44: Fix Your Picker by Looking At Your Imprinting!
In this amazing episode, you'll have your mind BLOWN by my chat with Dr. Roksana Badruddoja (Dr. Rokbad) about how fixing your picker is about MORE than just your attachment system and your relationship with your parents.  The way we show up in relationships can be 'wired' into us, and the trauma of generations before us can come into us without us even being aware of it!   My mind was blown, a...
1hr 14m Nov 14, 2022
1hr 14m
43: How Mindy Found Love After Divorce, Infidelity & a Business!
Mindy is a successful entrepreneur, and a single mom of two teens.   Her parents were loving and supportive - and had a 'love hard' but 'fight hard' dynamic.   Listen to her story of how she was set up with her husband at 19, how she built a business with him.  Her gut started to tell her something was wrong, and she learned he was having an affair with Mindy's best friend (who was now their of...
1hr 6m Nov 07, 2022
1hr 6m
42: How to Talk to a Man or Woman You're Attracted To!
In this episode, Bela interviews Tripp Kramer, a coach who teaches shy men how to talk to women!   This conversation is riveting because we hear what he teaches guys about approaching women (ladies and gents, you're gonna want to hear this)! -How Tripp went from a shy introverted guy (at the University of Illinois) to a confident man -- and now teaches self-conscious men about meeting women! W...
50m Oct 31, 2022
50m
41: Dating as a Widow with Jody LaVoie
Dating as a widow is certainly different than dating at any other point in your life.   Many have lost amazing partners, and the 'love of their lives.'  This is the story of Jody LaVoie, entrepreneur, Mom, mentor, CEO, and now, a smart dater.  Jody tells the story of how she met her husband Steve, how wonderful their love was, and how his life was brutally ended by an employee.  Jody steered th...
47m Oct 23, 2022
47m
40: How to Find Love Over 50 or 70!! How Kathy Found Love at 71!
Is it possible to find love over 50?  Hell yes!!  Is it possible to find love over 70?  Hell yes!!  Kathy, from a rural town/state found love at 71, and shares her entire story of how she did it (online)! Kathy was divorced after 42 years of marriage She lives in a small rural town, in a Southwest state and was a stay at home Mom She was blindsided by her husband when she went to surprise him ...
52m Oct 17, 2022
52m
39: Dating After Divorce - The Top 10 Things to KNOW!
Top 10 Things To Do When You’re Dating After Divorce 1.     Do the work – DO therapy / coaching.  Make sure you have processed the relationship, and most importantly, know what YOUR part in the relationship break up was 2.     Hire someone to help you 3.     Fix Your Picker – Have you noticed that your ‘picker’ is broken?  Get help around this – it’s due to social media, attachment, not knowin...
32m Oct 10, 2022
32m
38: Should I Tell My Friend Their Partner is Cheating?
Cheating -- If you see someone's partner cheating, do you tell them?   This week's episode breaks it ALL down! What sparked this whole episode was a text Bela received from someone that said: "Have you ever had a client that was on a dating app, and saw someone else’s significant other/someone they’re dating on a dating app?  Do I tell the person?  I mean, I would want to know but now every w...
21m Oct 02, 2022
21m
37: Safe Sex and EVERYTHING You Need to Know!
How do you make sure you are having safe sex?  Whether you're out there dating, or thinking of dipping your toe into the pool, this episode with Dr. Lauren Streicher will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know (fact and fiction) about safe sex including: Do you have to have 'sex-sex' (intercourse) to get an STI?  Spoiler alert - no. What should you do to 'get tested'? The Top 5 tests in Dr. Stre...
57m Sep 25, 2022
57m
36: How to ACE Every Date, Business Meeting, and Build Strong Relationships (using the “NCG” Method)!
How do you create amazing personal and professional networks?   Today's guest, Larry Kaufman (the King of Linked In with over 30,000 contacts and author of the NCG Factor) wil tell us HOW he has cultivated deep, meaningful relationships with literally thousands of people through his method of authenticity, and NCG (networking, connecting and giving).  And it's not the 'ugh' type of networking. ...
55m Sep 19, 2022
55m
35: How to Fix Your Picker and Find Real Love! - Marilyn's Story
Bela talks to client Marilyn Dollar about how she found love after TWO bad marriages -- one was at the age of 17 (involving physical abuse), and the other was the father of her children (infidelity).   In a prior podcast episode, Sugar mentioned how a Smart Dating Academy Instagram Live episode with Marilyn changed her dating life, so we invited Marilyn to tell ALL of you the story that inspire...
59m Sep 11, 2022
59m
34: Insider's Secrets to Dating Success - Part 2
Part 2 of this episode is amazing!  Bela and Lindsay of Smart Dating Academy are back, discussing MORE secrets that have made their clients successful in finding love!   Here are some nuggets you'll hear: Where there is smoke, there is fire - Most of my divorced clients can point to something very specific early on that indicated something wasn’t right. People make time for things they want! ...
1hr 4m Sep 04, 2022
1hr 4m
33: THE INSIDER'S SECRETS TO DATING SUCCESS - PART 1
Bela chats with her long standing Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson in a 2 part episode to review the secrets of her most successful clients!   Lindsay has been helping people find love for over 20 years, and has helped thousands of singles find love!   They will discuss the patterns that have HELPED their clients most!   You won't want to miss any of this, and here are some highlight...
57m Aug 29, 2022
57m
32: Body Language - Do They LIKE Me?? Learn the key signs!!
Have you ever wondered if someone was 'interested' in you?  Body language is a critical part of attraction - and understanding it can help you to not "blow" an opportunity!  And, you can understand how to BEST use it to your favor, and indicate your interest to someone!   In this episode, Bela discusses 7 key signs of attraction, with a whole section on what "men" vs. "women" do when they're 's...
20m Aug 21, 2022
20m
31: Small Changes that lead to BIG Dating Results
What are some SMALL changes you can make TODAY for BIG results in your dating life?   Bela goes through 8 ways that you can have positive changes instantly, and here are some things she will cover! What online parameters can you change for biggest results?  Bela will tell you the ones that MATTER and where her clients have had success! Start playing the game 3 Blind Mice online (described in d...
27m Aug 14, 2022
27m
30: The KEY signs of a Catfisher / Fraud (some not so obvious ones)
Know the signs of a catfisher or con-person that aren't so obvious?  Bela and Ilene drop ALL the bombs here -- from their real life client experience, and highlights from the Tinder Swindler that could happen to ANY of us!   There's a little bit inside most of us that has the "Disney fairy tale ending" wish inside of us (both men and women).  And, that can make the smartest of us susceptible to...
39m Aug 07, 2022
39m
29: THE BEST THING TO BE ON DATES AND IN LIFE? BE RELATABLE!!
Rachel DeAlto, author of Relatable, and TV relationship expert and I discuss being "relatable", and why it's so much more than being "likable."   It's about someone wanting to connect with you on a deeper level, because you emit 3 things.   This episode will help you to have better relationships in dating & while making new friendships!  Here are some amazing things you'll hear in the episode: ...
47m Aug 01, 2022
47m
28: How Sugar Found Love (and never believed it would be possible)
Sugar is a 46 year old woman working at a large multinational firm, who sits on many non-profit boards (including her alma mater, Purdue U)!  She was married to a man she met in college, and went through a devastating divorce after 10 years.  It took Sugar 8 years to get back on her feet.   She had a lot of anxiety & tons of self-doubt around doing this again, and she bravely started her journe...
59m Jul 25, 2022
59m
27: The Breakthrough to Quantum Love With Dr. Laura Berman
What is Quantum Love?  It's a concept created by today's amazing guest, Dr. Laura Berman.   Listen to EVERY word, because it will take your breath away, and teach you how to ATTRACT the most amazing love into your life: Quantum love is the ideal combination of exciting and safe love - the type we ALL desire.   Dr. Berman tells us: 1) How she got into this work? 2) How she created the concept...
1hr 13m Jul 17, 2022
1hr 13m
26: Perfect Your Summer Face and Look!
Want to make your face gorgeous and glowy all summer long?  Listen to this episode with Enisa, Smart Dating Academy's chief hair/makeup guru!   You can use these tips today and ALWAYS -- even in the dead of winter when you're going on vacation to somewhere warm!   And, if you like this episode, a link to MORE is below! Here are some of the gems you'll hear: "Good Makeup starts with good skin!...
37m Jul 10, 2022
37m
25: How to Be More Attractive & Independent!
In honor of Independence Day, I'm so excited to share my own 7 tips with you about how to appear more attractive and INDEPENDENT on your dates, and in relationships!   These are things I practice in my own life, and I know that you'll learn some new things here, and be able to EXECUTE them as well!    1) Create a life for yourself that you love, and talk about the things that you love to do.  ...
28m Jul 03, 2022
28m
24: How to Lower Anxiety in Dating and LIFE!
Dating anxiety is something even the best daters can feel sometimes.  What are some easy ways to help diminish the anxiety, so we can present the best / most authentic version of ourselves?  I called on my colleague Ilene Collins, dating coach extraordinare at Smart Dating Academy, to discuss this.  She's got a great background in mental health coaching as well, and this conversation was amazin...
42m Jun 27, 2022
42m
23: How to Know if Someone is THE ONE & The Science of Finding Love
Dr. Terri Orbuch is a renowned love researcher.  During this episode, she and Bela have an incredible chat that spans the biggest reasons for divorce, what makes for the happiest relationships, love vs. lust (how to tell which it is), and how to know if someone is 'the one.'   You will hear about:    Dr. Terri's NIH research project that has been following the same couples for over 30 years (...
51m Jun 20, 2022
51m
22: How Andrea Found Love in her 40s After Two Divorces
Andrea Javor is just like you in so many ways.  She's beautiful, smart and successful (works in marketing AND as a divorce coach).  Andrea, like so many of us, had a broken picker.   Her parents are wonderful, and she's surrounded by love, but healthy romantic love had always eluded her.   She was divorced twice before she 'fixed her picker' and found love with Jason.  Listen to this sweet stor...
46m Jun 13, 2022
46m
21: Weight Gain - Why it Happens and How to Get Rid of It!
Weight gain is something most of us have struggled with, or will struggle with at some point in our lives - whether we are male or female.   Is it just me, or does it seems harder with each year to keep it off?   In this episode, I chat with one of the most renowned physicians in the US, Dr. Lauren Streicher about why we gain weight (especially in mid-life & menopause), and HOW to get rid of it...
54m Jun 06, 2022
54m
20: What is Love Bombing vs. Love Seeking, and How Can You Take Control?
What is Love Bombing vs. Love Seeking, and How Can You Take Control? In this amazingly informative episode, Bela and Dr. Katherine Helm discuss the VAST differences between a Love Bomber (bad) and a Love Seeker (good).  They address the following questions in depth: 1) What is love bombing? 2) Why is love bombing harmful? 3) What is the difference between a love bomber and someone who is ro...
43m May 30, 2022
43m
19: 7 Things you NEED For Summer Love!
This is a WONDERFUL episode where you will hear Bela FIREHOSE you with the 7 things you NEED to do this summer to find love!  This episode will educate you and INSPIRE the heck out of you - you'll want to RACE onto the dating scene armed with these 7 things!!   7 Things you NEED For Summer Love!!   1)    Get Psychotically Optimistic about Love and that you WILL Find Love!!   Get rid of the c...
25m May 23, 2022
25m
18: The Soulmate Secret with Arielle Ford
Arielle Ford is a love and relationship expert, and a leading personality in the personal growth space - she's been a pal of Bela's for many years.   This episode is FILLED with answers to questions that have been wrestled with for centuries, and they break it down for you step by step: 1) What is LOVE?  (Spoiler Alert - Bela and Arielle are in 100% agreement about the definition)!  And, Bela ...
53m May 15, 2022
53m
17: The 15 Date RULE That Helped Silvia Find Love!
Silvia Foti is an amazing woman, author, high-school English teacher, and a client of Smart Dating Academy who found love.  Silvia was willing to share her inspiring story with all of YOU to show you that love is possible under even the toughest of circumstances.   Silvia was married for 35 years.  Her mother died when Silvia was 38 years old, and her last wish on her deathbed was that Silvia ...
42m May 09, 2022
42m
16: The Secrets to Flirting & Charisma!
This episode is something you have ASKED FOR!   Flirting, building charisma & confidence is something we ALL want to get better at - whether we are single or coupled!   I brought on one of my favorite experts, Kimmy Seltzer, who is a confidence therapist, flirting wingwoman and personal stylist.  There is something for EVERYONE in this episode - woman or man!    What is the magic formula, The ...
46m May 02, 2022
46m
15: How to Talk to Men & The Secret to Happiness!
This conversation covers AMAZING gems, including: --3 Myths About Men (these are awesome, and have to do with 'the chase', sex, and feelings) --The differences between men's & women's brains (I about passed out when I learned this - it makes COMPLETE sense) --The AWESOME four communication archetypes (are you a lioness, puppy, koala bear or scorpion)? --How to get men to HEAR you (and it do...
59m Apr 25, 2022
59m
14: SEX and DATING - Everything You Need to KNOW!
This episode is AMAZING with Rachel Zar, renowned sex and relationship therapist.   We discussed ALL of the things you need to know - and make sure you don't have little ears around you while listening to this!   1) WHEN is the right time to have sex? 2) If you've had sex with someone, is it advisable / necessary to have sex every time? 3) What's the thing that causes the BEST sex, always? ...
53m Apr 18, 2022
53m
13: What Men REALLY Want - Secrets from an A-List Hollywood Actor!
Colin Egglesfield is an AMAZING actor who has walked the red carpets of Hollywood, starring in "Something Borrowed" with the beautiful Kate Hudson.  He's also been on All My Children and Melrose Place, just to name a few.   Colin is a VERY eligible bachelor, and came on the podcast to talk about what men like him are REALLY looking for in women (he's dated both actresses as well as us 'normal' ...
1hr 18m Apr 11, 2022
1hr 18m
12: TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS & FRIENDSHIPS - HOW TO AVOID THEM AND STAY OUT OF THE RED ZONE!
In this episode, I discuss TOXIC friendships/relationships and staying out of the "RED Zone" with therapist Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo who is Shaquille O'Neal's "Head Coach for Happiness", author of "Get Out of the Red Zone", and mental health expert on the TODAY Show, Good Morning America and the New York Times.  We covered a TON, and you're going to love it all, especially: What are the signs o...
45m Apr 04, 2022
45m
11: Why women LOVE narcissists, and how to STOP!
This episode with Dr. Michelle Roberts is about women, narcissistic abuse, why it happens, and how to heal from it (this is what she researched and practices today). It blew my mind, because I didn't even know that C-PTSD was a diagnosis, and what it meant.  It's SUPER significant in the dating world, and if you've had dating patterns, this episode will change them!  In this episode, we cover:...
44m Mar 28, 2022
44m
10: Step It Up With Steph!
This episode was a gem-filled chat with Stephanie Mansour about "Building Your Confidence at Every Age and Size!" Stephanie Mansour is a nationally recognized Health & Fitness Expert and host of “Step It Up with Steph” on American Public Television. She is weight-loss coach (https://stepitupwithsteph.com/programs/private-weightloss-program/) for women. You can see her health, fitness, food, an...
38m Mar 21, 2022
38m
9: How to Find Love After Betrayal and Avoid Drama!
How Rachel Went from Betrayal to Love - and got out of the "Drama Triangle!"   This week's episode is an amazing chat with serial entrepreneur Rachel Graham, about finding love & purpose after betrayal.  Rachel is the founder of Evolve and Transform, co-founder of Healing Springs Ranch, and has a beautiful love story that came after lots of bumps & bruises along the way.  She's so relatable, y...
45m Mar 14, 2022
45m
8: Does backing up mean backing down? What do you REALLY value?
This episode taught me a lot about myself, and I hope it will do the same for you.  It will change you to think about your core values in a NEW way.    It'll inspire you to really think about yourself, who you are, and maybe what a better career is for you OR a better partner (there are TONS of similarities between job search and partner search)!   In this episode, I interview the inimitable A...
48m Mar 07, 2022
48m
7: Celebrity Divorce Attorney Laura Wasser
Bela has a REAL, in depth chat with celebrity divorce attorney Laura Wasser, who has represented celebrities like Kim Kardashian, Britney Spears, Dr. Dre, Kelly Clarkson, Jimmy Iovine, Maria Shriver, Stevie Wonder and the list goes on. Laura Wasser is also an author, entrepreneur, and Family Law expert. She is the senior partner at the law firm Wasser, Cooperman, Mandles, the founder and C.E.O...
41m Feb 28, 2022
41m
5: The best questions to ask someone on dates (and everywhere)!
Danielle who has created a life she LOVES at the age of 30.  She's a famed TV host, entrepreneur, podcaster, and a dear friend.  She has interviewed Taylor Swift, Michael B. Jordan, Helen Mirren -- and Larry King says that she 'has the ability to make people feel seen."  In this chat, Danielle shares with us: The way she got to know herself (it has to do with 800 questions....) What happened ...
35m Feb 21, 2022
35m
6: Can You Find Love After 50? Nancy Hala's Love Story
This episode is PURE fire, and so perfect for Valentine's Day.   Nancy Hala is a renowned entrepreneur, podcaster, who became a Smart Dater with Bela.  Nancy found love online and got married in September 2021 to the most magical man ever (and they're both over 50).   Nancy and her podcast partner Sheri invited Bela to be the 'dating coach' on their podcast -- coaching Nancy to find love.  This...
1hr 3m Feb 14, 2022
1hr 3m
1: What and when is "peak dating season"? - Smart Dating Academy with Bela Gandhi
In this episode Bela talks about "Peak Dating Season". What and when is it, and what should you do during that time?
27m Jan 11, 2022
27m
2: You Dated a Narcissist... Now What? - Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast with Bela Gandhi
In this episode Bela explains that you may not ACTUALLY dated a narcissist. However, if you did, what do you do next?
31m Jan 11, 2022
31m
3: "I'm Divorced/Divorcing - When Can I Start Dating?!"
In this episode Bela explores dating during and after divorce with Susan Guthrie.  Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized as one of the Top Family Law and Mediation Attorneys in the country, has been helping individuals and families navigate separation and divorce for 30 years. Susan provides online divorce mediation and legal coaching services to select clients around the world. Susan is also th...
39m Jan 11, 2022
39m
4: NEVER Settle, EVER! Jill Sherer Murray, author of Big Wild Love and TEDx Speaker! - Smart Dating Academy Podcast With Bela Gandhi
In this AMAZING episode, Bela interviews Jill Sherer Murray, author of best-selling inspirational book, "Big Wild Love."   Jill shares with us the story of her own searching, and finding her Big Wild Love (and her TEDx talk about it has MILLIONS of views).    In this episode, Jill shares with us: Why she stayed in a relationship for 12 years that she knew wasn't going anywhere What finally ...
54m Jan 11, 2022
54m
6: 7 Biggest Dating Myths...BUSTED - Smart Dating Academy with Bela Gandhi
In this Instagram Live edition, Bela busts the biggest dating myths out there including: 1) Dating is a numbers game 2) You need to feel a spark of chemistry right away 3) You need to be in 'lust' right away 4) Online Dating is only for losers 5) Men take longer to fall in love 6) Men don't want to date successful women 7) Short men have no dating prospects Bela Gandhi of Smart Dating Academy...
47m Jan 11, 2022
47m