For my bridal shower, I made one very clear request to
Emily, Chloe, and Natalie.
I did not want lingerie as a gift.
I wasn't comfortable opening something like that in front of
my family and my fiancé's family.
Chloe made it very clear that she didn't care.
Before the shower, she repeatedly said she was gonna buy me lingerie anyway.
When I told her she needed to respect my boundaries and that I simply wouldn't
open her gift in front of others… Hey guys, welcome back to another
episode of Here Comes The Drama.
I'm your host, Christa Innis.
If it's your first time here, welcome.
We dive into some pretty wild stories from followers about weddings, events,
bachelorette parties, and so much more.
There's really no limit.
If you guys have a story of your own, please submit them.
We are always taking new stories, and I currently have a form of,
over 300 entries, 300 plus probably.
and it's funny because when I turn these into skits, Once I'm into a
new skit, I kind of forget old ones.
Not like I forget the characters.
if someone brings up a storyline, I'm like, "Oh, yeah."
But you guys are so good about remembering, characters, what they
wore, where I left you guys hanging, and where I need to continue.
One of the most popular ones that I get a request for continuing is the Elle
and Vivian skit, and that has been on my roster for so long to continue with season
two, and I really can't blame it on much other than, I just started ramping up
other content, my podcast, and I was just like, "Okay, I need to do other stories."
So if you are a fan of the Elle and Vivian skit, don't worry, I
do have plans on continuing it.
I will give a better estimate when I know.
as of recording this, I just finished sharing the, You Stole Our Wedding
Year skit with Lizzie and Max.
and you guys convinced me to do an epilogue, so that was a two-part epilogue.
It was so much fun to create, but I know the ending made, uh, people very
disappointed just because I follow the storyline where, spoiler alert if you
have not listened, fast-forward a little bit, but Max stays with Lizzie, and he
ultimately cuts contact with his family.
And the reason I wanted to share this was because not every story we get,
in fact, we see all the time, does not end happy, and I know it would be great
to have every story end where, oh, he realizes his mistakes, he's gonna go back.
It just doesn't happen like that.
So I wanted to kind of show the outcome after that he goes through with it.
He has too much pride to say, "You know what?
I let my future wife treat you guys this way.
I'm really sorry.
I'm gonna back out now." And it's happened so many times, and people are
like, "Okay, well, can you do one in a couple years or five years down the
road and show us that he, realizes?"
And I'm like, I've seen firsthand where people are stuck in toxic
relationships for a long time because of pride, or they've gone so long
without talking to their family that they just kind of keep moving forward.
I also wanna draw attention to when we get a story, we are only hearing
from that person's perspective, and I just talked about this on a YouTube,
So for example, I could do a video from Lizzie's perspective, right?
So Lizzie's the toxic bride or bridezilla, if you wanna call her that, and I could
do it from her perspective, and maybe from her perspective, Max's family
really did never wanna support them.
Maybe Max's family said no to a lot of things.
Maybe early in their relationship, Max's family was rude or dismissive of her.
We don't know that, and I know people are gonna be listening and
be like, "No, that's not how it was." but we don't know, right?
So when we get stories sent in, I just take it from that person's perspective,
and, you know, I tweak some things, I add some things, and, we just have to make
our own assumptions as we listen to it.
and then of course I added in all the drama with the bride's
mom that did not actually happen.
just having some fun with it.
But on to the next storyline.
I don't know if they're gonna be reoccurring characters that you see.
I know we always want the characters to keep going when we become
really attached to characters.
I mean, I still get people asking about Ferris and Sloane,
Elle and Vivian, like I said.
what was the other one?
Cher and Dion.
People really love those storylines.
If you guys don't know what those are, we'll link them at the bottom.
Those are some of, like, the earlier long skits.
After Ferris and Sloane, I did a lot more longer skits, and now I feel like I'm
finally at a place where I have a routine of how to, like, manage my time, have
boundaries, and also record, not quickly, but, Have a plan for when things come out.
I was saying this recently, but I used to film, in my bathroom, and I
would just kind of have a very basic idea of what was gonna happen, pick up
my phone and be like, "Oh, okay. You know, here's the conversation that's
gonna go take place," but then I would just kind of, like, roll with it.
And then wild things would happen.
that's how Ferris and Sloane season one happened.
Like, things just came out, right?
Now, I sit down, take my time with the script, write it all out, and
then each character has an outfit, and I film character by character.
Where it's harder is kind of figuring out where each person's standing, and
I'm like, "Where should they be looking?
Okay, how does this scene look?" but where it's easier is the editing because then
I have everyone together. I can really get into the character, instead of being
like, " Oh, this person's mad, but this person's sad, this person's happy." I
hope you guys are enjoying how I'm doing things a little bit better this time.
I know you guys just see what I put out there.
You don't really see the behind the scenes.
But for me, I feel a little more at ease 'cause when I tell you guys,
Some of the skits I used to film, I could feel my heart pounding out of
my chest when I was filming because I was, anxious about getting it
done in a certain amount of time.
I would try to film, post, and edit all the same day.
If it was late, I was, stressed if I, like, couldn't get it done in time.
So there was a lot going on, but, I think we're at a better place now,
and and I hope to constantly improve and constantly, add stuff to, how I'm
creating and filming content for you guys.
Okay.
So I know that was a little bit of a rant, but so many times you guys
leave me such kind comments and say, Never apologize for the rants."
They're kinda like caffeination rants.
I don't even know, what you wanna call them.
I get really energetic and excited about certain things.
Okay, let's go into dilemmas.
So this is a little dilemma that was sent to me.
As a reminder, if you wanna send a dilemma, just ask me my opinion on
something, or really want the audience's opinion, I always share these on my social
media, as well, so people can share.
send them to me at hello@krystaennis.com, or you can DM me.
The best place to DM is on Instagram at heykrystaennis,
and I will filter through those.
it's just a great way to get just some more input, because there's a lot of
situations out there that are really hard to just grasp on, like, what to do, and
it's good to get an outside perspective.
Okay, so here we go.
" My sister Emma and I are both getting married nine months apart.
She got engaged first, and I got engaged about six months later.
We booked our wedding venue just a few weeks after getting
engaged for our 2027 wedding.
Shortly after, Emma booked hers July 2026
It honestly felt like she rushed to lock hers in first because she seemed annoyed
that we booked our venue so quickly.
Dress shopping for Emma was a nightmare.
She tried on nearly 100 dresses, and throughout the process,
our mom made her feel awful.
Our younger sister and I spent most of the appointments trying to do
damage control and keep the peace.
Fast-forward to six weeks before Emma's wedding, it was finally
my turn to say yes to the dress.
Everything was going perfectly until we left the bridal shop.
Out of nowhere, my mom became upset, insisting that I hadn't thanked her and
that I'd been speaking to her rudely.
That simply wasn't true, and several other people were there to back me up.
Then Emma completely exploded at me.
She called me rude, criticized the way I behaved, and reminded me
that our mom had paid for my dress.
An argument broke out, and I left the bridal shop in tears.
Since that day, I haven't spoken to either of them.
Wow.
Emma's wedding is in six weeks, and right now I don't plan on going even
though I'm one of her bridesmaids.
I feel like she completely ruined what should have been one of the
most special days of my life.
As for my mom, she has a habit of getting upset any time she isn't
the center of attention, and this wasn't the first time it's happened.
I've decided I'm going to pay my mom back for the dress, and
honestly, I'm seriously considering cutting ties with both of them.
I know that might sound extreme, but this was the final straw after
a long history of similar behavior.
Growing up, Emma has always been the golden child.
okay.
So that's where it leaves off.
I think… Gosh, there's so much to say here and so much to unpack, right?
and it sounds like she says there's a long history, right?
So I can only grab what I'm given here.
Okay?
I think there's a lot of tension just building up over the years.
I don't think, like she said, I don't think it's about just this one thing,
but the fact that her mom exploded on her and then the sister didn't back her
up and started going off on her saying, "Well, you should be grateful 'cause
Mom bought this dress for you," it just sounds like a competition was just
ready to come head-to-head and explode.
Now, where it comes for… inviting them or not inviting them… know what?
Let's start first by talking about her not going to the sister's wedding
You can only be the one to decide that, right?
You know deep down and you know everything that's happened.
And if something in your gut is telling you not to go to this because you're
gonna be miserable, uncomfortable, you would rather them just have
their day than more power to you.
However, I personally would not just no-show.
I would talk to your sister ahead of time and say, "This is what I'm feeling.
This is what I'm thinking about," and just sit down and communicate.
Maybe that's been weighing on her too.
Maybe there's something you guys can clear the air on, and I'm not
saying it's gonna fix everything.
Tensions run high around weddings and all kinds of events, and I would just
hate, again, we all have our reasonings for blocking or distancing ourself
from people, but I would just hate for you to look back on it and being like,
"Ugh, I should have just talked to her."
Or you find out later, like Emma's going through something, and you're like,
"Ugh, I wish we just communicated, now I wasn't at her wedding for her." So I
would just really Think about how you can maybe reach out to her and just say like,
" I just wanna discuss what happened.
This is what hurt me.
I really wanted you to back me up when mom was making my dress shopping about me.
This was something I'd looked forward to for so long, and I
really feel like it was ruined.
You took the joy out of it." And just see what she says because I think
like at the end of the day, you want her there to support you, right?
But it doesn't always look like that.
It's not gonna always be that way, and so I think it's really important
that we ask ourselves, " Okay, how can this work moving forward?" And
at the end, if it's not going to work and if you reach out to her and she's
rude back, she's like, "Whatever.
I don't care if you don't come.
Please don't come.
I'd rather you not come," then you know, right?
I just hate leaving it completely open-ended and not reaching out or
giving that last piece ' cause I think in the heat of the moment we say a
lot of things we don't mean or our emotions take over us, and we're already
stressed about the wedding, right?
And so we say things and we're just like, " Whatever.
Screw you.
stop talking to me." so I would just try to reach out.
As for your mom, it sounds like a completely different relationship.
In the beginning, it does sound like there's still that competition with
Emma, but with your mom it sounds like there's always been a kinda rift, right?
So if you can get okay with one, at least have communication with
one, ask yourself is it worth the communication with your mom?
Again, I think it is worth a conversation, but it sounds like the
mom conversation's gonna be a lot bigger and a lot deeper, and if she's someone
that's not willing to hear you out or like you say, she's upset when she's
not the center of attention, that's gonna be a much harder conversation.
Now, you have six weeks until the wedding, which in wedding planning is
not a lot of time, but in talking to someone I think it is a lot of time.
Plan a couple weeks out, let's meet for coffee.
It's in a safe place, you're in public, which means people
aren't gonna be, like, yelling.
if you go to someone's house, there's more likely to be some
yelling and some disagreement.
So if you're like, "Hey, let's meet for coffee. I just wanna calmly talk to you
about something that's been upsetting me." I'm getting married, right after Emma.
I always picture my mom and my sister there, but as of right now, I'm feeling
that would cause me more stress.
So you kinda have two angles to go here.
Focus on your sister's wedding first.
Don't do the no call, no show, you know, kinda thing.
I really think if you aren't going to go, you need to tell her.
That way, she could be at fault here.
I'm just an outsider.
But picture being a bride and then your sister not showing up
that day and you had no clue.
That can leave you at a very difficult position, and that can
leave you feeling very anxious and upset on your wedding day.
So just something to think about there okay.
So then going to your wedding, you say right now you're considering
cutting ties with both of them.
So again, I don't know everything that happened in the history.
You said this was the final straw.
So there's been things throughout your life that has upset you.
Maybe it's been the two against you.
I don't know where your little sister comes into that.
It says Emma's been the golden child.
So I feel like this has been something that you've been dealing with for
a long time, whether it's been internally or externally, a lot of
fights or disagreements You need to kind of think about everything and
you kind of come to this conclusion.
And if you feel more stress about having them at your wedding,
this might be the right decision.
Obviously, Emma's wedding is first, so I would see how Emma's
wedding goes if you decide to go.
If not, communicate, and then you have to go to the next one.
It's hard, especially when two siblings that have been rivals
get married within the same year.
We see it time and time again in stories that are sent to me.
It's just a very challenging time, and it's hard to let go of,
disagreements or different things that happened when you were a child.
And I think everything kinda comes to a head, whether that's good or bad.
I think sibling fights can be good, ' cause it can kind of bring out true
emotion and true communication, but then you kinda have to either decide, do
you wanna piece it back together one by one, or do you wanna let it fall apart?
So I know that was kind of a lot, but I'm interested to hear what
other people have to say as well.
So if you guys listening have your own input, maybe something similar
happened to you or you've seen something similar happen, please leave a comment
on our YouTube or on our social media.
All right, I hope that helped.
All right, guys, let's jump into some hot takes, and then we are going to
get in this week's story submission.
All right.
Not every best friend needs to be your maid of honor.
100%. Yes.
I don't think, being a friend or a sibling guarantees you're gonna be a
maid of honor or even a bridesmaid.
Everyone does things differently.
it's just your closeness, maybe reliability, maybe their
desire to be in a wedding.
Some people just don't care about that stuff, so ask yourself those questions.
It's okay to outgrow friendships after a wedding.
Yes, and I was just actually thinking about this the other day, how not
only are weddings make or break for a lot of relationships and a lot of,
like, family relationships, it's make or break for people in your wedding.
And I hate to say it like that, but I've been in a lot of weddings
where the last time friends saw each other was at the wedding.
whether it's a wedding guest or bridesmaids, but specifically I was
thinking about bridesmaids the other day, and I think it's because you
hang on to these friends for so long, and you're like, " Oh, yes, they're
gonna be a bridesmaid in my wedding," and then it falls to the wayside.
There's also that certain friend where their whole life friends are on the back
burner, and every guy they date is on the pedestal in front of them, right?
So they have these friends to hold onto until they get married, and then they're
married, and they're like, " Mm-kay.
I'll use them whenever I need them."
And I've definitely have been that friend.
I'm not gonna say too much more than that.
So I think you sometimes just realize, like, they came to my wedding,
and I think that's … We don't really have much more in common.
Sometimes the bridesmaid isn't the problem, the bride is.
100%. We see that in stories all the time.
If someone complains about every wedding they're invited to, maybe
they're the difficult guest.
Yeah, I'm shaking my head in case you can't see.
Just people in general that every time you see them, they're complaining about
something- Probably not the easiest person to please, and they're just gonna
find something wrong no matter what.
Friends shouldn't expect to bring their partner everywhere.
In regards to weddings, I think your friends should be
able to bring their partner.
However, yes, I think it's healthy to have… speaking from a woman, a girl,
I am all for female friendships, and I think you should Leave your partner
at home and have female friendships.
I had so many friends growing up that, like, could not go
anywhere without their partner.
Or if you'd be like, "Oh, we're gonna have a girls' night," they'd be like,
"Oh, well s- so-and-so come?" And you're like, " This is a girls' night.
He's not invited." I think it's healthy to have female
friendships without your partner.
You need it.
All right, family hot takes.
Child-free weddings are not anti-kid.
Yes, I've said it a million times.
You can absolutely love kids and realize not every single wedding
is gonna be the place for them.
I can think of tons of places that just are maybe not suited
for kids, and that's okay.
Grandparents aren't automatically entitled to babysit or see
grandchildren whenever they want.
Yeah, of course, No one has that right to automatically see kids.
family members don't deserve unlimited chances just because they're family.
Correct.
I will not be elaborating at this time.
Protecting your peace is more important than keeping everyone happy.
Yes, 100%.
Sometimes going low contact is healthier than constantly
trying to fix relationship.
Yes.
You need to understand Especially if it's a relationship that constantly struggles
or constantly has its battles, you need to decide when it's time to step back and
say, "Okay, we are not gonna be that type of sibling, friend, neighbor," whatever.
' Cause sometimes we force ourselves to be close to someone because they're family,
and I think sometimes we have to realize, like, "Okay, we can be good siblings, but
maybe not, like, best friend siblings," or, " We can be like this, but not like
that," or, "We can hang out this way, but not, like, that way." so I think low
contact works for a lot of people, and that doesn't mean you don't like them.
It doesn't mean you're not agreeing at the time, it just means you're
respecting your peace in a way that's healthy for the both of you.
That can also be things like, okay, we don't follow each other
on social media, or we don't, Hang out at each other's houses.
We only meet in public places.
that kind of thing, just to keep yourself, at peace.
All right, guys, this week's story submission, let's get into it.
My best friend Emily and I got engaged around the same time.
Ooh, this is, like, really close to the start of the other one.
we also had another friend, Chloe, who we were close to at the time,
but she wasn't seeing anyone.
We later realized that Chloe tends to create drama where there really isn't any.
Emily got engaged first, and Chloe and I were genuinely so happy for her.
But when I got engaged shortly after, Chloe started acting weirdly clingy.
She would physically wedge herself between me and my fiancé and act
strange whenever we were affectionate, like if we kissed or flirted.
She also started making odd comments, almost like she was trying to create
tension between me and Emily or find a reason to be upset with me.
It didn't work.
Emily is very anti-drama, and I mostly just ignored Chloe's comments.
At the time, there was a lot going on, so I brushed it off.
Emily asked me to be her maid of honor, and I asked her to be mine.
We were both busy planning our weddings, and Chloe was asked and accepted
to be a bridesmaid in both of them.
Meanwhile, another friend of ours, Natalie, started pulling away.
All right, so we've got Emily, Chloe, and Natalie, and the OP,
who we do not have a name for.
Okay.
she's older than us and was feeling a bit left out because we
were both getting married while she wasn't in a relationship.
We reassured her that we'd always be there for her and that she would
find the right person eventually.
During Emily's wedding events, dress shopping, her engagement party,
bridal shower, and bachelorette, Chloe was incredibly supportive.
Any time someone tried to ask me about my own engagement during these moments,
I would redirect the conversation and say we were there to celebrate Emily.
Emily had a short engagement while mine was longer, so all this happened
before I even found my dress.
When it came time for my own dress shopping, Chloe's
behavior completely changed.
She made me feel insecure and like I was wasting everyone's time.
She kept rushing me and making comments that made the experience stressful
instead of exciting My mom and Emily are both very non-confrontational.
Emily tends to avoid drama altogether, and my mom usually just rolls her eyes
in the moment and vents to me later.
Natalie is more confrontational, but since she doesn't know Chloe
very well and knew I didn't want to give Chloe the satisfaction of
causing drama, she stayed quiet, too.
Okay.
But Chloe's comments eventually crossed the line, and my mom actually snapped at
her in the store where I found my dress.
Go, Mom.
I mean, that's the thing.
I like to say I'm very non-confrontational.
I don't like, causing a conflict or anything like that, but when it
comes to things that are offensive or rude or talking about a friend of
mine in a negative way, I will stand up for them and I will say that.
I'm glad someone eventually did.
And I'm curious about this Chloe girl.
I've a couple of guesses here.
Either she's extremely insecure about being single and not having someone,
or my mind did cross, maybe she's got a crush on the OP here and she's
just like, "Wait, no, I didn't want her to get married." I don't know.
There's some weird, things she's doing here that almost sounds like she wants
to be a barrier between her getting married, and that's very odd to me.
You can quickly tell when you are engaged and planning a wedding
which friends are not supportive.
I'm very lucky I did not have that, but I've seen it
firsthand in a lot of weddings.
so just interesting.
For my bridal shower, I made one very clear request to
Emily, Chloe, and Natalie.
I did not want lingerie as a gift.
I wasn't comfortable opening something like that in front of
my family and my fiancé's family.
Chloe made it very clear that she didn't care.
Before the shower, she repeatedly said she was gonna buy me lingerie anyway.
When I told her she needed to respect my boundaries and that I simply wouldn't
open her gift in front of others…
Hopefully she wouldn't wear it.
she said she would force me to open it in front of my mom and future mother-in-law.
Okay.
this woman does not like you.
There's something in her that does not want to see you happy.
Someone that's directly telling you, "Hey, I'm not gonna respect your boundary.
Hey, I'm gonna embarrass you.
Hey, I'm not happy for you.
Hey, I'm gonna make negative comments about you at your dress
shopping." We gotta snip, snip, snip.
Like, we don't want someone like that around us.
That's wild force you to open a gift.
At that point, I'd had enough.
Emily's wedding took place before my bridal shower, and we had a
conversation about Chloe's behavior.
I told Emily that I wanted Chloe to step down as a bridesmaid and uninvite
her from my shower, but I didn't want to cause drama during her wedding,
so I decided to wait until after.
I think that's pretty smart.
go with the flow for your first friend's, for Emily's wedding, and then cut ties.
I mean, it doesn't sound like she wants to d- directly cut ties.
She just wants to have her step down, but I think that's, smart.
During Emily's wedding, Chloe was still annoying, but she managed to
behave herself for the most part.
After Emily and her husband left for their honeymoon, I met up with Chloe to talk.
I stayed calm the entire time and explained that I was
uncomfortable with her behavior.
I gave specific examples, how she acted during my dress appointments,
her jokes about disrespecting my boundaries, and how differently she
behaved during Emily's wedding events.
Chloe immediately got defensive.
She blamed everyone else for her behavior and refused to apologize.
At that point, I told her I needed to ask her to step down as a bridesmaid.
I also told her that while she was still invited to the wedding, I wasn't
comfortable having her at my shower.
Ooh.
Okay, so I haven't finished quite yet.
There's like a little bit left this is challenging.
I applaud this person, this bride, for saying this and confronting her, because
I think so many times in these stories they're like, "Well, I just put up with
it, and they're still in the wedding, and on the wedding day they were rude
to me, they did this to me, they put me down." And she saw what happened at the
dress shopping, she saw how she treated her, she saw her ignore her boundaries.
So she's like, "Hey, I wanna talk to you. Here's what I need from you. Here's my
concerns," blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And then seeing how she's acting, she's like, "Okay, I don't want you to be in
the wedding." so her response, if anyone can guess, is she said she doesn't
wanna be friends anymore, and that was the last time I ever spoke to her.
Oh, no.
That's the thing, too.
If you can't have an honest conversation with a friend without
them just immediately cutting you off, that tells me what?
That Chloe never really liked you.
That might sound extreme, but that tells me that there was something in
her this whole time where she felt superior to you until you got engaged
and she's like, " I'm gonna try to embarrass her or make her uncomfortable."
And the fact that you stood your ground, you stood up for yourself and said, "Hey,
this is making me really uncomfortable. Here are my examples, A, B, and C,"
and she couldn't handle that, and that was all she needed to cut you out.
I would say that's a win in your book.
I hate this phrase, because I'm not trying to cause call this person trash,
but the trash takes itself out, right?
In your perspective, your life, right?
I was just saying this again, you are the hero in some people's stories,
you're the villain in others.
That's just how life goes.
People make up stories how they want, right?
So she took herself out of the equation.
She said, "This is how you feel about me?
Then I won't be there at all.
Let's just not be friends." And in all reality, someone that acts like
that, just asking them to step down from a bridesmaid but still be a guest
to your wedding is kinda like, meh.
They're still gonna be there, so what does that really do for you?
that gives her the satisfaction of like, "Oh, you're not completely
cut out from the wedding." I think this was the best thing for you.
I don't know if your wedding has happened yet.
If it hasn't, good luck with everything and I hope it goes amazing and
smooth, and that Chloe is just a little blimp in the wedding planning.
If it has happened, please update.
because you kind of, like, got rid of the drama, I'm sure there wasn't, much drama.
The other thing I would point out is you also said, " Do not come to the shower.
I'm uncomfortable at the shower." see, I would be mortified if a best friend
of mine, if I was in their wedding and they came to me and said, " Here's
why you made me uncomfortable. I don't want you to be a bridesmaid, and I
don't want you to come to the shower."
I'd be like, " "What?" Like, completely mortified.
knowing me, I'd be like, "Well, what can I do? I'm so sorry. I
didn't realize I was acting that way." you know, of course, unless it
was completely, like, out of line.
But for the most part, I'd be like, "Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry."
I wouldn't be like, "You know what?
Friendship over.
Bye." So if it's telling or if it's not telling.
let me know what you guys think, 'cause that's… wild story, and I feel like
both of our dilemma and story of this week really connect with friendships and
relationships and who you have in your wedding and who you allow in your space
during your wedding, or any event, right?
And I think a lot of times when we're younger, we're told, Oh, just invite them.
Oh, come on.
they're your sister.
They're your friend.
Oh, you've known them a long time.
Just suck it up." And I think as we get older, we kind of realize like, "Well, no.
I don't have to suck it up because they were rude to me.
I don't have to put up with that kind of behavior because it's easier or it's nice.
why do I have to be the bigger person?" So yeah.
I don't know.
Let me know what you guys think about that.
As always, in case you are listening just to the audio here, you can
see the full video on YouTube.
We always post them there, so check it out.
All right, guys.
Ending, as usual, with our confessions, so let's read these.
This week, we asked a compromise you made for your wedding that
you still resent a little bit.
Okay.
This person says, "I couldn't get married in my own church because
my in-laws wouldn't attend." I'd be like, "Well then don't come."
I had a therapist on here and I asked her about, like, people that threaten
to not come because they're not getting their way, and she said, " You just have
to sit down, reinforce your boundary, and let it play out." If they're like,
"Oh, well I'm not gonna come if you don't move me to a different table,"
then you have to be like, "Okay.
Then I will either see you or I won't see you." ' Cause when we
start changing things for other people, then, what do they say?
Like, you give an inch, they take a mile.
So I'd be curious to see what else they made her change.
The father-in-law threw a surprise reception that had family and his
friends and none of our friends.
10 years still on it.
Wait, I need to know how a surprise reception happens.
So, like, you guys maybe eloped, and then they just threw you guys
a party without actually, like, consulting, who you'd want there?
Interesting.
scrapped a dream to plan smaller where I live to reduce the amount
of time with my mom planning.
Oh, so you wanted a simple wedding, so you have to, like, plan with her.
this person says, "Letting kids be there." Ooh, I'm interested to know why.
I would wanna hear that story.
my sister-in-law as a bridesmaid after she had meddled with my wedding.
Need to know more to that story.
This person says, "Inviting my mom And this person says,
" "Reception at a restaurant."
Okay.
It's hard especially when you're young or you have a lot of voices coming in
telling you it should be a certain way, but I always find when you cave in some
direction, that ends up being your regret.
So always, always get on the same page as your partner first,
then invite in other people.
And I know that's easier said than done because sometimes people invite themselves
in at the start of the engagement.
So just make sure you have those boundaries and try to protect your peace.
All right, guys, that is all I have for this week.
Thanks for hanging out with me, and I will see you next time.
Bye now