<v Speaker 1>Jarrey Katy and Josh six one hundred. Hey, listen, if

<v Speaker 1>you're in the world of weddings right now, maybe you're

<v Speaker 1>going to a wedding, maybe you're planning a wedding, This

<v Speaker 1>might sound a little bit familiar to you. I saw

<v Speaker 1>this story this morning and I was like, what, So

<v Speaker 1>a growing number of couples are telling their wedding guests

<v Speaker 1>no gifts and then they put dot dot dot seriously

<v Speaker 1>no gifts, so just money, no, not even monies. What.

<v Speaker 2>Uh.

<v Speaker 1>There's all these wedding planning platforms that brides can go

<v Speaker 1>on to, you know, and you know, book all their

<v Speaker 1>crap whatever it is. It's been a long time since

<v Speaker 1>I've had to do all this. But anyway, Uh, they're

<v Speaker 1>saying that the number of couples choosing gift free weddings

<v Speaker 1>has roughly doubled in the past year. And the big

<v Speaker 1>reason is is these couples planning the weddings are like,

<v Speaker 1>you know what, going to a wedding has actually gotten

<v Speaker 1>incredibly expensive. So the gift to us is just you

<v Speaker 1>being here and all of us enjoying time together because

<v Speaker 1>we know that you're maybe having to do a flight,

<v Speaker 1>a hotel. An uber full on rental car, and we

<v Speaker 1>don't want you putting out any more money. You have

<v Speaker 1>made the trip and you're celebrating with us. That is

<v Speaker 1>gift enough. And I can tell by your face right now, Katie,

<v Speaker 1>this is not good for you. If you get married

<v Speaker 1>for the fifth time, you're gonna want gifts.

<v Speaker 3>I've never been married. I feel like I should get gifts.

<v Speaker 2>No, you know, like when you have a baby, you

<v Speaker 2>have the baby shower for the first baby, but then

<v Speaker 2>the second baby in the store.

<v Speaker 3>Baby don't need a baby shower. I've never been married.

<v Speaker 1>I feel like I should still, Yeah, but you have stuff.

<v Speaker 1>Another big note in this story is these couples are saying, listen,

<v Speaker 1>we already lived together. We've been living in sin for

<v Speaker 1>a long time. There's nothing else that we need. We

<v Speaker 1>don't need another toaster or a mixer or a charcuterie board.

<v Speaker 1>We don't need any of that. So save your money.

<v Speaker 3>What about like to the honeymoon or a truth they're

<v Speaker 3>not asking for it.

<v Speaker 1>Okay, So here's what I did with my wedding. Okay,

<v Speaker 1>we did have an account set up where people could

<v Speaker 1>go and just donate mine to a fund that would

<v Speaker 1>get us new furniture because we wanted a whole new

<v Speaker 1>bedroom set nice. We wanted to destroy it because we

<v Speaker 1>were newly wet less nice, but we wanted a whole

<v Speaker 1>new bedroom set up. So that's not cheap right now,

<v Speaker 1>you know, if you're wandering over to I don't know,

<v Speaker 1>ok Express at the time, and you know, so a

<v Speaker 1>lot of people did that. They donated to that fund

<v Speaker 1>and it put a massive chunk into that new bed

<v Speaker 1>and we really appreciated that. Other couples are actually flipping

<v Speaker 1>the whole tradition around and they are giving their guests

<v Speaker 1>gifts roll into the wedding which has already costed you

<v Speaker 1>thirty thousand dollars, and they're getting their guests sweatshirts and

<v Speaker 1>hats and concert style posters. Yeah. Wait, that's what I

<v Speaker 1>want when I go to your wedding, a concert concert

<v Speaker 1>style poster of you.

<v Speaker 3>So are they going to set up a merch ten

<v Speaker 3>outside theirs?

<v Speaker 2>Is?

<v Speaker 1>You know how quick that poster would end up in

<v Speaker 1>the trash on my walking out from that wedding. Why

<v Speaker 1>in the world left I would be rolling that thing

<v Speaker 1>up and shoving in a trash can cop.

<v Speaker 3>Into the wedding mins with your initials on it.

<v Speaker 1>So according to the Knot, which is a massive wedding website,

<v Speaker 1>they say that the average cost is simply attending a

<v Speaker 1>wedding right now, and be thinking of this. If you

<v Speaker 1>are attending a wedding is six hundred and ten dollars

<v Speaker 1>per person. Now, that's obviously got to be you're going

<v Speaker 1>out of state, right it has to be. If I'm

<v Speaker 1>rolling down to Parker for a wedding, I'm not spending

<v Speaker 1>six hundred and ten bars. Oh. There was one gen

<v Speaker 1>Z wedding guest on the NOTT and she had a

<v Speaker 1>post that said just going to a wedding for her

<v Speaker 1>friend is costing her two thousand dollars between the dress

<v Speaker 1>and airfare and hotel. And she said, there's no way

<v Speaker 1>that I'm at a gift on top of that. It

<v Speaker 1>feels extremely excessive. So I don't know how I feel

<v Speaker 1>about this. I guess if I don't know, I don't

<v Speaker 1>know how I feel about this. If I to get

<v Speaker 1>remarried now, fingers crossed, I wouldn't want gifts because I

<v Speaker 1>got enough junk.

<v Speaker 2>Well, again, you're at a stage in your life where

<v Speaker 2>you don't want things, But what do you need?

<v Speaker 1>If you want to get married tomorrow. What do you need?

<v Speaker 3>I need a man first.

<v Speaker 1>Registry, go to and get you and you can put

<v Speaker 1>him together myself. But you probably could because technology is

<v Speaker 1>fascinated RW. But like, what would you put on your registry?

<v Speaker 3>I would want the honeymoon paid for.

<v Speaker 2>I would like I think that if I was going

<v Speaker 2>to get somebody to pay for anything, that would be it.

<v Speaker 3>Maybe the down payment on the house.

<v Speaker 1>Like there is a site note of the body of

<v Speaker 1>this where a lot of couples and brides, mostly probably

<v Speaker 1>some bridezillas are saying that showing up without a gift

<v Speaker 1>is rude and you should follow the cover your plate

<v Speaker 1>rule if you're going to a wedding, and that means

<v Speaker 1>the gift should roughly cover the cost of what the

<v Speaker 1>couples on your entire dinner. So think of your chicken

<v Speaker 1>platters sitting in front of you, maybe a couple of drinks,

<v Speaker 1>and you're like, eh, what was that fifty bucks? So

<v Speaker 1>that gift should equal what your plate costs you at

<v Speaker 1>the wedding.

<v Speaker 2>But now they're saying all of this extra stuff with

<v Speaker 2>the you know, complicated too.

<v Speaker 1>It's way too complicated, complicated. Just do what I do

<v Speaker 1>I did this just the other day to one of

<v Speaker 1>our listeners. Hi, Robert, just make up something that you

<v Speaker 1>have going on that day so you can't make you Yeah,

<v Speaker 1>rsvp ah man, I'm busys Robert. Sorry, sorry Robert, Josh

<v Speaker 1>and I will be there harber to do if it's

<v Speaker 1>your sister or something else. I was pretty fired up

<v Speaker 1>the other day and I came into the studio. Yeah,

<v Speaker 1>it was early too, so early. It was like at

<v Speaker 1>six am. Case, like, what did you do yesterday?

<v Speaker 3>That was like an hour before the show.

<v Speaker 2>It was like five day early and you start firing off,

<v Speaker 2>and man, did I go off?

<v Speaker 1>I was like, let me tell you what I did yesterday.

<v Speaker 1>So I had to run some errands on this into

<v Speaker 1>town the other day after the show, and I had

<v Speaker 1>some time to kill before I made those errands, so

<v Speaker 1>I wandered over too. I'm gonna keep everything very vague.

<v Speaker 1>I wandered over to a mall and I went into

<v Speaker 1>this mall. And I'm not going to mention any stores either,

<v Speaker 1>but I went into this mall. So it's a high

<v Speaker 1>end mall. I wandered around and I started going into

<v Speaker 1>a few of the shops, well known shops that are

<v Speaker 1>pretty hit, pretty trendy. Yeah, you'll know them if you

<v Speaker 1>saw him. And I'm walking around these stores and I'm like,

<v Speaker 1>that's a nice shirt. I flip over the price tag

<v Speaker 1>and it's like one hundred and fifty bucks.

<v Speaker 3>Fired you right up.

<v Speaker 1>I walked over to the table. I was like, oh,

<v Speaker 1>I like these little joggers. These joggers look pretty good.

<v Speaker 1>Probably rock these a little bit. One hundred and eighty

<v Speaker 1>dollars for a pair of joggers.

<v Speaker 3>And you were mad, big bad.

<v Speaker 1>The words in my internal monologue I cannot repeat on

<v Speaker 1>the air, my internal monologue. So I was like, okay,

<v Speaker 1>all right, whatever, I'm not buying anything here. So I

<v Speaker 1>left and then I walked down to the hall to

<v Speaker 1>another very well known store that is incredibly hip in trendy,

<v Speaker 1>and I grabbed a baseball cap to see how much

<v Speaker 1>it was, and it was eighty dollars for baseball cab.

<v Speaker 1>And I wasn't in that store for more than thirty seconds,

<v Speaker 1>and I said, I'm out of here.

<v Speaker 3>You screamed it.

<v Speaker 1>Well, I came in the studio and I screamed yeah,

<v Speaker 1>because I went in about four or five other stores

<v Speaker 1>and looked at the price tags of shirts that were

<v Speaker 1>over one hundred dollars. Yeah, joggers, shorts, whatever, Oh, approaching

<v Speaker 1>two hundred dollars, and I in the studio was going, blank,

<v Speaker 1>you blank, you blank every store in this mall. And

<v Speaker 1>then I was like, who are these people buying these

<v Speaker 1>products at that price? Insane? That is stupid, That is

<v Speaker 1>stupid to buy a pair of joggers for two hundred dollars.

<v Speaker 1>I bought a pair of joggers at Sam's Club the

<v Speaker 1>other day that were fifteen bucks. Yeah, they looked exactly

<v Speaker 1>and feel exactly like the joggers in one of these stores.

<v Speaker 1>Mine were fifteen dollars. These were two hundreds.

<v Speaker 3>And he probably couldn't tell a difference if you were

<v Speaker 3>given the.

<v Speaker 1>Two, if it was a blind pants tryon test, I

<v Speaker 1>would not have known. And it instantly got me pissed

<v Speaker 1>off that there are so many people out there struggling,

<v Speaker 1>and there's these millennials and zeers who I don't have.

<v Speaker 3>Any money, they can't afford any means and go crillying

<v Speaker 3>about it.

<v Speaker 1>But you know who these who were shopping in these stores,

<v Speaker 1>people that had no reason to be shopping in these stores.

<v Speaker 1>They were young millennials and zers in there, and I'm like,

<v Speaker 1>this is why you guys can't afford anything. Oh yeah,

<v Speaker 1>you're buying this crap for the gram. Yeah no, the

<v Speaker 1>only reason you're doing that. And that's exactly it is.

<v Speaker 2>It's so it's totally social presence, Like that is absolutely

<v Speaker 2>what it is. I was just talking to the baby

<v Speaker 2>Nana about this because she gets into the habit of

<v Speaker 2>she has like a concert coming up, or you know,

<v Speaker 2>she has an event coming.

<v Speaker 3>Up and she needs a new outfit.

<v Speaker 2>For it, and she does that where she thinks she

<v Speaker 2>needs to buy the high end purse, the high end.

<v Speaker 3>Shoes to go with it, blah blah blah.

<v Speaker 2>And her justification is, well, I'm only doing it when

<v Speaker 2>I have an event, when I have this. You know,

<v Speaker 2>she added up the things that she would spent on

<v Speaker 2>just this summer alone. I asked her to add up

<v Speaker 2>the things that she bought this summer alone. Eleven hundred dollars.

<v Speaker 2>That is dumb clothes, dumb that she wore once. These

<v Speaker 2>are for concerts, These are for you know.

<v Speaker 1>She won't hear them again.

<v Speaker 3>Well, she probably will, but I mean they're really fancy outfits.

<v Speaker 3>There's only so many places you care something like that.

<v Speaker 1>You know.

<v Speaker 2>So it's like it really takes so it stung her

<v Speaker 2>and now she's on a she can't buy anything face

<v Speaker 2>so for from now until the end of the year,

<v Speaker 2>she has grounded herself from contact because she's.

<v Speaker 3>Spent so much money this summer.

<v Speaker 1>Story after story about how the saving that you can't

<v Speaker 1>even cover a thousand dollars expense. There's so many Americans

<v Speaker 1>that can't cover one thousand dollars expense if something were

<v Speaker 1>to pop up with your car. Yeah, all of you

<v Speaker 1>are in there buying these baseball caps for eighty dollars

<v Speaker 1>and that is just so stupid.

<v Speaker 3>It is pretty insane.

<v Speaker 1>And save your money. You can get a ball cap

<v Speaker 1>that does this. It blocks the sun, just the same

<v Speaker 1>off Amazon for fifteen dollars. Put the rest of it

<v Speaker 1>in an investment count and watch your money grow. For

<v Speaker 1>God's sakes.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, I mean it is. It is kind of

<v Speaker 3>frustrating to see that.

<v Speaker 1>I called my wife as soon as I left that

<v Speaker 1>I went off on my wife. Fired, uh I did?

<v Speaker 1>I was yes's like, please stop yelling at me. I

<v Speaker 1>was like, this is so dumb that we are all

<v Speaker 1>being so pressured into buying all this crap. You're paying

<v Speaker 1>for a logo so you look good on your social media.

<v Speaker 1>The flex is having cash in the bank and shutting

<v Speaker 1>up about it and not telling anybody, not showing your wealth,

<v Speaker 1>not flaunting it. That should be your flex right now. Well,

<v Speaker 1>but it's instead of an eighty dollars hat, Josh.

<v Speaker 2>We wanted to kind of to point Josh out of the.

<v Speaker 4>Problem, you know, like, you're only part of the problem

<v Speaker 4>if you can't afford it. That's okay, Yeah, you're only

<v Speaker 4>part of the problem. You can't afford it, that's all.

<v Speaker 1>I'll be quiet.

<v Speaker 3>No we did.

<v Speaker 2>That was an awkward silence right there.

<v Speaker 3>It is part of the keeping up with the Joneses

<v Speaker 3>very much.

<v Speaker 2>So it's very much like, so your neighbor gets a pool,

<v Speaker 2>so you need to put in a pool because if

<v Speaker 2>you don't, your life's over. There's no point living if

<v Speaker 2>you don't have a pool, just like your neighbor. Right.

<v Speaker 4>It's the Instagram effect. You always people are always looking

<v Speaker 4>at you, always judging. You always just said you're.

<v Speaker 1>Buying these stupid logos for social media. Stop it, and

<v Speaker 1>I will stop.

<v Speaker 4>Like the older I've gotten too, I realized that too,

<v Speaker 4>Like I'm not going to those stores. I know exactly

<v Speaker 4>what you're talking about. I'm going to those less and

<v Speaker 4>less and less every day.

<v Speaker 1>You come in and say you went to Nordy's this week,

<v Speaker 1>and I was with the GF.

<v Speaker 4>Here's the GF. But that being said, you don't need

<v Speaker 4>the name brand stuff as much as I thought I

<v Speaker 4>used to.

<v Speaker 1>I have on Amazon pants today, Amazon's basics on today,

<v Speaker 1>Target Polo, and I look pretty good today. I look

<v Speaker 1>really well put together, Katie. Where did you buy.

<v Speaker 2>Your I think my entire outfit costs thirty bucks TJ Max.

<v Speaker 3>And you know that is.

<v Speaker 1>Need way more than somebody walking around in two hundred

<v Speaker 1>dollars softy pants.

<v Speaker 2>Well, and I think again, you go back to just

<v Speaker 2>the way you were raised and stuff, because I know

<v Speaker 2>I you know, coming from a household that I didn't

<v Speaker 2>have a lot of money growing up. And you know,

<v Speaker 2>when we went back to school clothes shopping, my parents

<v Speaker 2>directed us towards the clearance tracks.

<v Speaker 3>So that's kind of where I go now. Like when

<v Speaker 3>I go shopping, if I go into a fancy store.

<v Speaker 2>Immediately back of the store, where are the red tags?

<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm looking for, you know, each and every time.

<v Speaker 1>So that's just you can look good by shopping frugal,

<v Speaker 1>not worrying about what your tag says, and just clean

<v Speaker 1>yourself up. You can look put together without spending Oh

<v Speaker 1>my god, if I had bought like two shirts, it

<v Speaker 1>would have been three hundred dollars for two shirts that

<v Speaker 1>I liked.

<v Speaker 3>Yeah, them all, which is not ask not what are

<v Speaker 3>your kids asking for the expensive stuff for? They're not

<v Speaker 3>ask for that.

<v Speaker 1>No, no, And I almost have to push them to

<v Speaker 1>be like, hey, it's it's no. I'm not gonna go

<v Speaker 1>to I don't want to go. I don't want to

<v Speaker 1>talk about kids, but no, let's just say no, okay no.

<v Speaker 1>But they're frugal like me too, because I.

<v Speaker 2>Remember there were certain things that I needed, like I

<v Speaker 2>needed one hundred and twenty dollars shoes when I was

<v Speaker 2>growing up.

<v Speaker 1>But I played back have to do.

<v Speaker 3>I played basketball, so I had the flex.

<v Speaker 1>Right, There is scenarios if you are in a sport

<v Speaker 1>in high school or something, there are some products you

<v Speaker 1>are going to have to spend some cash on, for sure.

<v Speaker 1>But I'm telling you right now, if you're at a

<v Speaker 1>job where things are tight and you're having trouble making

<v Speaker 1>car payments, you're not saving, but yet you're running to

<v Speaker 1>the mall and buying this stuff. It's that whole saying

<v Speaker 1>that you're buying crap that you don't need to impress

<v Speaker 1>people you don't even like. And I love that saying, well, absolutely.

<v Speaker 2>It's truly like the younger generation a lot of it.

<v Speaker 2>They are influenced on social media and what they watch

<v Speaker 2>because well, now, if you see any of like the

<v Speaker 2>like Love is Blind, for example, you'll see a pretty

<v Speaker 2>outfit that a girl is wearing, and immediately you'll see

<v Speaker 2>a little prompt that says, do you want this outfit?

<v Speaker 3>Which buy it now?

<v Speaker 1>Crazy that you can do that.

<v Speaker 3>You can just buy it right from the screen.

<v Speaker 1>Shout out to Steph who just texted instead, I'm wearing

<v Speaker 1>a three dollars shirt I picked up at a garage sale. Yeah,

<v Speaker 1>you're doing it right, step Yeah, save the rest of

<v Speaker 1>your money, put it in an interest bearing account. A

<v Speaker 1>lot of people writing in about how they're flex is

<v Speaker 1>shopping at Costco. Hell's to the Yes, get you some

<v Speaker 1>big jars and mayonnaise and pants.

<v Speaker 2>I love getting a good deal on something like I

<v Speaker 2>have a bathrobe that's the UGS.

<v Speaker 3>It's an UGGS bathrobe.

<v Speaker 2>It is three sizes too small, but I paid twenty

<v Speaker 2>dollars for it.

<v Speaker 3>I wear it almost every day.

<v Speaker 1>I don't know about that that one you might have

<v Speaker 1>to throw away. So anyway, I'm sorry. I should have

<v Speaker 1>played a song, but my I'm pretty fire.

<v Speaker 3>You are fine, You've been fired up.

<v Speaker 1>I need to do this for your majesty, your majesty proclamation.

<v Speaker 1>All I'm asking you guys to do is think logically

<v Speaker 1>about this stuff. If you see pants that are almost

<v Speaker 1>two hundred dollars and a shirt is two hundred and

<v Speaker 1>a baseball cap that's eighty dollars for a hat, just

<v Speaker 1>ask yourself, should I buy this or should I save

<v Speaker 1>a little money? Okay, that's all I'm asking.

<v Speaker 3>Give yourself a day to think about it, right, yes, yes.

<v Speaker 1>Yes, And honestly, nobody on social media even cares. They

<v Speaker 1>don't care what you're wearing. Okay, in Amazon Basics pants

<v Speaker 1>they rock, all right? All I have to say, what

<v Speaker 1>are we done? Were done?