Be The Thermostat, Not The Thermometer In Your Relationships

In this episode of Conversations for Couples, Julie and David Bulitt return to their roots with a guest-free conversation about emotional regulation, communication, and how to respond instead of react in your relationship. Inspired by a clip they came across on social media, the Bulitts unpack the powerful concept of being a thermostat—someone who sets the emotional tone—instead of a thermometer that merely reflects the mood of others or the environment.

Through real-life examples (like spilled water on a laptop and the chaos of moving into a new house), they share how they’ve each succeeded and struggled with staying grounded during life’s curveballs. They also dive into how this concept plays out between partners and explore the role of clarity, co-regulation, respect, and gratitude in building a stable, healthy connection.

Whether you're in a new relationship or married for decades, this episode offers relatable stories and practical advice for being more intentional in your day-to-day life and relationship dynamics.

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