ANNA MATHUR: I love my family... So why am I snapping at them?
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This week on The Netmums Podcast, Louise Burke and JB Gill are joined by psychotherapist and best-selling author Anna Mathur for an honest conversation about the parenting moments we're often too ashamed to admit.
Why do we snap at the people we love most? And what does it really say about us?
Drawing on both her professional expertise and her own experiences as a mum of three, Anna explains why anger is so often the final symptom of stress, overwhelm and impossible expectations – not bad parenting. Inspired by her new book, How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love, she shares practical ways to recognise the warning signs before we reach breaking point, repair after we've lost our temper, and show ourselves the same compassion we offer everyone else.
If you've ever ended the day thinking, 'That wasn't the parent I wanted to be,' this episode is for you.
In this episode:
- Why we snap at the people we love most
- The hidden link between stress, perfectionism and parental rage
- How to spot your personal warning signs before you boil over
- The power of repair after losing your temper
- Why rest isn't selfish – it's essential
- How to model healthy emotions and apologies for your children
- Simple ways to lower the pressure and parent with more self-compassion
Anna's book, How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (As Well As the Ones You Don't): A Compassionate Guide to Rage, Regulation and Repair, is available from 2 July 2026.
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Anna Mathur/Picture credit: Oliver Spencer