IOE #01: What Do You Want? How to goal set effectively.

Episode 1,   Jan 15, 2018, 09:00 PM

You can’t hit your goal if you don’t know what it is! Learn not just the importance of goal setting but practical visualization exercises on HOW TO GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT. Included below is the first chapter of my book titled “What Do You Want” this podcast episode was based on. 

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Chapter 1: What do you want?!?

I make it a point to ask multiple people daily “what do you want?”. Before identifying where you are with your present physical condition or what stops you from getting to your dream body destination, before exploring the multitude of alternate paths you can travel to avoid road blocks, identifying your destination is a great place to start. It’s damn near impossible to hit your mark if you don’t even know what your mark is. It is with this in mind I enjoy asking many individuals I come in contact with, myself and now you: What do you want? 

Believe it or not this question is much more difficult to answer then most people give it credit for. While some may not be capable of answering it at all remaining silent or confused by the simple question, others I ask seem to give a knee jerk reaction and when they open their mouth to respond they hear the voice of their mother, father or society coming out of their mouth. Judging why you want something or giving your version of what you think you should is totally useless and of no concern to me. I am interested in what YOU want. On the deepest level. With the door shut when nobody can hear you. When you are in a place safe enough to dream big, what do you want for your body? 

I am a genie with a magic wand (do genies even use magic wands?) ready, willing and able to grant you WHATEVER you desire for yourself physically. What do you want? Your dreams are limited ONLY by your ability to dream them. What do you want? If I were to snap my fingers and tell you whatever you stated in the next 5 minutes would come true as soon as you spoke or wrote the words, what would you create? 

Flash Light v Laser

This question is important for many reasons. For starters it gives you an opportunity to check in with yourself. Not taking into consideration right or wrong, possible or impossible, free advice or internal turmoil you get to discover and identify what it is that YOU want. What, if it was possible, would create a burning excitement to get out of bed and go in the morning? What idea or dream get’s you tingling and smirking and buzzing just discussing the prospect of? Well genuinely asking and answering this question empowers you to recognize what your destination looks like! 

Imagine your mind is a GPS that will go wherever you tell it. It will hone in on your destination and no matter how much congestion it identifies it will either stay locked on your position reminding you where to go or it will find an alternative route. In the case of this analogy and as is true with creating the body of your dreams, your internal GPS doesn’t guide you towards your destination until you focus in on the destination and accept that it is the desired end result.

The second reason asking yourself what you want is important is because it programs your brain to focus. Do you know what the difference between a flashlight that shines a pleasant light but dies out 30ft later and a laser that can be seen on the moon? Contrary to popular belief it is not POWER. It is focus. Focused energy, with the same amount of (or in many cases less) exerted effort can and will yield a result far greater than that of an equally powerful yet unfocused and thus, inferior, tool.

The third reason this is important is because the more clear your dream is physically, emotionally, financially or otherwise the more you experience an incredible phenomena. You stop being motivated (insert definition) and you start to become inspired (inspired). When this shifted for me professionally, I was no longer the driving force behind the actions of the personal trainers that worked for me. I was no longer the voice in my own head saying “Go get it! You can do it! Kick ass! Take names! You got this!” and passing the same attitude to my call center to stay positive and upbeat. I no longer had generate enough excitement within myself to push everything and everyone forward because I no longer needed to.

When my dream became clear, it was so overwhelming I had no other choice but to surrender to it. It consumed me. It inspired me. Motivation is that feeling that gives you the willingness and ability to push. Inspiration is quite the opposite. To be inspired is to be pulled, like a magnet, with power and purpose toward something bigger than yourself. You want all the inspiration you will ever need to persevere? Focus in on your dream. Make it tangible. Make it visceral. Make it real. 

The 5 Senses

Ready to make it real? The first step in accomplishing your dreams is to dream them! So in your imagination 3, 2, 1 Snap! Poof! You now have your dream body. Not a good body. Not a great body. The BODY OF YOUR DREAMS. Congratulations! Now tell me in the space provided below:

What does it look like? Not just your body but what does the world look like now that you have achieved it? Who do you get to see on a regular basis now that you have made the choice to create the body of your dreams? What do people’s faces look like as they pass you? What do you see when you look down at yourself in the first person? Is your environment the same or different? Are you in a place you have seen before or are you in a totally new place that you have manifested that more adequately suits your new look?

What do you hear? Is the volume of your favorite pump up song just soft enough in your headphones to hear the sound of your new running shoes hitting the pavement softly as you slow to a walk after the last mile of your run? What does the weight sound like as it hits the ground after you just gutted out 3 more reps than you ever thought possible? Can you hear your breathing certain, heavy, rhythmic and purposeful? What conversations are you having with people about physical fitness or about life? Does their tone resound with respect? Approval? Admiration? 

You have cultivated a LIFESTYLE condusive to creating the body of your dreams. You did it. How does that FEEL? On the way from the shower to your closet you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror looking nothing short of, well, dreamy. What feeling do you have in your chest knowing you conquered your obstacles? What does it feel like to know you can do anything? That you set a goal and smashed it. How do your laces feel in your hands as you intentfully tug them into a knotted position and head out onto the field, your workplace, or casual family setting? Does your body feel energetic? Does it almost feel caffeinated even though it’s not. Do you stand straighter? Do your cheeks hurt from smiling after your third photo shoot this week? What kind of significant other have you attracted with your new found feeling of confidence and physical excellence. What are you doing with them? How does it feel to be touched physically and emotionally? How does your body respond when the person you love touches you in a way that indicates just how bad they want to touch you more? You can do the rest of the imagining without my guidance in the space below but GET GRAPHIC! You are not turning this workbook in.

Do you smell that? Is it the smell of success? Is it the smell of sweat from a clean in balance body that just worked hard? Is it the smell of the delicious 3 course healthy meal you just cooked for you and your friends? Yes, you love eating healthy food and YES, you can cook! This is YOUR imagination! Your experience is limited only by the size of your ability to dream so make it BIG! What does the world smell like at 5am when the sun is rising and you are up and on it with a sense of purpose and that swagger that ONLY comes along with someone that has manifested their dreams?

What do you taste? Is that you taking your 3rd shot of wheatgrass this week? Why does it taste so good? You didn’t realize you loved the taste of wheatgrass! Can you taste the slight hint of blood from getting a little too into it with your sparring partner in the ring or on the mat because you have taken up a contact sport now that you have the ability, energy and health that comes along with the body of your dreams? Is that salt water you taste during your first of three events of the triathalon you are mere hours away from completing? 

Go big. Get clear. Connect with it on a visceral level. If you didn’t smile during every one of the senses during this last exercise you weren’t digging deep enough. You were articulating what you think you want, what you think you are supposed to want or what you think is within reason to want. I do not care about such things. Gut check you beautiful empowered champion, tell me and tell yourself; What do you want? 

Did you answer completely, honestly and in excellence? Good! Now let’s go make it happen…

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