The Gift of Loving

Episode 353,   Jul 14, 03:17 PM

It seems like it should be so simple - giving to one another, receiving from one another, loving one another, opening ourselves to the love of others. But it’s so often hard, and so often we make ourselves unavailable to what we most need and long for, and hold back from what we are most able to give (or give it, but without taking into account the impact of our way of giving). What can we do to understand the relational dynamics that shape our giving and receiving and our holding back our contribution from one another? And what kind of conversation and skilfulness can help us find our way through the maze of expectations, stories, culture, conditioning and habit so we can find one another in a more straightforward way?

It seems like it should be so simple - giving to one another, receiving from one another, loving one another, opening ourselves to the love of others. But it’s so often hard, and so often we make ourselves unavailable to what we most need and long for, and hold back from what we are most able to give (or give it, but without taking into account the impact of our way of giving).

What can we do to understand the relational dynamics that shape our giving and receiving and our holding back our contribution from one another? And what kind of conversation and skilfulness can help us find our way through the maze of expectations, stories, culture, conditioning and habit so we can find one another in a more straightforward way?


Hosted, as always, by Lizzie Winn and Justin Wise of Thirdspace.

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The Gift of Loving

Give the gift of loving you to others. Ask for their help. 

We seem to have learned that helping involves sacrifice. 

So we think that by asking for help, we’re asking people to make a sacrifice.

So we don’t ask. We try and do it all alone. And we forget that people can just say no. So it’s OK to simply ask.

Maybe life is about the giving and receiving of gifts…..

It’s a true joy when someone feels loved and we have something to do with it. 

So what are we doing removing opportunities for people to love us, taking this away from them, this joy of loving us ?

If we all knew what it meant to truly say no, and what a true yes means, what kind of love filled, supported world might we find ?

Lizzie Winn

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