Why New Year Resolutions Often Fail

By the end of the first week of the new year, nearly 77% of New Year's resolutions have already failed (Norcross, 1988). That's discouraging—but it doesn't mean you should stop trying.

It means most of us are setting resolutions in ways that don't work.

You aren't weak or lazy. More often, the problem is a misaligned system—one that relies too heavily on willpower and short-lived motivation. Motivation naturally fades over time, even when our intentions are good.

Think about how often you enthusiastically agree to plans weeks in advance, only to feel tired or unmotivated when the day arrives. Or how many times you've started a project—cleaning a room, taking a course, planning a trip—only to watch your early excitement slowly disappear. We're excellent at strong intentions; follow-through is harder.

The good news? Not all resolutions fail. That same research found that 19% of resolutions are still maintained two years later (Norcross, 1988). We just don't spend enough time learning from what does work.

Three DON'Ts 1. Don't make life-changing, all-or-nothing resolutions

Resolutions that try to overhaul everything at once are overwhelming and fragile.

Examples:

• "New year, new me—I'll reinvent my career, relationships, and lifestyle."

• "I'll work out every single day this year."

• "I'll triple my income or eliminate all my debt."

Why this fails: One setback can feel like total failure, making it easy to quit entirely.

2. Don't set shame-driven goals

Goals rooted in self-criticism, embarrassment, or self-loathing undermine motivation.

Examples:

• "I need to get my life together."

• "I have to lose weight so I don't look bad."

• "This year I'll stop being lazy."

Why this fails: Shame erodes self-belief and increases anxiety, making lasting change harder—not easier.

3. Don't set vague resolutions

Unclear goals are difficult to act on.

Examples:

• "I want to be healthier."

• "I'll work on myself."

• "I need better boundaries."

Why this fails: Without clear actions or markers of success, procrastination takes over and goals fade.

Three DOs Meaning

Choose one small, consistent practice that reflects what truly matters to you.

Examples:

• "Every Sunday evening, I'll spend an hour writing, painting, or making music."

• "Once a week, I'll take a phone-free walk to reflect."

Purpose

Connect your resolution to generativity—contributing beyond yourself (Erikson, 1950).

Examples:

• "I'll volunteer or mentor through an organization like SCORE or Rotary."

Connection

Create simple, recurring rituals with others.

Example:

• "I'll schedule a weekly call, walk, or shared meal and treat it as a real commitment."

Traditional New Year's resolutions don't fail because people lack discipline. They fail because they're poorly designed—too big, too vague, or rooted in shame.

When resolutions focus on "fixing what's wrong," they often lead to self-criticism once early motivation fades. In contrast, resolutions grounded in meaning, purpose, and connection are more sustainable.

If you're among the 77% whose resolution didn't stick, don't fall into the shame trap. A broken resolution isn't failure—it's feedback. Reset your expectations, adjust your strategy, and start again with something manageable.

Move away from punishment and toward practices that bring joy, meaning, and connection. That shift alone can make the difference between another abandoned resolution and one that truly lasts.

May your year be filled with meaning, purpose, and connections that sustain you.

(CREDITS: PSYCHOLOGY TODAY)