Episode 69: Marriage Shouldn't Have a Scoreboard

What happens when your marriage starts to feel like a competition?

In this episode, we talk about how subtle scorekeeping, one-upping, and the need to “win” arguments quietly erode intimacy. Because when one spouse wins, the relationship loses. We unpack how competition shifts us from being teammates to being opponents—and why that dynamic is so destructive over time.

Rooted in Paul’s encouragement in Ephesians 5:21 to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,” we explore a different way forward: honor. What does it look like to outdo one another in showing honor? How does mutual submission actually create strength instead of weakness? And why is choosing humility not about losing—but about building something better?

If you’ve ever walked away from an argument feeling victorious but strangely disconnected, this conversation is for you.

Because marriage was never meant to be a scoreboard. It was meant to be a partnership.