Conversations with The Perverted Negress Episode 9C

Jul 21, 2013, 10:04 AM

Part four of a six section extended club mix in which J.P. and I continue to dissect and chew on the multiple manifestations of transparency in Power Exchange dynamics, and in the larger world of BDSM. Transparency in interactions: what we see people doing in the kink / Leather / BDSM Confederacies has so little to do with what is actually happening for people. J.P. Talks about how some opacity can be, for some folks, a beneficial tool for maintaining some degree of personal, emotional, spiritual privacy. When is transparency too much of a risk? FOr those who are engaging in a deeply spiritual path, it may well be that a lack of transparency feeds the idea of spirituality being deeper.

What is the difference between your essential nature and your state of being? Can you exist in a state that is not aligned with your essential nature? and what happens when you do? J.P. introduces me to the Canadian concept Transparency in protocols, and accidental transparency, when someone tips their hand and manages to reveal deeper truths even when they don't expect it. And just as I make some snappy analogy to having to maintain that high-performance vehicle with the good gasoline, and how that maps to d/s relationships, we hit the 30 minute mark!

Stay tuned, since we have two more installments on this dense and tasty topic! Seriously, people, that's, like a three hour conversation!