Ep 9: Hilary Shor: How to Stop Giving a F*ck and Start Living on Your Own Terms After 40

We are so often told to play a specific role, to stay within the lines, and to wait our turn, but what happens when we decide that the "lines" were never meant for us in the first place? 

Hilary Shor, a film producer behind iconic films like Children of Men and The Paperboy, joins me to discuss the raw, unfiltered reality of being a woman in power, the grit required to sustain a creative life, and the profound beauty of aging without apology. From her legendary career in Hollywood to her new chapter as an advocate for authentic living, Hilary shares what it truly looks like to own your story, your mistakes, and your brilliance. This conversation is an invitation to stop seeking external validation and start trusting the fierce, intuitive fire that lives within you. 

✨ What You’ll Learn: 

- How Hilary navigated the high stakes world of film production and what it took to get Children of Men made against the odds. 
- Why being "obsessed" with your purpose is often the only way to break through systemic barriers. 
- How to embrace the transitions of midlife and aging with a sense of curiosity rather than fear. 
- What it means to be a "woman centric" storyteller in an industry that hasn't always left space for the female gaze. 
- How to handle the tragedy of "vague memories" and the physical shifts that come with getting older. 
- Why setting boundaries and protecting your energy is the ultimate act of radical self care. 
- How early foundational experiences and family dynamics shape our drive and our resilience. 
- What Hilary would tell her younger self about the importance of being "the most you" in every room you enter. 
 
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Highlights 

00:00 Intro 
04:15 The tragedy of aging and how our memories and physical presence shift 
09:20 Navigating the "Valley" and the literal journey to show up for your life 
13:40 The making of Children of Men and the grit required 
18:55 Why being a woman in Hollywood requires a specific kind of "fuck you" energy 
24:10 The importance of female centric conversations and not being afraid of the "vagina" talk 
29:45 How to stay creatively alive when the world expects you to slow down 
33:12 The power of charging your battery (and your car) to move into new spaces 
36:50 Finding synergy in female friendships
 
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Transforming Through Mindful Living 
Hi, I’m Rosie Acosta. I’m here to question the conventional and share what truly makes a difference in living with presence, love, and compassion. Whether it’s through meditation, mindful living, or healing the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to ignore, I believe every moment of our journey holds the power to transform us. I’m not about quick fixes or surface solutions. I’m about real, conscious practices that reconnect us to our truth, our roots, and our higher purpose. 

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