1 00:00:00,098 --> 00:00:04,008 The next morning, I woke up and started checking things off my to-do list. 2 00:00:04,325 --> 00:00:07,115 One of the most important tasks was getting our marriage license 3 00:00:07,115 --> 00:00:09,235 to my uncle, who was officiating. 4 00:00:09,711 --> 00:00:16,876 I went outside to the truck to grab it, and the truck was gone Oh, no. 5 00:00:17,137 --> 00:00:19,827 Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Here Comes the Drama. 6 00:00:19,867 --> 00:00:24,259 I'm your host, Christa Innis, and I am recording at night, and so it feels 7 00:00:24,259 --> 00:00:26,029 a little moody, a little different. 8 00:00:26,275 --> 00:00:28,394 mom life kind of got in the way. 9 00:00:28,424 --> 00:00:30,394 Actually, you know, I can't even blame it on that. 10 00:00:30,664 --> 00:00:35,874 and it's not a blame anyway, but I just feel like I try to batch record, and 11 00:00:35,874 --> 00:00:41,561 then I push off solo episodes until the last minute sometimes because I'm like, 12 00:00:41,571 --> 00:00:45,644 "Okay, I want, like, updated information on there so that when it comes out, it 13 00:00:45,644 --> 00:00:50,121 doesn't feel, too late." and there's just been so much going on, personal 14 00:00:50,121 --> 00:00:53,501 life, business life, and everything else, just trying to manage it all. 15 00:00:53,792 --> 00:00:57,041 moms, parents, I mean anyone listening. 16 00:00:57,051 --> 00:00:58,101 Life is busy, right? 17 00:00:58,170 --> 00:00:59,190 you guys know how that goes. 18 00:00:59,210 --> 00:01:03,060 But I feel like we'll have, these kind of, like, slow moments, and then all 19 00:01:03,060 --> 00:01:04,560 of a sudden it just gets really crazy. 20 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:08,686 Or I'll let myself have, a really quiet morning and just hang out with 21 00:01:08,686 --> 00:01:11,696 my daughter, and then all of a sudden it's like panic mode of like, oh my 22 00:01:11,696 --> 00:01:15,276 gosh, I have, eight things to get done during her, three-hour nap time. 23 00:01:15,286 --> 00:01:16,796 So it's just been kind of crazy. 24 00:01:17,142 --> 00:01:20,913 she's in T-ball now, too, and so there's, like, night games, 25 00:01:20,913 --> 00:01:23,033 and so I think it just makes our evenings go a little bit quicker. 26 00:01:23,402 --> 00:01:25,687 so anyway, just a little behind the scenes. 27 00:01:25,687 --> 00:01:27,487 I'm just jumping right in this week, you guys. 28 00:01:27,845 --> 00:01:32,675 before I get into today, what I am gonna do is I have a dilemma that 29 00:01:32,675 --> 00:01:37,139 someone sent me, and then I have two stories we're gonna read this week. 30 00:01:37,356 --> 00:01:39,626 and if I seem to be looking, if you're watching the video, if I 31 00:01:39,626 --> 00:01:42,866 seem to be looking down, I'm still figuring out my camera situation. 32 00:01:43,166 --> 00:01:45,516 I know many of you guys are, like, sick of me saying it. 33 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:51,510 it feels, especially when I have someone else on, it feels funny to just look at 34 00:01:51,510 --> 00:01:53,710 the camera and not the person's face. 35 00:01:53,980 --> 00:01:56,230 So I'm looking at the person's face, right? 36 00:01:56,540 --> 00:02:00,149 But then in the video, I'm looking down, and It's very hard for me. 37 00:02:00,149 --> 00:02:04,099 I'm very, like, if I meet you in person, I'm looking at you in the 38 00:02:04,099 --> 00:02:05,629 eyes if I'm talking to you in person. 39 00:02:05,882 --> 00:02:09,829 So, when it's solo, I can do it a little bit better, but even so, I'm, 40 00:02:09,843 --> 00:02:12,333 looking at my notes, and so I feel like I'm looking all over the place. 41 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:16,220 okay, so like I said, I am recording this at night. 42 00:02:16,550 --> 00:02:18,020 My husband is in bed. 43 00:02:18,070 --> 00:02:20,730 My daughter's in bed, and I was like, "I'm gonna make myself 44 00:02:20,730 --> 00:02:22,450 a cup of tea." Here's my mug. 45 00:02:22,460 --> 00:02:25,723 It says, "Think happy thoughts." drinking my bedtime tea. 46 00:02:25,897 --> 00:02:26,657 it's like a habit. 47 00:02:26,667 --> 00:02:27,857 I have to drink it every night. 48 00:02:28,151 --> 00:02:31,631 so yeah Starting off, just a couple of updates. 49 00:02:31,731 --> 00:02:36,604 I've been really loving this Scarlett skit, the groom's mom Scarlett skit. 50 00:02:36,904 --> 00:02:39,744 And just a little behind the scenes I've talked about a little bit. 51 00:02:40,011 --> 00:02:43,591 So this is based on a true story that was sent to me, but it's one 52 00:02:43,591 --> 00:02:47,401 of those where I'm kinda going, kind of … I'm really going off the cuff. 53 00:02:47,481 --> 00:02:52,277 because she gave me some great highlights, a little behind the 54 00:02:52,287 --> 00:02:55,187 scenes into their relationship, and then it kinda like skips ahead. 55 00:02:55,441 --> 00:02:59,851 And I was like really feeling like a detailed longer skit. 56 00:03:00,161 --> 00:03:03,771 and she has provided me with extra information, but I've just have 57 00:03:03,771 --> 00:03:06,341 gone a little cuckoo with this one. 58 00:03:06,611 --> 00:03:07,481 but it's a lot of fun. 59 00:03:07,491 --> 00:03:11,387 But now I'm kinda like timing it off because I am going on, a 60 00:03:11,397 --> 00:03:13,607 little family trip over the summer. 61 00:03:13,607 --> 00:03:16,637 I just wanna make sure, like, I take a little break and really, 62 00:03:16,675 --> 00:03:17,995 be present during the trip. 63 00:03:17,995 --> 00:03:19,899 So we're gonna see how it all plays out. 64 00:03:19,899 --> 00:03:21,739 I might have to do a season two or something. 65 00:03:21,749 --> 00:03:23,349 Again, not holding my breath for that. 66 00:03:23,349 --> 00:03:24,459 Don't hold yours either. 67 00:03:24,469 --> 00:03:25,169 We will see. 68 00:03:25,432 --> 00:03:28,722 I know people are still holding their breath for the Elle and Vivian 69 00:03:28,732 --> 00:03:33,312 skit season two, and if I could apologize 100 times over, I would. 70 00:03:33,569 --> 00:03:37,289 It's funny because I was these characters. 71 00:03:37,289 --> 00:03:39,239 I am these characters, you know, when I act it out. 72 00:03:39,502 --> 00:03:42,642 But you guys are so much better at remembering things than I am. 73 00:03:42,652 --> 00:03:47,210 Like, I was just at the Hilary Duff concert last weekend, and this woman 74 00:03:47,210 --> 00:03:48,760 came up to me, and she was so sweet. 75 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:51,064 And she was like, "You read my story." 76 00:03:51,064 --> 00:03:53,677 And I was like, "Oh, my gosh, what was the story?" And she said it was 77 00:03:53,677 --> 00:03:57,044 about a bridesmaid that went AWOL, and they were like … I think it was 78 00:03:57,044 --> 00:03:58,904 a wild goose chase is what she said. 79 00:03:59,157 --> 00:04:00,534 And I was like stumped. 80 00:04:00,594 --> 00:04:02,064 I was like I cannot think of it. 81 00:04:02,074 --> 00:04:03,634 So if you guys can think of it, let me know. 82 00:04:03,854 --> 00:04:05,694 I think she said the character's name was Brooke. 83 00:04:06,027 --> 00:04:06,967 I need to still look it up. 84 00:04:07,234 --> 00:04:09,814 And I felt so bad 'cause I was like, "I can't remember your story." And I 85 00:04:09,814 --> 00:04:12,774 was like there's certain ones that like really stick out to me just 'cause I 86 00:04:12,774 --> 00:04:14,414 like grabbed them and I like ran with it. 87 00:04:14,770 --> 00:04:17,949 so I have to try to find her, or if someone can tell me You know, if 88 00:04:17,949 --> 00:04:20,046 they remember a Brooke in a story. 89 00:04:20,056 --> 00:04:21,956 Her name was not Brooke, just to be very clear. 90 00:04:21,966 --> 00:04:23,056 Her name was not Brooke. 91 00:04:23,366 --> 00:04:26,816 She said the character in the story that I made was named Brooke. 92 00:04:27,082 --> 00:04:28,442 so I have to kinda figure that out. 93 00:04:28,452 --> 00:04:32,969 But back to the Elle and Vivian skit, so many people will go 94 00:04:32,969 --> 00:04:35,829 back, or they just found me, and they're listening to the skit. 95 00:04:36,079 --> 00:04:37,209 And they're like, what the hell? 96 00:04:37,209 --> 00:04:38,269 There's no season two. 97 00:04:38,269 --> 00:04:38,999 Where's season two? 98 00:04:38,999 --> 00:04:41,859 It said there was gonna be more coming." And when I did that, I 99 00:04:41,869 --> 00:04:43,959 didn't have a plan to do season two. 100 00:04:44,219 --> 00:04:46,865 and like all these other things started happening. 101 00:04:46,905 --> 00:04:47,995 Life happens. 102 00:04:48,265 --> 00:04:49,995 And they're like, "Well, she's putting out all her skits," and I'm 103 00:04:49,995 --> 00:04:51,585 like, it's not like I'm avoiding it. 104 00:04:51,585 --> 00:04:53,449 I just like … Yeah, I don't know. 105 00:04:53,705 --> 00:04:57,489 Also, once you do like a season two, you Have to go back to season one 106 00:04:57,499 --> 00:05:00,900 and make sure everything matches up, and, like, goes in line. 107 00:05:01,197 --> 00:05:04,047 One more thing I do wanna say about the Elle and Vivian skit, and this was 108 00:05:04,097 --> 00:05:06,426 okay to say and not giving it away. 109 00:05:06,770 --> 00:05:11,083 So I did receive an update from the person that we would call Elle, right? 110 00:05:11,083 --> 00:05:15,766 The person that wrote this in, and she did say, her partner kinda wanted 111 00:05:15,766 --> 00:05:19,815 me to stop sharing more information because afra- he was kind of afraid 112 00:05:19,835 --> 00:05:21,208 people would know it was them. 113 00:05:21,498 --> 00:05:25,958 And so I've changed a lot, so if you think it's someone, it probably is not. 114 00:05:25,958 --> 00:05:27,208 I've changed a lot. 115 00:05:27,475 --> 00:05:30,141 So season two is gonna go, way different. 116 00:05:30,383 --> 00:05:33,881 I do have plans for it eventually, but that would require me 117 00:05:33,891 --> 00:05:35,111 to go all the way back. 118 00:05:35,111 --> 00:05:37,391 Like I said, you guys are way better at remembering these things. 119 00:05:37,391 --> 00:05:42,168 Go back and listen to all of season one, which I can do, obviously, and then 120 00:05:42,178 --> 00:05:44,028 make my notes and plan out season two. 121 00:05:44,458 --> 00:05:46,838 So just think of it as, like, a TV show, guys. 122 00:05:47,042 --> 00:05:51,322 it's only me that's coming up with these skit ideas, so I don't have, 123 00:05:51,322 --> 00:05:54,388 a whole team behind me writing them, editing, and all that stuff. 124 00:05:54,388 --> 00:05:56,168 So just be patient with me. 125 00:05:56,598 --> 00:05:58,495 And again, I appreciate the love for all that 126 00:05:59,653 --> 00:06:00,796 Okay. 127 00:06:00,806 --> 00:06:02,366 one more final update and then I will promise I'll get to the stuff. 128 00:06:02,366 --> 00:06:05,293 I know people don't like the chitchat, but sometimes I just feel like I need to 129 00:06:05,293 --> 00:06:06,853 chitchat, especially when it's nighttime. 130 00:06:06,863 --> 00:06:09,496 I need to get, the energy going, ' cause at night I'm like, 131 00:06:09,496 --> 00:06:11,096 my body's wanting to go to sleep. 132 00:06:11,363 --> 00:06:13,233 I was, laying in bed with my daughter reading books with 133 00:06:13,233 --> 00:06:14,956 her, and I was like, "I can't. 134 00:06:14,966 --> 00:06:17,496 I I gotta get the energy going for this podcast." Okay. 135 00:06:17,796 --> 00:06:23,478 So one more update is I got the latest edits of book number two, Drama Ever 136 00:06:23,528 --> 00:06:25,938 After, just sent to me this week. 137 00:06:25,938 --> 00:06:27,791 So I send you guys updates here and there. 138 00:06:27,801 --> 00:06:31,231 I've had so I have a lot of people asking about book number two. 139 00:06:31,611 --> 00:06:33,991 we are doing a slightly different process than the first one. 140 00:06:33,991 --> 00:06:37,311 The first one I did fully, indie publisher. 141 00:06:37,331 --> 00:06:38,451 my husband helped me. 142 00:06:38,701 --> 00:06:39,731 We got it all together. 143 00:06:39,731 --> 00:06:40,701 We did the research. 144 00:06:40,721 --> 00:06:42,981 I had my friend design the cover. 145 00:06:42,991 --> 00:06:44,281 Look at this amazing cover. 146 00:06:44,575 --> 00:06:45,735 Shout out to Oak and Air. 147 00:06:45,991 --> 00:06:47,441 and she's just amazing. 148 00:06:47,441 --> 00:06:48,941 She helps me with all my branding stuff. 149 00:06:49,198 --> 00:06:50,548 Known her for years now. 150 00:06:50,578 --> 00:06:53,288 But, anyway, so book two is gonna be a little bit different of how 151 00:06:53,288 --> 00:06:55,181 we're trying to get this, published. 152 00:06:55,201 --> 00:06:58,378 So we're going through so many different edits and all that stuff. 153 00:06:58,378 --> 00:07:01,245 So I just got that back, so I have to do another read through. 154 00:07:01,652 --> 00:07:04,708 the reason why I've been able to, get this stuff out and skits 155 00:07:04,708 --> 00:07:07,748 out so quickly is because that was in the hands of someone else. 156 00:07:07,798 --> 00:07:10,563 So just letting you guys know it might, slow down a little bit. 157 00:07:11,055 --> 00:07:12,360 All right, let's get to the good stuff. 158 00:07:12,804 --> 00:07:13,454 dilemmas. 159 00:07:13,524 --> 00:07:15,721 Uh, this was a dilemma someone sent me. 160 00:07:15,721 --> 00:07:18,431 A reminder that you guys can always send me new wedding dilemmas. 161 00:07:18,431 --> 00:07:22,521 You can DM me on social media, or email me, hello@christainnis.com. 162 00:07:22,845 --> 00:07:26,165 And these are things that you're currently going through, and just want either some 163 00:07:26,165 --> 00:07:31,635 advice, you want, some support, you want me to share it on social media to see 164 00:07:31,635 --> 00:07:35,045 what other people think, you want me to do a poll, whatever that looks like. 165 00:07:35,235 --> 00:07:36,695 So here we go. 166 00:07:37,028 --> 00:07:40,761 " We're getting married this September, and my future mother-in-law hasn't 167 00:07:40,761 --> 00:07:42,641 contributed anything toward the wedding. 168 00:07:42,891 --> 00:07:44,851 We've paid for everything ourselves. 169 00:07:45,117 --> 00:07:49,918 She has had no input in planning, "Doesn't even want to walk my fiancé 170 00:07:49,918 --> 00:07:54,704 down the aisle, but still insists on having her own walk down the aisle." 171 00:07:54,704 --> 00:07:55,688 What? 172 00:07:55,784 --> 00:07:59,124 She doesn't wanna walk him, but she wants her own moment of walking herself. 173 00:07:59,134 --> 00:07:59,694 Okay. 174 00:07:59,974 --> 00:08:03,034 " She also won't let me help her pick out a dress. 175 00:08:03,314 --> 00:08:07,951 She wants to wear a very low cut V-neck dress, and when I gently 176 00:08:07,951 --> 00:08:12,111 suggested something with a little more coverage, she immediately said no. 177 00:08:12,374 --> 00:08:15,434 On top of that, she openly criticized my wedding shoes 178 00:08:15,651 --> 00:08:18,121 saying they are such a bad brand. 179 00:08:18,391 --> 00:08:20,341 I can't believe she got those. 180 00:08:20,621 --> 00:08:23,572 Do they even match the dress?" 181 00:08:24,706 --> 00:08:27,073 She's saying, "Like, girl, be for real. 182 00:08:27,093 --> 00:08:28,063 It's my wedding. 183 00:08:28,403 --> 00:08:32,933 My fiancé's entire family will be there, and from everything I've heard, she's 184 00:08:32,933 --> 00:08:37,183 usually the one who starts the family drama and then plays the victim afterward. 185 00:08:37,436 --> 00:08:40,946 I'm honestly so nervous that she'll cause problems on the wedding day 186 00:08:41,226 --> 00:08:43,446 or refuse to participate altogether. 187 00:08:43,769 --> 00:08:47,839 At this point, it feels like she's only showing up because her son 188 00:08:47,849 --> 00:08:51,689 is getting married, not because she actually wants to support us. 189 00:08:52,029 --> 00:08:56,955 I'd love to hear your take on this matter." Ooh, that's a lot. 190 00:08:57,305 --> 00:09:01,175 Okay, first thing that I wanna say is people show support in different ways. 191 00:09:01,185 --> 00:09:05,175 So I wouldn't necessarily say because someone's not contributing financially 192 00:09:05,425 --> 00:09:09,005 or showing interest in being a part of the planning doesn't mean they don't 193 00:09:09,005 --> 00:09:10,415 support you or they're not interested. 194 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:12,119 That does not apply to this person. 195 00:09:12,406 --> 00:09:15,892 It sounds like she's making it very clear, like she wants it to be about her. 196 00:09:15,892 --> 00:09:18,292 The moments where she's included needs to be about her. 197 00:09:18,556 --> 00:09:22,236 She wants the dress she wants, which again, I'm not super picky about a dress, 198 00:09:22,256 --> 00:09:25,582 but if you've, been like, "Hey, here's a great mother of the groom dress," and 199 00:09:25,582 --> 00:09:28,622 she's like, "No, no, no, I'm not doing that." she has comments about the dress. 200 00:09:28,632 --> 00:09:32,122 She wants to have her own walk down the aisle, which I think is very bizarre. 201 00:09:32,417 --> 00:09:36,227 Okay, so it sounds like she starts a lot of the family drama, which I don't love, 202 00:09:36,513 --> 00:09:39,493 because people will probably know her as someone that's gonna just stir the pot or 203 00:09:39,493 --> 00:09:41,483 say things that's what's ever on her mind. 204 00:09:41,757 --> 00:09:43,937 and that could make you a little nervous, right? 205 00:09:44,247 --> 00:09:48,113 I said this so many times before, I think as women, I think we get 206 00:09:48,113 --> 00:09:50,729 nervous more about this stuff, and we overthink about it a lot. 207 00:09:51,026 --> 00:09:54,556 And we think it's our job to make sure everyone's doing exactly 208 00:09:54,556 --> 00:09:55,706 what they need to be doing, right? 209 00:09:55,976 --> 00:09:58,020 And a lot of times it does, it does come down to that. 210 00:09:58,030 --> 00:10:03,880 But when it's comes to his mom and how she's acting, he needs 211 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:05,130 to be the one that talks to her. 212 00:10:05,413 --> 00:10:09,063 Because you are kind of an extension, right? 213 00:10:09,263 --> 00:10:12,803 I mean, of the new family, she's an extension, but of the old family, you 214 00:10:12,803 --> 00:10:14,823 are this new part coming in, right? 215 00:10:14,853 --> 00:10:19,143 So I don't know how their relationship is, but the fact that she is showing 216 00:10:19,153 --> 00:10:21,973 no interest, she's making comments about your shoes, she likes to 217 00:10:21,973 --> 00:10:26,483 start drama, tells me that she's trying to assert her own dominance. 218 00:10:26,763 --> 00:10:28,053 " Oh, I don't care about this. 219 00:10:28,113 --> 00:10:32,023 Oh, I'm, I don't care about my son's wedding enough to really be involved." 220 00:10:32,273 --> 00:10:36,093 So I think if there's these concerns, you need to talk with your partner, and then 221 00:10:36,103 --> 00:10:41,580 have your partner talk with her about what is maybe expected of her that day. 222 00:10:41,910 --> 00:10:44,430 Be very clear, " We are not gonna be having you walk 223 00:10:44,430 --> 00:10:45,760 down the aisle by yourself. 224 00:10:46,010 --> 00:10:47,160 This is what we would like. 225 00:10:47,427 --> 00:10:49,867 Can you walk Brian down the aisle? 226 00:10:50,203 --> 00:10:50,683 No? 227 00:10:50,713 --> 00:10:53,963 Then okay, you'll be sitting in this spot." It's hard when you 228 00:10:53,963 --> 00:10:58,657 anticipate something possibly happening because unless there's an 229 00:10:58,667 --> 00:11:03,397 actual sure way to know, you can't really, stop them from coming, right? 230 00:11:03,397 --> 00:11:07,127 Unless she's, like, threatened to do something or you know at every wedding 231 00:11:07,127 --> 00:11:10,540 she shows up wearing a white dress and a veil, you know, whatever that is. 232 00:11:10,811 --> 00:11:12,911 so I would just have people on standby. 233 00:11:13,164 --> 00:11:17,394 I would have your fiancé talk to her, and he- gotta speak her language, right? 234 00:11:17,444 --> 00:11:21,234 And I hate to say it like that, but it's like, giving little tidbits, right? 235 00:11:21,234 --> 00:11:24,295 So, if she needs a little bit of control or she needs to feel like she's heard 236 00:11:24,295 --> 00:11:28,211 in some way, have him give her a little bit, and then be like, "But this is our 237 00:11:28,221 --> 00:11:30,111 boundary and this is what we're doing. 238 00:11:30,375 --> 00:11:34,931 If there's anything that kind of goes outside of that, we're gonna be swiftly, 239 00:11:34,931 --> 00:11:39,435 like, it's your time to go." And I hate to be like that, but I think people like 240 00:11:39,435 --> 00:11:41,705 this thrive off a little bit of drama. 241 00:11:41,968 --> 00:11:46,110 And so if she feels like she has that control, and if things aren't going her 242 00:11:46,110 --> 00:11:47,890 way, she'll start a little bit of drama. 243 00:11:48,150 --> 00:11:50,210 We need to make sure she's, on her toes. 244 00:11:50,470 --> 00:11:53,260 She knows the rules, and if she doesn't follow those rules, then 245 00:11:53,270 --> 00:11:54,250 she's gonna be out the door. 246 00:11:54,510 --> 00:11:57,880 and I know that sounds very, like, cut and dry, but with someone like 247 00:11:57,880 --> 00:12:01,420 this, you just have to be ready for a plan B if something were to happen. 248 00:12:01,730 --> 00:12:02,780 She might surprise you. 249 00:12:02,910 --> 00:12:05,430 She might just not like to be a part of weddings, and she 250 00:12:05,430 --> 00:12:08,063 might just not know what to say. 251 00:12:08,446 --> 00:12:11,426 that does not excuse her rude comments about your shoes or any 252 00:12:11,426 --> 00:12:14,701 other rude comments she might have made or may make in the future. 253 00:12:15,051 --> 00:12:17,461 So leave everything to your fiancé. 254 00:12:17,724 --> 00:12:20,964 Talk with him, about what your concerns are. 255 00:12:21,284 --> 00:12:24,564 And as long as he's on the same page, you know he has your back. 256 00:12:24,874 --> 00:12:28,744 So let me know what you guys think in the comments about all of this. 257 00:12:28,940 --> 00:12:30,070 and I hope, that helps. 258 00:12:30,070 --> 00:12:33,070 I hope you have a great wedding day come September. 259 00:12:33,499 --> 00:12:36,609 Again, if you have your own wedding dilemma, you can DM me on, 260 00:12:36,789 --> 00:12:40,399 Instagram's probably the best social media platform to send it to me. 261 00:12:40,672 --> 00:12:42,832 otherwise you can email me, hello@christainnis.com. 262 00:12:45,482 --> 00:12:45,902 All right. 263 00:12:46,225 --> 00:12:49,339 I always feel like when I'm reading at night that I read, so much, like, 264 00:12:49,339 --> 00:12:52,909 calmer, and it almost reminds me of people that, read audiobooks. 265 00:12:53,199 --> 00:12:55,579 I know people are gonna be like, "You should read an audiobook for 266 00:12:55,579 --> 00:12:58,503 your next book." that's a lot of work, and I feel like my I would 267 00:12:58,503 --> 00:13:00,053 lose my voice, but we'll see. 268 00:13:00,564 --> 00:13:03,454 Anyway, I've got two stories for you guys tonight. 269 00:13:03,717 --> 00:13:06,507 The first one's a little bit shorter, so let's get into it. 270 00:13:07,255 --> 00:13:07,815 Here we go. 271 00:13:07,924 --> 00:13:08,664 Sip of tea. 272 00:13:08,674 --> 00:13:09,244 Cheers 273 00:13:10,515 --> 00:13:14,495 My husband and I got married almost nine years ago in Denver. 274 00:13:14,772 --> 00:13:19,109 It was the second marriage for both of us, and we have adult kids and extended 275 00:13:19,109 --> 00:13:23,889 family who planned to join us for what was essentially a domestic destination 276 00:13:23,899 --> 00:13:28,634 wedding since some family members lived nearby while we lived out of state. 277 00:13:28,977 --> 00:13:31,437 We had planned a church ceremony and booked a restaurant 278 00:13:31,447 --> 00:13:32,917 downtown for the reception. 279 00:13:33,341 --> 00:13:37,651 It had been open for thirty-four years and served authentic French cuisine. 280 00:13:37,915 --> 00:13:42,560 It was in a great location, had decent parking for a busy city, and it was 281 00:13:42,570 --> 00:13:46,973 the perfect size for our smaller wedding of about seventy-five guests. 282 00:13:47,237 --> 00:13:50,817 Everything was set for a Saturday evening ceremony and reception. 283 00:13:51,376 --> 00:13:56,953 Then forty-one days before the wedding, family members saw on the 284 00:13:56,953 --> 00:13:59,623 news that the restaurant was closing. 285 00:13:59,883 --> 00:14:04,539 The land had been sold, likely for redevelopment, and I'm sure 286 00:14:04,579 --> 00:14:06,249 there's a skyscraper there now. 287 00:14:06,788 --> 00:14:09,135 Forty-one days. 288 00:14:10,355 --> 00:14:13,075 Oh, no, this is taking a different turn than I thought. 289 00:14:13,345 --> 00:14:17,274 My husband called the restaurant to complain, but the manager told him 290 00:14:17,284 --> 00:14:21,744 he also found out the news and had just learned he was losing his job. 291 00:14:22,041 --> 00:14:25,881 The restaurant officially closed two weeks before our wedding. 292 00:14:26,681 --> 00:14:30,011 Thankfully, we did get our deposit back, which is very rare 293 00:14:30,011 --> 00:14:31,243 when th-things like that happen. 294 00:14:31,510 --> 00:14:35,470 We scrambled to call venues all over Denver, trying to find a 295 00:14:35,530 --> 00:14:37,060 replacement for our reception. 296 00:14:37,337 --> 00:14:40,897 Eventually, we found a place that was available and willing to do a tasting. 297 00:14:41,301 --> 00:14:45,178 It was primarily a breakfast and lunch spot but hosted private events 298 00:14:45,178 --> 00:14:49,410 in the evenings and luckily we they were open on our wedding date. 299 00:14:49,750 --> 00:14:54,293 Because I needed to save vacation time for our honeymoon, my husband flew to 300 00:14:54,293 --> 00:14:56,843 Colorado alone and attended the tasting. 301 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:59,940 He liked the food, so he booked it. 302 00:15:00,524 --> 00:15:04,464 That's how we ended up having our reception at a breakfast spot. 303 00:15:04,757 --> 00:15:09,310 It turned out to be a Creole restaurant, and despite the fact I never even 304 00:15:09,350 --> 00:15:13,989 tasted the food beforehand, it ended up being the best possible option. 305 00:15:14,269 --> 00:15:18,354 It wasn't what I originally had envisioned, but it saved the day, and I 306 00:15:18,364 --> 00:15:23,741 now have so many great memories from our reception at that amazing little place. 307 00:15:24,001 --> 00:15:26,121 Okay, that turned out to be a really cute story. 308 00:15:26,461 --> 00:15:28,391 I was not sure which way that was gonna go. 309 00:15:28,916 --> 00:15:34,012 this also shows you brides, future brides, or just, people in general that, 310 00:15:34,012 --> 00:15:37,802 have an event coming up or something, they're looking forward to There are 311 00:15:37,812 --> 00:15:39,332 bad things that can happen, right? 312 00:15:39,332 --> 00:15:42,312 There are last-minute things, things will go wrong, right? 313 00:15:42,662 --> 00:15:46,582 But sometimes someone will come through and save the day. 314 00:15:46,682 --> 00:15:52,646 If you keep pushing and you're persistent, and there will be a solution. 315 00:15:52,902 --> 00:15:55,809 Not always what you see or h- not always what you had planned, but 316 00:15:55,809 --> 00:15:57,459 there will be some kind of solution. 317 00:15:57,722 --> 00:16:00,302 I know so many people that had their weddings canceled during 318 00:16:00,312 --> 00:16:05,417 COVID, like the height of COVID, you know, 2020, and People weren't 319 00:16:05,437 --> 00:16:07,547 getting their, deposits back. 320 00:16:07,801 --> 00:16:09,241 Restaurants were closing. 321 00:16:09,351 --> 00:16:11,641 they were told, like with no time. 322 00:16:11,651 --> 00:16:16,001 I had so many people that had to cancel or move locations, and that's a lot. 323 00:16:16,336 --> 00:16:19,586 some didn't get married for years after because they couldn't find a spot. 324 00:16:19,899 --> 00:16:23,629 and it's so hard in those moments to be like, "Okay, this is for the best. 325 00:16:23,629 --> 00:16:27,174 This is was supposed to happen," and you kind of wanna like when someone 326 00:16:27,174 --> 00:16:30,180 says that, you're just like, " Okay, I don't need to hear that this was 327 00:16:30,180 --> 00:16:32,980 supposed to happen." But I'm glad they were able to look back and be like, 328 00:16:32,980 --> 00:16:35,062 "Okay, this worked out for the better. 329 00:16:35,062 --> 00:16:36,292 I'm glad it happened this way." 330 00:16:36,827 --> 00:16:41,270 so that one started off with like a kind of light drama issue, just to kind 331 00:16:41,270 --> 00:16:42,893 of like get us in there a little bit. 332 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:02,660 All right, next story. 333 00:17:03,224 --> 00:17:08,337 Oh gosh, you guys, this one starts with, " Oh, do I have one for you?" You know this 334 00:17:08,337 --> 00:17:09,847 is gonna be good when it starts like that. 335 00:17:10,598 --> 00:17:14,888 For some quick background, my husband and I had a semi-destination wedding 336 00:17:14,898 --> 00:17:16,648 about six hours from our home. 337 00:17:16,901 --> 00:17:20,541 It was a small wedding, and we rented a large Airbnb on the 338 00:17:20,541 --> 00:17:24,427 water for a long weekend, which is also where we held the ceremony. 339 00:17:24,697 --> 00:17:25,487 That's pretty cool. 340 00:17:25,740 --> 00:17:31,039 We decided on a no-kids wedding, which most people respected, aside 341 00:17:31,039 --> 00:17:34,549 from a little pushback from my sister-in-law, who had a baby that 342 00:17:34,549 --> 00:17:36,359 would've been almost one by the wedding. 343 00:17:36,770 --> 00:17:38,830 Thankfully, she didn't bring the baby. 344 00:17:39,551 --> 00:17:43,291 Since we had the Airbnb for the whole weekend, we invited some close 345 00:17:43,301 --> 00:17:45,471 friends and family to stay with us. 346 00:17:45,933 --> 00:17:50,556 The night and day before the wedding, were spent setting everything up ourselves. 347 00:17:51,268 --> 00:17:54,798 That same night, the guys decided to go out to a bar. 348 00:17:55,257 --> 00:18:02,993 I begged my fiancé to stay with me, but he looked me dead in the eye and said, "No." 349 00:18:05,503 --> 00:18:07,413 What do we feel about this? 350 00:18:08,346 --> 00:18:12,730 I was just doing a YouTube video about, Oh, it was a wedding 351 00:18:12,740 --> 00:18:17,560 vendor, and she said the groomsmen didn't come home until 5:00 AM. 352 00:18:17,670 --> 00:18:20,650 So when she was getting there to start doing makeup, the men were still 353 00:18:20,650 --> 00:18:22,770 outside, like, drunk coming home. 354 00:18:23,041 --> 00:18:26,621 And she's like, "Meanwhile, the bridesmaids were, a little drunk, but 355 00:18:26,883 --> 00:18:31,089 they were, like, better." And I've been a part of weddings like that so many times 356 00:18:31,089 --> 00:18:34,099 where it's like, okay, we've got, like, maybe we'll have a glass of champagne, 357 00:18:34,099 --> 00:18:35,749 but, we've got our eye masks on. 358 00:18:36,099 --> 00:18:39,449 We are in our jammies by, like, 9:00 PM. 359 00:18:39,459 --> 00:18:43,735 Like, we're going to bed early, and then the men are just, out going rampant. 360 00:18:43,795 --> 00:18:47,729 And I'm just like, for my, own wedding, there was a bar connected to the condo 361 00:18:47,729 --> 00:18:50,389 we met- we, used for our wedding stuff. 362 00:18:50,770 --> 00:18:53,124 my husband went with, some of the groomsmen, but he was like, "I 363 00:18:53,124 --> 00:18:56,068 don't wanna be, like, hungover or, like, uncomfortable." 364 00:18:56,068 --> 00:18:59,628 He doesn't even drink anymore, but, like, at this time, he did, and he was like, " I 365 00:18:59,628 --> 00:19:03,015 don't wanna be hungover or, not feel well, like, in the morning, so I'll have, like, 366 00:19:03,055 --> 00:19:06,015 one drink." And, I was like, " You know what? You're an adult. Do whatever you 367 00:19:06,015 --> 00:19:10,359 want." But I hear about this a lot, so let me know what you guys think about this. 368 00:19:10,612 --> 00:19:13,679 if I had this preference where I was like, "Hey, just stay back. 369 00:19:13,679 --> 00:19:15,029 Like, I know how your friends get. 370 00:19:15,029 --> 00:19:19,452 They get kinda crazy, and we have to be up early or whatever," and they just go, "Mm, 371 00:19:19,612 --> 00:19:23,072 no," I'd be questioning a lot, I think. 372 00:19:23,362 --> 00:19:26,142 It's like any other night, sure, whatever, but it's your wedding night. 373 00:19:26,482 --> 00:19:26,822 Okay. 374 00:19:27,152 --> 00:19:31,692 "He came back later that night very drunk. 375 00:19:31,949 --> 00:19:36,658 I was annoyed, but figured as long as he was good to go for the wedding, I would 376 00:19:36,658 --> 00:19:41,308 let it go for the moment." Also, like, why do you wanna be drunk before your wedding? 377 00:19:41,686 --> 00:19:42,226 come on. 378 00:19:42,226 --> 00:19:44,096 Like, wait till the party until after. 379 00:19:44,346 --> 00:19:45,076 That's what I don't get. 380 00:19:45,076 --> 00:19:46,886 I'm just like, have fun with your friends. 381 00:19:46,886 --> 00:19:50,086 No one's saying, like, don't go out and have fun, but it's like, you can't 382 00:19:50,086 --> 00:19:52,223 just, reel it in a little bit one night? 383 00:19:52,860 --> 00:19:56,770 " The next morning, I woke up and started checking things off my to-do list. 384 00:19:57,087 --> 00:19:59,877 One of the most important tasks was getting our marriage license 385 00:19:59,877 --> 00:20:01,997 to my uncle, who was officiating. 386 00:20:02,473 --> 00:20:09,638 I went outside to the truck to grab it, and the truck was gone Oh, no. 387 00:20:09,898 --> 00:20:14,768 I went back inside, woke up my fiancé, and asked if he knew where it was. 388 00:20:15,118 --> 00:20:18,998 At first, we assumed someone had borrowed it to run a quick errand. 389 00:20:19,341 --> 00:20:23,081 We started calling around to the family and friends, and no one had it. 390 00:20:23,670 --> 00:20:26,994 Then we realized his brother was also missing. 391 00:20:27,337 --> 00:20:28,137 This is what I mean. 392 00:20:28,137 --> 00:20:29,177 This is what I mean, guys. 393 00:20:29,227 --> 00:20:31,347 Like, have you not seen The Hangover? 394 00:20:31,677 --> 00:20:32,097 Come on. 395 00:20:32,354 --> 00:20:37,514 We don't do a bachelor party or the bachelorette party the 396 00:20:37,514 --> 00:20:40,184 weekend of, especially not the night before, a wedding. 397 00:20:40,484 --> 00:20:40,934 Okay? 398 00:20:40,984 --> 00:20:41,904 Bad things happen. 399 00:20:42,094 --> 00:20:43,024 Let's just not do it. 400 00:20:43,561 --> 00:20:44,771 Oh, Lord have mercy. 401 00:20:44,821 --> 00:20:45,361 Okay. 402 00:20:46,324 --> 00:20:47,574 Cue the panic. 403 00:20:48,008 --> 00:20:50,358 We called and called with no answer. 404 00:20:50,628 --> 00:20:54,258 At that point, we started worrying something had happened, calling 405 00:20:54,268 --> 00:20:56,708 hospitals, trying to track him down. 406 00:20:57,058 --> 00:21:00,148 Finally, someone suggested we try calling the jail. 407 00:21:00,478 --> 00:21:02,928 Yep, he was in jail 408 00:21:06,223 --> 00:21:07,513 This is like The Hangover. 409 00:21:07,773 --> 00:21:09,163 Searching all these places. 410 00:21:09,163 --> 00:21:09,953 where's the brother? 411 00:21:09,963 --> 00:21:10,763 Where's the brother? 412 00:21:10,763 --> 00:21:11,960 Like… Okay. 413 00:21:12,243 --> 00:21:17,640 Apparently, sometime during the night, he came back to the Airbnb even though 414 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:23,566 he wasn't staying there, stole the truck, drove it drunk to meet with a one-night 415 00:21:23,566 --> 00:21:26,096 stand, got pulled over, and was arrested. 416 00:21:26,467 --> 00:21:27,487 Lesson, guys. 417 00:21:27,750 --> 00:21:29,090 Don't drive drunk. 418 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:30,880 Use an Uber. 419 00:21:31,487 --> 00:21:34,866 it still blows my mind when people get, DUIs. 420 00:21:34,886 --> 00:21:41,054 I'm like, if you can't afford a DUI or, be smart- Call an Uber. 421 00:21:41,204 --> 00:21:42,014 it's not even about that. 422 00:21:42,024 --> 00:21:43,594 You hurt someone seriously. 423 00:21:43,594 --> 00:21:46,125 Like, that, I, drives me so mad. 424 00:21:46,155 --> 00:21:50,844 Like, that makes me so mad when people are irresponsible with it Oh my gosh, 425 00:21:50,844 --> 00:21:52,194 I could go on a whole thing about this. 426 00:21:52,244 --> 00:21:52,764 Okay. 427 00:21:53,027 --> 00:21:55,377 I was gonna say it's someone that drove drunk. 428 00:21:55,397 --> 00:21:59,667 It's someone that was being irresponsible and dumb and drove drunk. 429 00:21:59,991 --> 00:22:04,267 Okay, so the truck has their marriage license in it 430 00:22:04,613 --> 00:22:08,683 I'm not gonna shame them and wonder why the, marriage license 431 00:22:08,683 --> 00:22:12,489 was in the truck, but it is a weird spot for a marriage license. 432 00:22:12,529 --> 00:22:14,079 But that's besides the point. 433 00:22:14,089 --> 00:22:15,459 The brother should have never taken the truck. 434 00:22:16,142 --> 00:22:19,966 Okay, she says, "Oh, and the truck had been impounded with 435 00:22:20,046 --> 00:22:21,576 our marriage license inside. 436 00:22:21,879 --> 00:22:26,909 So instead of relaxing and getting ready for my wedding, I spent the entire morning 437 00:22:26,909 --> 00:22:32,577 tracking down which impound lot the truck was in so we could retrieve the license. 438 00:22:32,955 --> 00:22:37,095 We managed to find it, pay the impound fees" He better have paid you back 439 00:22:37,365 --> 00:22:44,673 … " and get everything back just in time for the ceremony." Lord, I would be so livid. 440 00:22:44,953 --> 00:22:48,133 I don't even think I could look him in the face ever again. 441 00:22:48,406 --> 00:22:53,620 You ruined my wedding day Because you were selfish for so many reasons. 442 00:22:53,620 --> 00:22:57,410 You, you stole our truck, you were drunk, and you were going to meet 443 00:22:57,410 --> 00:23:01,160 a one-night stand you ruin that moment for her, for all of them. 444 00:23:01,625 --> 00:23:02,765 I would not be able to look at him. 445 00:23:02,765 --> 00:23:05,217 I'd be like, "Don't even be in the wedding at this point, please." I did 446 00:23:05,217 --> 00:23:09,417 end up running a bit late, but honestly, everyone expected me to at that point. 447 00:23:09,993 --> 00:23:13,983 The ceremony itself was beautiful, minus one groomsman who was still in 448 00:23:13,983 --> 00:23:18,793 jail because it was a holiday weekend and there was no judge available. 449 00:23:19,123 --> 00:23:19,533 Good. 450 00:23:19,786 --> 00:23:22,396 He should sit in jail, and he should think about what he did. 451 00:23:22,659 --> 00:23:25,249 Miss your brother's wedding, you have to live with that for the rest 452 00:23:25,249 --> 00:23:26,589 of your life because you were dumb. 453 00:23:27,398 --> 00:23:27,798 Sorry. 454 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:33,314 I married my husband, and for a moment, I felt like everything had finally settled. 455 00:23:33,660 --> 00:23:34,100 Nope. 456 00:23:34,354 --> 00:23:39,744 Someone decided it would be a great idea to bail my brother-in-law out of jail 457 00:23:39,997 --> 00:23:41,617 and bring him straight to the wedding. 458 00:23:41,897 --> 00:23:43,567 Nope, that person's going to jail too. 459 00:23:43,817 --> 00:23:45,647 No, I'm not, I'm not doing that. 460 00:23:45,947 --> 00:23:46,897 I didn't say anything. 461 00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,400 I figured if my husband wanted his whole family there, then that was his decision. 462 00:23:50,989 --> 00:23:55,019 The next day, we were all still at the Airbnb enjoying the post-wedding hangout. 463 00:23:55,296 --> 00:23:56,996 Then my brother-in-law showed up again. 464 00:23:57,363 --> 00:24:01,603 I told my husband I didn't want him there, but he insisted his brother should 465 00:24:01,603 --> 00:24:05,533 stay I'm kind of liking this fiancé right now, and I'm sorry if he's your… 466 00:24:05,553 --> 00:24:07,843 Well, I guess he's your husband now, and I'm sorry. 467 00:24:07,863 --> 00:24:13,080 But for one, he went out the night before, looked you in the face, came home drunk 468 00:24:13,423 --> 00:24:14,023 Okay? 469 00:24:14,243 --> 00:24:17,713 But we know this brother-in-law messed up the wedding morning. 470 00:24:18,415 --> 00:24:19,075 He was dumb. 471 00:24:19,368 --> 00:24:22,125 And now they're like, "No, he should come hang out with us." Okay. 472 00:24:22,345 --> 00:24:27,135 She said, "I let it go until everyone started drinking again. At some point, 473 00:24:27,145 --> 00:24:30,845 my brother-in-law said something to one of the groomsmen, let's call him Jay, 474 00:24:31,098 --> 00:24:35,418 which turned into a full-blown argument that escalated into a physical fight." 475 00:24:35,678 --> 00:24:37,118 Who is this brother-in-law? 476 00:24:37,576 --> 00:24:38,346 Get him out of here. 477 00:24:38,982 --> 00:24:43,788 " My husband stepped in and ended up with a broken toe trying to break 478 00:24:43,838 --> 00:24:48,870 it up." Mm-mm. Brother-in-law has got to go. Says, "Jay left, but my 479 00:24:48,870 --> 00:24:50,870 brother-in-law went back inside the house. 480 00:24:51,123 --> 00:24:52,753 At that point, I was done. 481 00:24:53,073 --> 00:24:55,133 I went inside and told him to leave. 482 00:24:55,223 --> 00:24:57,983 He refused, saying he had every right to be there because 483 00:24:57,983 --> 00:24:59,243 his whole family was there. 484 00:24:59,636 --> 00:25:02,946 I told him the Airbnb was in my name, and if he didn't leave, 485 00:25:03,196 --> 00:25:06,690 I would call the police." Where is your husband at this time? 486 00:25:06,770 --> 00:25:07,530 Where is he? 487 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:09,860 Because this is his responsibility. 488 00:25:10,067 --> 00:25:11,270 He needs to tell the brother to leave. 489 00:25:11,610 --> 00:25:13,550 You should not be having to tell him. 490 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:14,870 He should be standing up for you. 491 00:25:14,940 --> 00:25:16,070 This is your husband now. 492 00:25:17,261 --> 00:25:18,141 " Then I walked away. 493 00:25:18,557 --> 00:25:21,957 I ended up arguing with my husband, and I told him I wanted to press charges 494 00:25:21,967 --> 00:25:26,532 against his brother for stealing the truck." Yes. " At that point, I stopped 495 00:25:26,532 --> 00:25:31,608 speaking to my husband altogether." This is a wild story, you guys. 496 00:25:31,868 --> 00:25:33,648 " I went back downstairs. 497 00:25:33,728 --> 00:25:37,608 My brother-in-law had finally left, which was the only small win. 498 00:25:38,325 --> 00:25:43,035 Jay had been staying at the Airbnb too, but after the fight, I texted him to let 499 00:25:43,035 --> 00:25:47,645 him know he was no longer welcome and gave his room to another guest." Oh, no. 500 00:25:47,902 --> 00:25:50,732 Was this Jay guy drinking now, so he's driving around drunk? 501 00:25:50,732 --> 00:25:51,602 Like, I'm so confused. 502 00:25:51,911 --> 00:25:55,601 Later that night, Jay either ignored or didn't see my message and showed 503 00:25:55,611 --> 00:25:58,333 up anyway That's gonna be a problem. 504 00:25:58,682 --> 00:26:03,613 Everyone was already asleep when he arrived, drunk and loud, 505 00:26:03,871 --> 00:26:07,881 pounding on the door of the room my friend was now staying in. 506 00:26:08,519 --> 00:26:13,359 He woke everyone up, and before leaving, he punched a hole in the wall, 507 00:26:13,610 --> 00:26:15,500 causing more damage to the Airbnb. 508 00:26:15,730 --> 00:26:17,770 I see why you didn't want your husband to go out with these 509 00:26:17,770 --> 00:26:21,180 guys now, but also, like, why is he friends with guys like this? 510 00:26:21,443 --> 00:26:23,883 I shouldn't say they have drinking problems, 'cause I know, like, 511 00:26:23,883 --> 00:26:27,122 around weddings and events, people drink, but We all drink. 512 00:26:27,432 --> 00:26:27,642 We all… 513 00:26:27,752 --> 00:26:29,372 Around weddings and events, whatever. 514 00:26:29,947 --> 00:26:31,897 But they sound aggressive. 515 00:26:32,157 --> 00:26:37,767 Your husband ignores you and, does not have your back during any of this. 516 00:26:38,037 --> 00:26:39,977 I wouldn't wanna marry someone like that. 517 00:26:40,230 --> 00:26:46,054 Like, they don't respect you Also very risky giving his room to a friend. 518 00:26:46,237 --> 00:26:50,554 not your fault, but, the fact that he could've just come home and, just gone in 519 00:26:50,554 --> 00:26:52,504 that room if someone were, like, changing. 520 00:26:52,514 --> 00:26:52,864 You know? 521 00:26:52,864 --> 00:26:53,614 You just never know. 522 00:26:53,624 --> 00:26:55,060 That's… Stuff freaks me out. 523 00:26:55,433 --> 00:26:55,843 Okay. 524 00:26:56,563 --> 00:26:57,063 Geez. 525 00:26:57,133 --> 00:27:03,286 "Through all of this, my husband never had my back. When I told him I wanted 526 00:27:03,286 --> 00:27:07,629 to press charges against his brother, he went to his family, and since they 527 00:27:07,639 --> 00:27:10,625 all said no, he didn't." Divorce. 528 00:27:10,785 --> 00:27:11,405 Divorce. 529 00:27:12,055 --> 00:27:12,675 Divorce. 530 00:27:14,234 --> 00:27:14,844 I'm sorry. 531 00:27:14,894 --> 00:27:19,290 Like, that sounds dramatic, but this is your wedding day, wedding night, wedding 532 00:27:19,290 --> 00:27:21,290 week, and he couldn't respect you. 533 00:27:21,540 --> 00:27:23,020 He couldn't listen to one thing you said. 534 00:27:23,290 --> 00:27:26,327 He allowed all this to happen, and I know it was the brother's choice to drive 535 00:27:26,327 --> 00:27:30,704 drunk, but he started all of this, and he did not stand up for you at one time. 536 00:27:31,014 --> 00:27:31,884 I'm stressed for you. 537 00:27:32,432 --> 00:27:36,519 " The day we were supposed to leave for our honeymoon in Mexico, I told him I 538 00:27:36,529 --> 00:27:42,088 wasn't going and that I wasn't even going to file the marriage certificate 539 00:27:42,088 --> 00:27:48,649 because of how many times he chose his family over me that weekend." Yes. " We 540 00:27:48,650 --> 00:27:51,489 did…" Oh, okay, there's a change here. 541 00:27:51,756 --> 00:27:54,096 " We did eventually work things out. 542 00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:59,453 It's been almost six years now, but his brother still has never 543 00:27:59,463 --> 00:28:02,023 apologized for anything he did. 544 00:28:02,554 --> 00:28:08,141 He believes that spending one night in jail was punishment enough." Oh, boo hoo. 545 00:28:08,151 --> 00:28:08,851 No, it wasn't. 546 00:28:09,669 --> 00:28:13,264 That would make me mad for eternity. 547 00:28:14,370 --> 00:28:15,110 No, I don't know. 548 00:28:15,129 --> 00:28:21,003 I just… To be around that toxicity, the brother-in-law going to act that way and 549 00:28:21,003 --> 00:28:26,233 not apologize to you, his brother's wife, I could never be around someone like that. 550 00:28:26,253 --> 00:28:26,993 That's terrible. 551 00:28:27,250 --> 00:28:31,650 " It also took years and a lot of couples therapy for my husband to even 552 00:28:31,660 --> 00:28:35,416 acknowledge he had any fault in what happened." How did you guys eventually 553 00:28:35,416 --> 00:28:39,052 work things out, though? That's what I'm wondering. Like, who made the 554 00:28:39,052 --> 00:28:40,102 decision to say, "You know what? 555 00:28:40,102 --> 00:28:42,939 We should try this again," if he couldn't even apologize or 556 00:28:42,939 --> 00:28:44,699 realize that he had any fault? 557 00:28:44,959 --> 00:28:46,869 The fact that he didn't even back you up. 558 00:28:47,146 --> 00:28:51,049 He didn't wanna press charges against his brother for stealing your truck and 559 00:28:51,059 --> 00:28:53,029 literally ruining your wedding morning. 560 00:28:53,359 --> 00:28:56,576 That's literally, picked his brother before anybody. 561 00:28:56,854 --> 00:28:58,424 That is wild. 562 00:28:58,717 --> 00:28:59,237 Oh my gosh. 563 00:28:59,247 --> 00:29:02,147 She said, "Let's just say it was a wedding weekend I'll never forget." 564 00:29:02,404 --> 00:29:03,614 This poor woman. 565 00:29:04,474 --> 00:29:09,487 I, I mean, I hope she, you know, with everything she has feels like, 566 00:29:09,497 --> 00:29:12,697 "Okay, he's apologetic, and we can work through this, and we're good." I 567 00:29:12,697 --> 00:29:14,297 mean, she said it's been six years now. 568 00:29:14,567 --> 00:29:17,407 But I don't know if I could let something like that go. 569 00:29:17,667 --> 00:29:21,907 It wasn't just a random day or a random holiday, it was your wedding day. 570 00:29:22,180 --> 00:29:26,714 You plan for this, you spend tons of money on it, you picture 571 00:29:26,714 --> 00:29:29,301 everything, and he had to be dumb. 572 00:29:29,507 --> 00:29:33,533 If I had done something stupid to ever ruin someone's wedding day, You 573 00:29:33,533 --> 00:29:36,903 better believe I would be kissing their feet for the rest of their life. 574 00:29:37,223 --> 00:29:37,873 That's how I am. 575 00:29:37,873 --> 00:29:41,223 I could, like, forget someone's birthday, and, like, the next day I'm texting 576 00:29:41,223 --> 00:29:44,549 them and I'm like, "Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry I forgot your birthday." this 577 00:29:44,549 --> 00:29:47,143 would literally make me feel so upset. 578 00:29:47,203 --> 00:29:48,723 Like, oh my gosh. 579 00:29:48,973 --> 00:29:52,023 The fact that the brother's never apologized, I need to know, like, 580 00:29:52,033 --> 00:29:53,263 are you going to family holidays? 581 00:29:53,303 --> 00:29:54,743 Are you going to family birthdays? 582 00:29:54,803 --> 00:29:56,923 did the rest of his family apologize? 583 00:29:57,189 --> 00:29:58,373 Like, This is terrible. 584 00:29:58,393 --> 00:30:00,298 That that's a very wild story. 585 00:30:00,635 --> 00:30:05,995 I feel like if you guys have 100%, worked through everything and you're happy, 586 00:30:05,995 --> 00:30:10,641 and you guys are a healthy relationship now, you should redo something. 587 00:30:10,651 --> 00:30:15,678 Do some kind of vow renewal thing, or redo a ceremony with just the 588 00:30:15,678 --> 00:30:17,438 two of you and, trusted friends. 589 00:30:17,768 --> 00:30:19,408 Like, what happened to this Jay guy? 590 00:30:19,504 --> 00:30:20,534 who's this Jay guy? 591 00:30:20,534 --> 00:30:21,744 Is he still a friend? 592 00:30:22,004 --> 00:30:25,007 I think your husband needs new friends Wow, that would make a good skit. 593 00:30:25,281 --> 00:30:25,841 All right, guys. 594 00:30:25,871 --> 00:30:29,397 Well, that's wild jail story. 595 00:30:29,417 --> 00:30:31,047 I, this poor woman. 596 00:30:31,304 --> 00:30:36,094 I really hope to God that they've worked things out and it's much better now. 597 00:30:36,094 --> 00:30:39,300 But I don't know, you guys. 598 00:30:39,300 --> 00:30:40,490 I don't know, guys. 599 00:30:40,490 --> 00:30:40,780 Wow. 600 00:30:41,030 --> 00:30:41,450 Okay. 601 00:30:41,727 --> 00:30:42,157 All right. 602 00:30:42,424 --> 00:30:44,524 let's get to this week's confessions. 603 00:30:44,810 --> 00:30:48,960 All right, we asked, "Be honest, what's something a family member expected 604 00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:51,994 from you that felt unfair?" Okay. 605 00:30:52,324 --> 00:30:56,524 This says, "As a kid, I always got less presents than my brother 606 00:30:56,774 --> 00:31:00,257 and had to be grateful for what I got." Oh, that's so sad. 607 00:31:00,510 --> 00:31:03,574 It's sad 'cause, like, I think people don't think kids notice 608 00:31:03,574 --> 00:31:05,557 that, but I think they do sometimes. 609 00:31:05,860 --> 00:31:06,680 that's why I only have one. 610 00:31:07,661 --> 00:31:12,331 " To let my grandma's friend come to our very small ceremony that we already 611 00:31:12,331 --> 00:31:18,088 cut people from." Yeah, that's hard. " Money because I got a bonus." What? 612 00:31:18,795 --> 00:31:22,495 A family member expected money from you because you got a bonus? 613 00:31:22,749 --> 00:31:25,289 That's the thing, they always say, like, when you win, the lottery or you 614 00:31:25,289 --> 00:31:29,625 win some kind of thing, to be careful about who you tell, because people will 615 00:31:29,625 --> 00:31:31,005 start kinda coming out of the woodworks. 616 00:31:31,025 --> 00:31:34,925 "Oh, well, remember when we were 15 years old and I bought you that CD 617 00:31:34,925 --> 00:31:37,895 for $10? Remember when this happened?" Then people just kinda, like, start 618 00:31:37,895 --> 00:31:39,065 coming out asking you for money. 619 00:31:39,065 --> 00:31:39,775 That's wild, though. 620 00:31:40,438 --> 00:31:44,998 " Mother-in-law posted on Facebook with her friend's grandkids playing 621 00:31:45,008 --> 00:31:49,028 grandma to try to get us to try…" Ew. 622 00:31:49,301 --> 00:31:50,161 So weird. 623 00:31:50,485 --> 00:31:56,308 " Being the perfect sister to siblings that treat me like shit or I'm the bad one." I 624 00:31:56,308 --> 00:32:00,238 feel like there's a lot of, pressure like that when it comes to siblings of, like, 625 00:32:00,351 --> 00:32:04,221 the blood is thicker than water kinda thing, and it's… As you get older, you 626 00:32:04,221 --> 00:32:08,828 kinda realize, you choose who you want in your life, and if they treat you in a bad 627 00:32:08,828 --> 00:32:10,598 way, you don't have to let 'em around. 628 00:32:10,875 --> 00:32:11,445 You just don't. 629 00:32:11,668 --> 00:32:14,928 You are in charge of who you let into your space and how 630 00:32:14,958 --> 00:32:17,194 often they have access to you. 631 00:32:17,204 --> 00:32:18,294 I think we say that a lot. 632 00:32:18,294 --> 00:32:19,064 Boundaries, right? 633 00:32:19,398 --> 00:32:20,238 All right, last one. 634 00:32:20,418 --> 00:32:25,631 "My husband had to leave our reception to deal with his drunk grandpa. His 635 00:32:25,631 --> 00:32:30,208 mom wouldn't do it. She hid." She hid? 636 00:32:30,807 --> 00:32:34,217 It sucks when it's someone, like, taking away from your day. 637 00:32:34,504 --> 00:32:37,254 But especially when it's, like, a family member and someone 638 00:32:37,264 --> 00:32:39,294 else could probably handle it. 639 00:32:39,547 --> 00:32:41,637 they're gonna have the husband leave the reception. 640 00:32:41,947 --> 00:32:42,867 That's pretty crappy. 641 00:32:43,187 --> 00:32:44,067 Sorry that happened. 642 00:32:44,410 --> 00:32:44,850 Wow. 643 00:32:44,850 --> 00:32:45,670 Okay, guys. 644 00:32:45,924 --> 00:32:46,734 That was a lot. 645 00:32:46,990 --> 00:32:47,620 It's late. 646 00:32:47,847 --> 00:32:50,447 I hope that you guys enjoy these wild episodes. 647 00:32:50,477 --> 00:32:51,347 I know I did. 648 00:32:51,447 --> 00:32:55,094 you guys are always keeping me on my toes, and I'm always looking for the next 649 00:32:55,174 --> 00:32:58,014 skit, as this one is coming to a close. 650 00:32:58,204 --> 00:33:01,174 By the time you guys listen to this, episode, I think we'll be 651 00:33:01,431 --> 00:33:03,211 done with the Scarlett story. 652 00:33:03,374 --> 00:33:07,014 and then for everybody wondering if it's not up yet, we do compile 653 00:33:07,014 --> 00:33:08,484 them all into one long story. 654 00:33:08,794 --> 00:33:12,364 And then YouTube just started this feature called, Shows, which is really 655 00:33:12,384 --> 00:33:15,734 awesome for the kind of series I do because they'll automatically put them in 656 00:33:15,754 --> 00:33:19,751 order and then play them just like a TV show, kind of like YouTube or something. 657 00:33:20,219 --> 00:33:20,559 but yeah. 658 00:33:20,579 --> 00:33:23,279 So I'm working on a next storyline for you guys. 659 00:33:23,319 --> 00:33:26,539 Again, by the time you hear this, it'll probably already be out. 660 00:33:26,802 --> 00:33:29,362 and then I have a bunch of minis that I'll be posting pretty soon 661 00:33:29,362 --> 00:33:32,756 because, your girl's gotta take some time off this summer and 662 00:33:32,756 --> 00:33:34,126 work on some other stuff as well. 663 00:33:34,146 --> 00:33:36,506 But excited for some new content coming out. 664 00:33:36,516 --> 00:33:42,436 Like I said, we started the first Coffee I have some other little minis in the works 665 00:33:42,516 --> 00:33:46,776 that I'm really excited for, just some new characters coming out and just having 666 00:33:46,776 --> 00:33:48,606 some fun with some different things. 667 00:33:48,902 --> 00:33:49,672 but that's all I got. 668 00:33:49,989 --> 00:33:53,219 Thanks for hanging out with me this week, and I will see you next time. 669 00:33:53,349 --> 00:33:53,769 Bye now.