would

<v Speaker 2>be outside, like maybe watering their lawn or their bushes

<v Speaker 2>or something, I had no problem wandering up and saying, hey,

<v Speaker 2>how are you, how's the neighborhood and complaints? Yeah, a

<v Speaker 2>lot of kids on the street. Yeah, and you kind

<v Speaker 2>of get some some dirt. We actually bailed out of

<v Speaker 2>a house that we were gonna buy because we were

<v Speaker 2>there for the inspection and I just happened to be

<v Speaker 2>out front and the next door neighbor was there and

<v Speaker 2>he was out like washing his car or something. I

<v Speaker 2>was like, hey, how are you were? You know, we

<v Speaker 2>made an offer and all that he goes, Oh, it's

<v Speaker 2>a great it's a great house. It's a perfect house.

<v Speaker 2>He's like, the only problem is is, well, when it

<v Speaker 2>rains that whole front yard, you should see the bubble

<v Speaker 2>that comes up under the grass. He's like, there's something

<v Speaker 2>about the drainage with that house that the entire front

<v Speaker 2>lawn bubbles up. He's like, you can see it. He's like,

<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh yeah, hey, thanks for that information. Yeah,

<v Speaker 2>we actually backed out of that house.

<v Speaker 1>Oh, I wouldn't want to deal with a grass bubble,

<v Speaker 1>like a giant waters a bubble.

<v Speaker 2>In my front yard. I'm like, she is just asking

<v Speaker 2>for foundation issues exactly. Anyway, that's not what we're talking about.

<v Speaker 2>Foundation issues. We're talking about horrible neighbors. So if you've

<v Speaker 2>ever had one, phone lines are going to be wide

<v Speaker 2>open right now three O three six' nine to one

<v Speaker 2>one mix three oh three six nine to, one sixteen forty.

<v Speaker 2>Nine and, yesterday AFTER i talked about This netflix, Show

<v Speaker 2>tiffany wrote us and she, says, Hey, JERY i heard

<v Speaker 2>you talking about That netflix show about the worst. Neighbors get.

<v Speaker 2>This we have one couple on our street that we've

<v Speaker 2>barely spoken to in six. Years we realized a few

<v Speaker 2>years ago that we don't see eye to eye. Politically she's,

<v Speaker 2>like there was never screaming or anything like. That we

<v Speaker 2>just had different signs in our yards during election. Season,

<v Speaker 2>well ever since, then they have installed what has to

<v Speaker 2>be seven or eight security cameras around their, property with

<v Speaker 2>a lot of them aimed straight at our. House they

<v Speaker 2>even mounted two of them way up in the trees

<v Speaker 2>so they can see over our fence and into our.

<v Speaker 2>Backyard we're being watched, constantly she. Says she, says also last,

<v Speaker 2>FALL i happen to look out my kitchen window and

<v Speaker 2>the husband was blowing leaves out of his. Yard but

<v Speaker 2>instead of bagging him, up he was angling the leaf,

<v Speaker 2>blowers so they all ended up in our. Yard AND

<v Speaker 2>i watched him do it for about fifteen. Minutes, oh

<v Speaker 2>when he was, finished he looked, around went back in his,

<v Speaker 2>garage and acted like nothing ever. Happened she. Says here's

<v Speaker 2>another strange. Part the husband over there keeps writing in

<v Speaker 2>this little hand written. Notebook he has it with him

<v Speaker 2>all the. Time anytime someone on our street has company,

<v Speaker 2>over or gets a, package has work done on their,

<v Speaker 2>house or parks in front of somebody else's, house he

<v Speaker 2>stands there and writes things down and then he sends

<v Speaker 2>them all to the h, away these long complaint. Emails

<v Speaker 2>he's documenting. Everything what a weirdo this. Guy she ends by,

<v Speaker 2>Saying i've lived in a lot of neighborhoods over the.

<v Speaker 2>Years i've never lived next to someone who makes the

<v Speaker 2>entire street feel. Uncomfortable loved the show and As tiffany From,

<v Speaker 2>aurora that would get super. Annoying, absolutely that's a horrible

<v Speaker 2>neighbor right. There, yeah that's what the trees and the

<v Speaker 2>cameras up in the.

<v Speaker 1>Trees he must be a heck of a time of.

<v Speaker 2>Parties, uh it's so. Fun what a. Door, yeah, anyway

<v Speaker 2>we're gonna open up the phone. Lines you guys can text,

<v Speaker 2>us you can call. In we want to hear about your.

<v Speaker 2>Neighbors why are they? Annoying why are they? Horrible three

<v Speaker 2>oh three six nine one one mix three oh three

<v Speaker 2>six nine one sixteen forty Nine do you have any

<v Speaker 2>oh one?

<v Speaker 1>Like as soon as we started talking about, THIS i

<v Speaker 1>went right back to When zoe was a little. Baby

<v Speaker 1>we had a condo In. Arvada so this was one

<v Speaker 1>of those areas where it was four two houses rather

<v Speaker 1>they looked identical and they were split into four, condos, Right,

<v Speaker 1>yeah in the middle of this area was kind of

<v Speaker 1>like the courtyard for these town. Homes like we were

<v Speaker 1>all like one, community, right and three of us got

<v Speaker 1>along really. Well we had parties, together our kids played, together.

<v Speaker 2>And it was so much.

<v Speaker 1>Fun but the one couple and they were in the

<v Speaker 1>house attached to, ours of, Course, oh they constantly had

<v Speaker 1>the cops coming. Over they fought all the. Time they

<v Speaker 1>didn't pay their water bill, ever and because we shared a,

<v Speaker 1>house my water would get shut.

<v Speaker 2>Off consistently and they could do.

<v Speaker 1>Well they only lived there for like four months because

<v Speaker 1>the property management company that we all rented. From eventually

<v Speaker 1>they were, like, okay we got to get rid of these.

<v Speaker 1>People many. Problems but those four months that they lived,

<v Speaker 1>there and they were not. Nice they were constantly just

<v Speaker 1>causing problems between. EVERYBODY i, mean, uh it was just

<v Speaker 1>such a. Headache and there's not a lot that you can.

<v Speaker 1>Do that's WHAT i realized in that, moment is just

<v Speaker 1>LIKE i can't make that person pay their water, BILL

<v Speaker 1>i can't make them get.

<v Speaker 2>Along so the cops are coming to our. House and

<v Speaker 2>that's the thing when you watch the Show Worst Neighbor

<v Speaker 2>ever On. Netflix that first, episode you're as you're watching,

<v Speaker 2>it you're, like why didn't the cops do anything about

<v Speaker 2>this crazy? Lady, yeah and their hands were tied exactly

<v Speaker 2>until she finally shot the. Neighbor, yeah, like don't let

<v Speaker 2>it get to.

<v Speaker 1>That but, no it can get pretty intense and there's

<v Speaker 1>not a lot you can.

<v Speaker 2>Do, Right, well let's talk about your guys as crazy.

<v Speaker 2>Neighbors do you have any what's going? On i've got

<v Speaker 2>no beef with none of my. Neighbors and it feels.

<v Speaker 2>Good oh, good how much she's, like less stress that

<v Speaker 2>is to worry, about you, know what's going on in the. Neighborhood,

<v Speaker 2>NOW i.

<v Speaker 1>Bet i'm in the same. BEAT i have not spoken

<v Speaker 1>to one of my neighbors and it's.

<v Speaker 2>Fabulous that's. Good it's so. GREATLY i don't know any of. Them, Hi,

<v Speaker 2>sophia welcome to the.

<v Speaker 5>Show good, Morning, well good morning to.

<v Speaker 2>You so you got a horrible. Neighbor you don't mention any? Names,

<v Speaker 2>yeah tell us about.

<v Speaker 5>It, yes it. Was WHEN i lived down In, houston

<v Speaker 5>we had a neighbor two doors over who was allegedly

<v Speaker 5>selling meth out of the. House her husband left her

<v Speaker 5>to go move To japan as a, doctor so she

<v Speaker 5>moved in with her high school boyfriend who was the

<v Speaker 5>cook at waffle house across the.

<v Speaker 6>Street i'm not at.

<v Speaker 5>That then she ended up like moving in with the

<v Speaker 5>waffle house. Guy and during twenty, twenty everyone was doing

<v Speaker 5>uh wind walks around the neighborhood as, wanted and we

<v Speaker 5>discovered a family of kittens that was living in their,

<v Speaker 5>house so we contacted animal. Control they came ended up

<v Speaker 5>having to contact the. Police uh and they had to

<v Speaker 5>go into the house with hazmat suits on because the

<v Speaker 5>entire thing was just covered in the cat species and

<v Speaker 5>human feces the entire. Floor you could not see anything

<v Speaker 5>in the house. Whatsoever and the icing on the cake

<v Speaker 5>was in her living. Room she had a life size

<v Speaker 5>replica of The Last supper literally just hanging from the,

<v Speaker 5>ceiling like not on the, wall just on the.

<v Speaker 2>Ceiling what what the wildest Neighbor.

<v Speaker 5>AND i was friends with animal, control SO i was

<v Speaker 5>getting all of the, Detail.

<v Speaker 2>Like you hate hearing those situations because of the animals and. Everything,

<v Speaker 2>absolutely is it one.

<v Speaker 5>Of those the kittens got? Rescued one of those.

<v Speaker 2>Things sophia were like nobody knew that that was going

<v Speaker 2>on inside that.

<v Speaker 6>House.

<v Speaker 5>Yep it was all just, like, oh she's kind of,

<v Speaker 5>weird but, whatever like she just keeps to. Herself and

<v Speaker 5>then and then they and all of, that and we

<v Speaker 5>just made that.

<v Speaker 2>Discovery and then the house was toiling in her. Backyard oh,

<v Speaker 2>well you, know as one, does in the.

<v Speaker 5>Middle of the grass that was like four feet tall

<v Speaker 5>because she didn't live, there because she moved in with

<v Speaker 5>Waffle house.

<v Speaker 2>Guys, guys my. FAVORITE i guarantee you that was like

<v Speaker 2>your guys's code name for.

<v Speaker 1>That, guy the guy waffle guy over, there smothered in Covered,

<v Speaker 1>sophia this is what we're talking.

<v Speaker 2>About really really appreciate you calling. In what a great

<v Speaker 2>story that. Was High, eliza how are?

<v Speaker 6>You and there are?

<v Speaker 2>You, well we're super. Dubes do you have a horrible?

<v Speaker 4>Neighbor, YEAH i MEAN i. WOULDN'T i, mean everyone's just.

<v Speaker 4>Incredible but it was about two years.

<v Speaker 6>AGO i think we are, moving so we aren't having

<v Speaker 6>to deal with. Anymore but it's not because it.

<v Speaker 4>Is don't.

<v Speaker 6>Worry but, UH i don't THINK i ever told anybody

<v Speaker 6>like around the neighborhood because it was so like confidential

<v Speaker 6>And so we have a neighbor HE'S i think it's

<v Speaker 6>like in the sixties or, something and he lives alone

<v Speaker 6>and he was leaving town and he's told us to

<v Speaker 6>look after his to like pop it, in like feed

<v Speaker 6>his like twenty, cats and they're all they're they're all like.

<v Speaker 6>Crazy it was the, funniest like weirdest thing to. Ask

<v Speaker 6>and he's not offering any. Money he was just, like

<v Speaker 6>please look after my, babies like. Please and he honestly

<v Speaker 6>doesn't like our family at walt because when we had like,

<v Speaker 6>construction we had those big dumpster on the side of

<v Speaker 6>our house that like was in his. YARD i, GUESS

<v Speaker 6>i don't, Know and so he would like yell at

<v Speaker 6>us for. That and so now he's expecting us to

<v Speaker 6>feed twenty like little. DEMONS i don't.

<v Speaker 2>Know well did you do? It did you go in

<v Speaker 2>his house and the little?

<v Speaker 6>Demons, Yeah so basically we would like go into his

<v Speaker 6>house and they're like all over all the, couch like

<v Speaker 6>ripping up the couch and like it was it's like

<v Speaker 6>a dumpster, fire like it looks like it was like

<v Speaker 6>rotting for twenty. YEARS i, Mean i've never gotten attack

<v Speaker 6>before BECAUSE i don't.

<v Speaker 4>Go talk to people like.

<v Speaker 6>That, obviously this.

<v Speaker 2>Is the strangest call.

<v Speaker 4>Ever and we go there like, no we like go

<v Speaker 4>over there and feed, them and then like we were

<v Speaker 4>leaving and like almost all of them started running outside

<v Speaker 4>the house and it was like you.

<v Speaker 2>Were literally hurting, cats.

<v Speaker 4>Right it was, yeah like walking them but, yeah and

<v Speaker 4>we had to get him all back. Inside they ran

<v Speaker 4>in the cold. Sack but, anyway and then he like came.

<v Speaker 6>Home we didn't tell him any about. That but, anyway

<v Speaker 6>you just keep.

<v Speaker 2>Going you got a lot of energy to.

<v Speaker 3>Wait did you get all of them? Though were you?

<v Speaker 2>Said she got them? All all of? Us she, said,

<v Speaker 2>yeah we got them all. That they got one question for,

<v Speaker 2>you did you finally move that ugly? Dumpster?

<v Speaker 6>Yeah, okay.

<v Speaker 2>That's the cheery on. Top, Eliza thank you so much

<v Speaker 2>for that phone call. Today that's. FUNNY i kind of

<v Speaker 2>want to run and want to run out the door

<v Speaker 2>after talking with