Are Children Being Damaged by the Family Courts?
Episode 94, Nov 30, 07:00 AM
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In this third conversation with Daniel Ryan (“That Family Law Guy”) on Revolutionise Your Love Life, Heather speaks to Daniel on how UK family court proceedings affect children during divorce and separation. Daniel describes two common harms: children either knowing far too much about parental conflict or being kept entirely in the dark for months or years. Together they discuss the absence of emotional considerations in legal processes, the limits of current social work input, and orders that unintentionally make children “live out of a suitcase.” They consider better approaches such as collaborative, multi-disciplinary models that put children’s needs first and keep them appropriately informed. Practical guidance is offered for parents on protecting children’s sense of home, continuity, and belonging throughout proceedings.
Key Takeaways:
Children need continuity and a sense of home. Frequent moves and split days satisfy adults but erode a child’s stability.
Appropriate inclusion beats secrecy. Keeping children completely uninformed breeds anxiety and confusion; share age-appropriate updates.
Court is one-dimensional. It applies law, not emotion; outcomes often neglect the lived experience of children.
Design schedules around the child’s week. Prioritise school routines, rest, friendships, and unhurried time with each parent.
Aim for collaborative solutions. Multi-disciplinary, therapeutic approaches can protect children better than adversarial processes.
About your host:
Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist. She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.
Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Art
About Daniel:
Dan is ‘That Family Law Guy’. He has worked extensively in both the Family Court and the Civil Court, and has received several awards recognising his work.
Dan is a Professional McKenzie Friend and his approach is empathetic and sensitive and his view is that our clients do not come to us in order to leave without tangible change.
This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.
Key Takeaways:
Children need continuity and a sense of home. Frequent moves and split days satisfy adults but erode a child’s stability.
Appropriate inclusion beats secrecy. Keeping children completely uninformed breeds anxiety and confusion; share age-appropriate updates.
Court is one-dimensional. It applies law, not emotion; outcomes often neglect the lived experience of children.
Design schedules around the child’s week. Prioritise school routines, rest, friendships, and unhurried time with each parent.
Aim for collaborative solutions. Multi-disciplinary, therapeutic approaches can protect children better than adversarial processes.
About your host:
Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist. She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.
Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Art
About Daniel:
Dan is ‘That Family Law Guy’. He has worked extensively in both the Family Court and the Civil Court, and has received several awards recognising his work.
Dan is a Professional McKenzie Friend and his approach is empathetic and sensitive and his view is that our clients do not come to us in order to leave without tangible change.
This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom.