The 4 Rules For A Connected Relationship

Episode 167,   Nov 06, 2022, 10:00 PM

Creating a connected relationship takes work. But it's a big help when you know what to work on. In this episode, Mitch and Mills discuss why values (and using questions tailored to them) have such a big impact on your love life.

Falling out of love with someone is one of the greatest pains you can endure in life. But did you know that 99% of the time it comes down to just one of two things… 

#1 - You find that your individual values have grown so vastly different that they no longer work together. 


#2 - You are no longer communicating in terms of those values.

Now, there’s not a lot you can do about number one if you want to stay true to who you are. But number two? That one we can fix. 

In this episode of Dorothy and the Dealer, Mitch and Mills break down the four steps you can take to nurture connection and love with your partner.

  • Set a particular time each week (or day) to talk - Come together in a place of respect and understanding.
  • Leave judgement out of it - Create a space that is safe and free from finger-pointing. Remember that it is you and your partner against the problem, not you against your partner.
  • Use structured questions - Things like “Is anything unresolved for you?” or “In what ways can I show up for you this week to show I care?”
  • Remember to acknowledge the good - All relationships are about balance, so don’t forget to praise instead of just raise problems.