The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast

When was the last time you and your partner lost track of time talking about exciting ideas you have? Do you feel your partner neglects your dreams and ideas? Do you feel unsupported by your spouse in going at your dreams? When dreams are suppressed and invalidated we create a marriage filled with resentment and regret. Partners in happy relationships fuel each other’s dreams. In this episo...

Giving and receiving feedback is essential in a happy marriage, but how can we do it in a healthy way? Do you feel your partner takes your feedback as criticism? Do you find it challenging to express constructive feedback to your partner without creating conflict or shut-down? Or maybe you feel you get criticised and judged every time your partner gives you feedback, like they are constantly co...

Do you feel your marriage is filled with the constant pressure of navigating challenges without a map on how to do it? Have you been given advice before that only added to your to-do list with no results? What if there was a clear and easy to implement way to navigate challenges in relationships? In this episode we share three simple yet powerful agreements that have changed it all for us. With...

Do you ever feel your marriage could be so much more? Do you feel like your partner is not fully invested in your relationship? Join us in this episode as we speak to what was our break-up or break through moment in our relationship. In this episode we share what changed it all for us. Listen to the end to learn how we moved from insecure attachment to what we define as "devotional dependency" ...

Summary In this episode, Mark Usher discusses how to silence your inner critic and create a transformative year in your marriage for 2026. He emphasizes the importance of identifying cognitive distortions that hinder personal growth and relationship fulfilment. Mark introduces the concept of a 'North Star' vision, encouraging listeners to manifest their deepest desires and set meaningful goals ...

The 3 benefits you'll gain from listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You'll have a truly surprising gift she actually loves 2. It's a free gift BUT STILL holds more value than even the most expensive gift you purchase her. 3. It shows you inarguably love and passionately want ALL of her. FREE Presence, Progress + Protection Marriage Self-Assessment questionnaire and Receive A 9-Point P...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll know the two highest leverage 30secs periods in each day to practice being a great husband for maximum effect. 2. You’ll know how to tap into peak human memory research to make a great impression that lasts in your wife’s mind for hours. 3. You will be able to set two daily 30-second habits that will tran...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll understand the root cause behind all your marriage troubles. 2. You’ll have a simple everyday practice to help build your capacity for welcoming happiness and joy into your marriage and life experience. 3. You’ll be able to set a rock solid foundation in your core to support you rebuild the married life o...

The 3 benefits you'll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1.You'll eliminate self-doubt and fears of rejection that haunt most husbands in initiating sex. 2.You'll be able to access a space where you feel more fearless in leading your wife sexually. 3.You'll stop being a Mr Nice Guy feeling you need to land your sexual invitation like a waiter asks if you'd like to see the wine me...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll start remembering how natural it is to simply express “What it is that you want.” 2. You’ll understand the easiest path to getting what you want is clearly expressing what you do NOT want. 3. You’ll hear about the biggest transformation in the podcast since I began. FREE Presence, Progress + Protectio...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll understand how to master your emotions in seconds, no matter what pressure you’re experiencing. 2. You’ll have a practice used by Olympians, military commanders, CEOs and other peak performing men, ready at hand for the most challenging leadership position on the planet. Being a husband. 3. You’ll be abl...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. This mental strategy will build your warrior powers of masculine unstoppability. 2. You’ll know how to turn a low vibrational hopelessness into high vibrational hope that steers your marriage in the right direction. 3. You’ll set an optimistic foundation of connection for landing whatever truth you want to co...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll have a list of simple list of low to high energy mood boosters to help you feel way better in married life situations. 2. You’ll master the message your body is transmitting thus radically uplevel the quality of the response you evoke from your wife and kids. 3. You’ll stop investing your life energy into...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You and your wife will get to the end of the holidays feeling fulfilled and connected. 2. You will be the masculine leader who set up a powerful action plan that makes everyone happy. 3. You’ll drastically reduce unnecessary holiday conflict due to habitual unowned overwhelm. Want the Quickest & Easiest Path t...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll discover a Navy SEAL mindset to obliterate regular husband small-minded holiday season complaining 2. Your Queen will be able to surrender into your all in leadership. 3. You’ll grow in pride over the holiday season with how powerful you show up Want the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage...

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The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: - You’ll be able to eliminate chances of the marriage cancer of contempt ever forming in your marriage - You’ll have one question that will help you find clarity in any conflict - You’ll be able to show your wife just how mature you’ve become as a man FREE Presence, Progress + Protection Marriage Self-Assessmen...

In this special episode, you'll enjoy a deep and revealing conversation on the rapid and radical marriage transformation of Ida and Jake Braford. Some of the many elements of their transformational journey discussed are: Ida sharing her experiences of struggling with Jake's defensive behaviour Jake explaining his decision to seek coaching after recognizing his harmful patterns. Jake's learni...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll know the most powerful moment of your day to become present for full impact 2. You’ll be able to eliminate tons of unnecessary conflict creating moments by this one practice. 3. You’ll simply enjoy the time you spend with your family more! Want the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transf...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. Become awareness of the one most destructive pattern husbands show up in marriage with. 2. Know how to recognise the danger signs that lead up to an inevitable rupture. 3. Discover the one way your wife can help you in breaking this pattern. Want the Quickest & Easiest Path to Becoming the Marriage Transformin...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll experience an intense re-energisation of your motivation in marriage. 2. You’ll find this wisdom will help you break the Good Boy: Bad Boy pattern that kills marriage trust and connection. 3. You’ll reframe your wife’s emotional intensity in a way that allows you get turned on by it. Want the Quickest...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll have a winning formula to create a super high impact romantic email your wife will love. 2. You’ll eliminate the risk of rejection and guesswork knowing you are using a tried and tested formula. 3. You’ll have a simple 3-part formula you can use 100s of times in future to create magical spontaneous conne...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll know why specific recognition is infinitely more important for husband vs general recognition. 2. You’ll know a simple weekly practice to receive all the recognition you could ever want from your wife. 3. You’ll have a counter-balancing grounding force to help you embrace your Queen’s fieriest feedback....

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll know how to spot and self-regulate one of the most triggering wounds husbands have. 2. You’ll discover the definition of respect and more accurately know if respect is present in your marriage 3. You’ll get a timely reminder of Inspire Don’t Require being the strongest masculine leadership approach in ev...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll be able to recognise when conflict is more to do with Closeness and Connection and little or nothing to do with what’s being said 2. You’ll learn distinct differences between masculine and feminine relating on closeness and connection that are key to building trust and attraction 3. You’ll be armed with ...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll understand why conflicts will always exist until you understand what you’re really fighting about.  2. You’ll be armed with three simple questions to recognise if Power & Priorities are the real issue.  3. You’ll the single universal subconscious reason what we’re really fighting to reveal Want the Quic...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are:  1. You’ll know simple ways of breaking free from SSDD scheduled time and entering into spontaneous play with your Queen leaving both of you giggling like teenagers again. 2. You’ll understand how getting locked in chronos time is one of the most poisonous things for killing your marriage aliveness. 3. You’ll be ...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll learn a practical time trick that ultra-high performing men use and will have you quit complaining about not having time ever again. 2. You’ll learn what is possibly the simplest and most ignored peak performance hack that 99% of husbands never use and struggle as a result. 3. You know how boring leaders...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll recognise the signs your thinking has shifted to one of the three connection eroding mental patterns. 2. You’ll have clear access to the ultimate mental pattern that will create connection, trust and attraction on repeat for years to come. 3. This new awareness will empower you to go from conflict to c...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1.You’ll know how to recognise these potholes and avoid destroying the progress you’ve created 2.You’ll learn the one mindset trick that golfing legend Jack Niclaus used that set him apart from all other competitors that you can use to enter legendary husband status 3.You make a massive step in overcoming your on...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll learn the one major strategic difference between great masculine leaders in any arena and the pretenders who never reach their leadership potential. 2. You understand why if you want to ever feel freedom and fulfilment in marriage you simply CAN’T ignore this strategy. 3. You’ll learn how to access arguab...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll have a super simple yet comprehensive playbook to start winning in marriage today. 2. You’ll learn the highest leverage ideas all my private clients use to create massive transformation in a week. 3. You’ll feel a rocket boost of hope knowing that you have the power to change your marriage for the better...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll feel validated and less alone that your inner world emotional pains are pretty much universal amongst husbands. 2.You’ll be able to put words to the background lack of fulfilment you experience and find a powerful solution for it. 3.You’ll understand you are never locked in Same-Shit-Different-Day permane...

The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You’ll understand the distinction between masculine and feminine integrity practices helping you take nothing personal ever again. 2. You’ll know how to embrace any emotional intensity your Queen throws your way and exactly what to say to help ground her. 3. You’ll know a strategic trick to use everything you...

The three specific benefits you'll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1.You'll know the highest leveraged question a husband can ask his wife in marriage. 2.You'll know the best timing to ask this question to get the maximum brownie              points from asking it. 3.You'll know the exact follow up that is required to maximise the trust you build by       asking the question...

The 3 benefits you'll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You'll understand, acknowledge and accept the beauty of marriage is knowing how to allow each other be uniquely different. 2. You'll know the two precise strategies to use to inspire your wife to bloom into hot feminine fullness with you. 3. You'll know how to channel your masculine mission for freedom in meaningful wa...

In this episode you'll discover the #1 Most Sexually Attractive Thing A Husband Can Say That’s Guaranteed To Relight The Marital Sexual Flame Today and For Years to Come The 3 Benefits you will gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1- You’ll learn the one thing all female authors of romantic novels make sure their male protagonist says and thinks about sexually relating with his ...

In this special episode, you will get to witness the precise strategies and mindset that Alan has used in his marriage transformation journey with his beautiful wife Karoline. The benefits you will experience by listening to the end of this episode are: - Learn Alan’s detailed inner process going from shutdown and conflict to repair and reconnection - You will understand from Karoline’s ama...

In this episode, you'll discover How To Stop Being a Weak Feminine Pleasing Mr Nice Guy And Set Safe Yet Strong Boundaries Your Wife Respects The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are:  1. Understand the two ways husbands avoid setting boundaries that erode trust, connection and attraction. 2. Learn how to set boundaries with your wife that allow mutual c...

In this episode, you'll discover 2 things you must do together to help your wife relax and surrender into your leadership and listen to what you have to say. The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: 1. You will have 2 high leverage precise challenges that will let you know exactly what to do beyond this episode to have your wife trust your leadership lik...

In this episode, you'll discover the one practice you need to know to start embodying a secure attachment style, no matter what dysfunctional attachment style you have had until now. The 3 specific benefits you’ll gain by listening to the end of this episode are: - You’ll know exactly what response to take at the first signs of conflict….husbands that struggle don’t know this simple practice...

In this episode, you'll discover a daily progress building communication habit that can be done in 2 minutes flat. The 3 marriage transforming benefits you'll gain by listening are: - Gaining a high leverage connection habit you can fit in the busiest of family schedules - A simple tool to focus you and your wife's awareness on the things that are going well - A daily habit guaranteed to build...

Embracing your wife’s feedback is possibly the single highest leverage way to winning at the game of marriage as a husband. Almost nothing surpasses the feeling of trust and connection within a wife when her husband appreciates and honours her feedback as the gift it is. Yet there’s also almost nothing that triggers a man’s subconscious wounding more than trying to receive his wife’s feedba...

In the run up to the summer Olympics In Sydney 2000, the British rowing team had failed to win gold for over 88 YEARS! Like most husbands, they had a long history of their good intentions never being good enough. Determined to finally change the story, they based their entire training preparations on one simple clarifying question. This one simple tool allowed them to decide what was going...

We welcome in Tara and Duane Kennedy to tell their heart-warming story of marriage transformation. From the depths of pain and hopelessness that things could ever improve, Tara and Duane let us know the insights and strategies driving their stunning turnaround. Tara gifts us many profound insights into the challenges a wife experiences when relating with a well-intentioned but emotionally uns...

The quality of your marriage matches the quality of your thoughts. Learning to upgrade the quality of your thoughts is your path to the most epic marriage you ever believed possible. Stoic philosophy might be the most powerful vehicle to take you there. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Start ...

Most of us husbands have a trigger happy impulse to try and fix conflicts at home with rational solutions.....that rarely work!!!! In this episode you will meet the three human attachment needs and how to use them at home that will change how you look at conflict forever. In conflict, effective communicators are not trying to change the mental state of others. Instead, their focus is on chan...

Unspoken boredom and helplessness while feeling stuck in the Same-Sh1t-Different-Day reality of married life is killing marriages around the world.  The answer: One badass husband unleashing his WILD man energy to shake the marriage to it’s foundations and rebuild a marriage of excitement, fun and inspiration.  This episode is for you if you’re ready to live the infinite game of married life!...

We’ve been conditioned in this profoundly sick society to deny ourselves our own needs as men and over-prioritise meeting the needs of the women in our lives. This pattern started in childhood as we related with our mothers. As it seemed to work in childhood with our mothers, we subconsciously bring the exact same pattern into marriage….to devastating and very often marriage-ending effects. ...

Every husband listening in to the podcast has great intentions. Yet great intentions are useless if you are unwittingly making one or more of these common yet catastrophic mistakes. If you want the peace of mind knowing that your efforts in marriage are making a difference, this episode is a must. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Poi...