You’re Not a Saint — You’re Just Scared
Episode 5, Nov 05, 2025, 02:00 PM
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Suffering in a relationship isn’t love — it’s self-abandonment dressed up as loyalty. 💔
In this episode, Vanessa calls out the “good girl” trap of staying just to look like the nice one. It’s time to choose peace over pity and remember: walking away doesn’t make you cold, it makes you awake. 🌙✨
Let’s get one thing straight — staying in a relationship just to look like the “nice one” isn’t selfless, it’s self-sabotage. 💅
In this episode, Vanessa calls out the truth we all avoid: sometimes we hide behind kindness because we’re too scared to face the unknown. We tell ourselves we’re staying to protect someone, when really, we’re just protecting our own ego.
Yes — there are exceptions. If your partner is sick, if they physically need your care, that’s love and loyalty. But staying because you think they’ll crumble without you? That’s not compassion. That’s control wrapped in fear.
Vanessa breaks down how to stop playing the martyr, start honoring your truth, and finally walk away from what no longer serves your growth. Inspired by the teachings of Esther Perel and Abraham Hicks, this episode is your permission slip to stop calling suffering “love” and start choosing alignment.
💭 Because you’re not doing anyone a favor by staying small — including yourself.
In this episode, Vanessa calls out the truth we all avoid: sometimes we hide behind kindness because we’re too scared to face the unknown. We tell ourselves we’re staying to protect someone, when really, we’re just protecting our own ego.
Yes — there are exceptions. If your partner is sick, if they physically need your care, that’s love and loyalty. But staying because you think they’ll crumble without you? That’s not compassion. That’s control wrapped in fear.
Vanessa breaks down how to stop playing the martyr, start honoring your truth, and finally walk away from what no longer serves your growth. Inspired by the teachings of Esther Perel and Abraham Hicks, this episode is your permission slip to stop calling suffering “love” and start choosing alignment.
💭 Because you’re not doing anyone a favor by staying small — including yourself.