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"Bienvenue, Welcome, and Swaagat! Continuing the tradition of collaboration and conversation between Canada and India, Consul General, Annie Dubé is back for a second season of the Canada in India Show. Listen to the trailer and get a sneak peek at what's in store, as well as a little buzz about some of the guests! We are looking forward to sharing more fascinating stories of extraordinary peo...

Soul mates ... it's a beautiful ideal, but one listener is having doubts. Because isn't the job description of a soul mate to support us when we're low or need help and direction? Or is that too much of an ask? Shefali is an artist and she feels like her partner is becoming impatient of her dreams. Is this a warning sign about the relationship? Sibling hosts and the best intimacy coaches and ag...

What do you do when your ex wants to netflix and chill after having given you the cold shoulder for a year? Sibling hosts Prem & Rogue have a question from someone who is debating whether he should hook up with his ex to exact revenge. He wants to lead her on and then dump her cold. It's all very shady! But he hasn't quite decided what to do yet so he's asking LSDcast! There's no relationship p...

Every frog you kiss can't turn into a prince(ss) so ... what do you do with the ones you're pretty sure are not going to be The One!? A listener after the hearts of LSDcast hosts Prem and Rogue -- the siblings who host this podcast and are your best intimacy coaches EVER -- asks about letting people go. Do you owe it to the person you don't want to date to give them closure? Does one need to sp...

So, hosts Prem & Rogue plus Prem's hair. (n/m, it's an inside joke) have a question about app etiquette. Do you keep shopping around online while you're engaging with someone IRL? At what time do you turn your profile off? Or dormant? Do you talk about it with each other? If you do, then when? And yes, of course, the siblings have opinions. And stories. And case studies (personal ones.) And a s...

Someone has a problem with coming across as an asshole. So he's being really nice to this girl he met off a dating app. After painting himself into a corner, he's not sure how to tell her that it isn't turning into a relationship. Enter Prem & Rogue, your existential agony bhaiya and didi, the siblings who double as intimacy coaches and give our listeners advice, primers and real life tips. Wha...

This week Prem & Rogue talk about whether there is such a thing as being TOO direct. Should you pledge your troth and let your crush know you want to ask her/him out because you really, really like them that way? Would that scare them off? Our listener tried it and the object of his affection ghosted on him. What's he doing wrong? Well... he's obviously come to the right place. Your favorite si...

We talk about rebounds and break ups on the show frequently. One of our listeners wrote in to say all that's fine, but Prem & Rogue, siblings extraordinaire, how long does it take to get over someone? Your favourite advice giving "intimacy coaches" talk about the popular algorithms, the TYPES of breakups and how long (relatively) each takes to recover from because of what's at stake - and stay ...

Dating is hard enough anyway, but when there are pressures to look a certain way, what's a single person to do? Siblings and hosts Prem/Rogue wanted to know - is this a challenge? Guest Dhruvi Shah, who runs @AliceWandering on FB and has done on-camera blind dates, weighs in. We've got real life stories about boyfriend jeans, social pressure, double standards + practical tips on what to say and...

Guys, guys, we needed a break because, you know, life! So here's a little roundup with details on some stuff coming up soon. We've got a facebook live event with @AliceWandering on FB who will host Rogue at 16:15 hours IST so if you're in India, do fire up your facebook and tune in. And we're letting you in on the topic for episode 64 (a full-length one) - where your favorite siblings, your mos...

In our increasingly socially connected work, online, if not offline, breakups can have ripple effects, when you share friends as a couple. What then, would Prem and Rogue advise? When you break up with a partner, do you also break up with their friends? Are there exception? Sibling hosts Prem & Rogue actually agree on the answer -- listen to find out what they think-- but come at it from differ...

"Don't turn off the lights" says Enrique and at least one guy who wrote to us. Sibling, hosts Prem & Rogue talk about why women don't want the lights on during sex (and men do) -- and turns into a dialogue about body image, body positivity, and those sensitive spots (thigh gaps, jiggly tummies, stretch marks, we've got it all covered.) - how to talk about them, and how to deal with other people...

We've got a head-scratcher this time with a question from a listener who is wondering if her being smarter than her partner is going to be a problem. Your favorite advice doling siblings, Prem/Rogue debate what that means - are there different kinds of smarts. Does it have to be a conflict? Or can they complement each other? (Plus Prem treads on thin ice by calling Rogue book smart and ... not ...

Recently the Indian twitterwebs exploded with a primer on how to do casual sex. And we thought we should broaden that conversation so...joining your favorite hosts, your favorite siblings Prem & Rogue is our new best friend @naomi0_0barton who tells it like it is. Who supplies the condoms? Do you discuss STD's? Kinks? Do you just whip off your shirt when he asks you up for coffee? Do's, don'ts,...

Three years into a relationship that is solidifying into the next step of marriage, our listener wants to check with intimacy coaches and (totally self styled) love, sex and dating gurus Prem and Rogue if the little 'compromises' she's noticing mean she's going to end up unhappy? Her fiance has had her back until now, but her slightly regressive in-laws-to-be are gaining the upper hand with his...

This week on the show, Prem and Rogue (your favorite intimacy coaches and all round advice givers) have a situational analysis to unpackage for you. One listener sent over an entire email chain detailing what went down when he wrote his (now ex) long distance partner that he was moving on -- and it snowballed out of control. He's asked the siblings to check it out and tell him, the poor baffled...

We have a surprise on this show - a real life listener dropped in for a live recording - and we get the feedback and input we always beg you for! #WIN! So this time, Prem and Rogue are discussing and giving advice on rebounds - what IS a rebound? Is every relationship a rebound, finally? A listener has asked if we can assure her somehow that she's not being used by someone who's fresh out of a ...

This week, how do you stop someone from getting the wrong idea when they like you more than you like them? The agony siblings (no, they're not in agony, but they're not agony 'aunts' either) have a question from someone trying be a responsible adult after going on a blind date with someone who has higher expectations from the situation than he does. Of course, both Prem and Rogue are dealing wi...

Prem and Rogue have a different kind of question today, well, it's more of a discussion actually. Someone we know is involved with a man who defines himself as polyamorous. They started out just hooking up, and his status was okay, but now, she has feelings for him, but he won't change. What do the siblings think of this, we were asked. Well, we tell you. And Prem doesn't hold back. Tune in... ...

Today we've got a third party question :) Siblings Prem and Rogue, your favorite relationship and intimacy coaches, hear from a girl whose best friend is being manipulated and, dare we say it, used (!) by her partner. He makes things her fault, he gets his way by making her change things around. Our correspondent is worried and so are we. Prem seems more negative than Rogue, but you'll have to ...

So, is it a gender thing? We have a question from a listener whose partner never backs down and says those three magic words "I. Am. Sorry." -- Join siblings and your favorite intimacy coaches Prem & Rogue talk about whether it's conditioning or just that he's an asshole! It's more than a philosophical debate about nature versus nurture? Prem says either way, look for other ways he may be showi...

Whether you're doing it standing up or bent over backwards (refer to episode 50 on "acrobatic sex") there has to be an optimal duration for sex, right? In this episode, your hosts, irrepressible and often giggly siblings, Prem and Rogue take on the best times for sex. If it were an Olympic event, would you win gold? And what are the criteria for taking too little time, enough time, and too long...

Can you be lonely in a relationship? And if you are, what does it mean? To unravel the threads, sibling hosts Prem & Rogue have a guest expert join us: Sonali Gupta, psychologist extraordinaire. And on to some high-jinx, we're taking a question from someone whose partner wants to go into 8 different positions in bed? Best night ever? Or pain in the you know where? Discuss! Your favorite intimac...

It's episode 49 and this time we've got a humdinger of a show. Yeah! We're talking about asexuality (what is it? and why is it? and is it normal? and if our listener's girlfriend is asexual and it makes him insecure but the sex is good, is it a problem?) deep breath Come on over, we're taking it all on. And we're also talking about the rut of being with a partner who's just not that exciting an...

In episode 47, your hosts Prem and Rogue had a little mock squabble - as siblings do - with some mock threats (remember \"rum PUNCH\"?) so this time we're talking love bites (well, kinda linked, isn't it?) and we've got a legit expert to come talk to us about when verbal threats in a relationship move from being playful to actually alarming. We have criminologist Rashi V (@mizarcle on twitter) ...

We made sure we were good and ready before diving into this episode - unlike our listener's partner - scoffed at her when she said she wasn't juiced up. Yes, we're talking penetration without lube (natural or not.) So boys, girls, listen up to your favorite relationship and intimacy coaches, siblings Prem & Rogue, as they tell you how to deal with a situation like this IRL... We also have a que...

We've talked about best friends before - it's a tricky thing when your bestie starts dating and even trickier when they start seeing someone you know ... and dislike! We've got a triangle where one listener's best friend is dating someone who was a douchebag in high school. Can people change? Should he call disaster before it strikes? Or hold his tongue? Prem & Rogue are surprisingly on the sam...

So why are all the boys Rogue is hearing from on the dating apps only saying "hey"? Again. And again. And again. Sharing a bit about her own online dating journey, Rogue asks Prem for help on why men do this - and the siblings, your agony bhaiya and didi - share some real world tips for you so you can do this dating conversation right. Got it, hey? And then, we have a boy who is feeling slightl...

Sorry, guys. Prem and Rogue are under the weather. Well, we all are. If weather is a thing you can be under; or in; or through. But, we digress. They're both unwell so instead of a full episode here's a small voice note with good wishes for you all. We'll be back next week, which is also next year!

Prem lurves kids and for Rogue, someone with a child is a deal breaker. The two opposing factions take on a question from someone about when and how to introduce her new partner to her child. Your hosts may not be the most qualified to judge, but they give it a go (and we'd love your thoughts as well.)  And in the sex segment, they hear from someone whose partner doesn't get or know about forep...

We follow up on the "It's me, not you" break up to tackle the question of how the guy who breaks up because he's a commitment-phobe is suddenly dating, even engaged to be married, in three hot minutes. What is going on here? Was he lying? Was he cheating? Did she dodge a bullet? Is he on the rebound? Prem is on the spot, because, well, he's the boy! In the sex segment, we get another question f...

A listener asks us why, in this day and age, people are still using the "it's not you, it's me" line to break up with people? And Prem can relate. Is it a cop-out? Is it cowardly? The siblings take it on with candor - listen and then tell us, have you been the "you" or the "me" in this situation? How does one make a rejection less personal? And then talking about being personal, we have a quest...

F questions this time, folks, F questions - about friendzoning and frigidity. F'ing awesome, say siblings Prem & Rogue, bring it on! Our dating question from a confused girl who was set up with someone who talked about his exes and crushes on their first date. Classic friendzoning. Now he's putting the moves on her. What is this about? The sex question is from someone asking what to do about hi...

When you don't want to be in an exclusive relationship but don't want to stop sleeping with the person who wants to be exclusive...what do you do? Prem & Rogue debate this from across the girl-boy divide (go feminism! and delusions!) in the ideal world and ... in the real world. And then the brother-sister #intimacycoach take a question from a guy whose potential flatmate asked for a discount i...

Another episode and another set of diverging viewpoints - but you'll be surprised, one of the agony aunts, sorry, brother/sister actually changes a point of view. Listen to find out more. First we talk about respect and habits - can you ask someone to reform traits because they upset you? Prem thinks it's about respect and you can and should toe the line. Rogue says it's like asking a cat to be...

Prem & Rogue are back with more laughs, more (contradictory) advice, and some intimacy coaching and this time they're talking about generalizing whether women are always ready to become mutually exclusive right after date #1 -- Prem thinks women who don't want to know immediately are just being polite while secretly they're dying to fast forward; Rogue says boys do this too and it's not a gende...

So, this time we've got another wide range of questions and Prem and Rogue deliberate issues of substance abuse, codependency, agency, laziness, timing and other important things BUT in their typical candor and humor. Our first question is for someone who's staying in a relationship only because he feels responsible for his partner, he believes breaking up will be more than she can handle. Is t...

Utsav's wife is pregnant, yay! But he doesn't want to have sex with her. How can he get out of it? He loves her, but he's not attracted to her right now. Stay tuned, your favorite Indian agony aunts (Ok, didi & bhaiya) Prem & Rogue have very different sympathies. Hint: there's a pirate involved! And then we have Urmila who is in love with someone quite a bit older. Is the age gap really such a ...

When Rogue dated someone who smelled less than rosy, she turned tail and ghosted...but one of our listeners doesn't have that option. "Tina" is engaged to someone whose natural smell doesn't do positive things for her libido. How does she approach him? Are there tricks to changing body smell? Or instead of changing how you smell, you have to change HOW you smell? Ok, that doesn't work, but you ...

Does this happen to you? you're in bed with your lover/partner and your mind drifts off to being intimate with someone else? One listener wants to know if that's normal. And another writes in to ask advice about what to do when her partner freezes her out after an argument. Four days of silent treatment hurt. Prem & Rogue have plenty to say about both, including a suprisingly personal take from...

What do you do when the casual hookup wants to swap personal stories and you're just into the sex? You write to agony 'aunts' Prem and Rogue who give you not one, not two, but THREE options of how to deal with it (it could involve some pet behaviour therapy). And then later on in the episode, we hear from a harried man who can't get his partner to orgasm during sex. What's he doing wrong? The s...

This week, the siblings take on the brave new world of telling people to back off, nicely - and putting their mouth where their money is ... no? Okay, never mind. Episode 32 has a question from someone whose colleague is being a bit too familiar with the flirting and it's making her uncomfortable. How does she get it to stop? Prem thinks she should just address it, Rogue thinks it's really hard...

We're joined by a bonafide expert for this episode - Dr. Sonali Gupta is in the house to unpackage what's going on when a listener tells us her ex keeps liking her posts and comments. Does this passive act have a meaning? Come join us for a vocabulary lesson with not just the whys and hows but also the what to do about it! You don't want to miss this. And we've also got a question about a young...

Prem & Rogue are back to help you ride the waves of singletonness. So this week we've got a follow up to episodes 28 & 29. You've gone on date #1 (maybe even 2) and it's just obvious it's not going to be the romance (or lay) of the century. How do you deal with it? Write the proverbial 'Dear John/Jane' letter or text? Or never return their calls and texts? We have Prem's new and improved advice...

We just can't give enough, but that's how we are: Giving! And we want you to take ... our advice. In Episode 29, we continue with our Back to Basics theme. We've got the do's and don'ts for how to deal with a bad first (or second) date. Do you just ghost? Or go the Dear John/Jane route? Prem & Rogue have totally different approaches. Next: You took our poll and we found that a lot of women put ...