The Fair Parenting Podcast

Today we talk with James, about his harrowing multi-year family law case in the UK. We discuss the history and learnings that may help others. The story highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts. It is being published in 3 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time.

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Collin Hughes on suicide and suicide prevention. It originally aired as episode 23 on 9/7/2023 and here are the show notes from that episode: In today's episode we are going to discuss suicide. I want to take a moment to talk about that befor...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my thoughts on six simple ways to massively improve the family law system. It originally aired as episode 2 on 18/9/2022 and it's currently the 6th most listened to episode. It seems fairly popular hence republishing it today for new listeners. Links The Fair P...

The UK is in dark times. I discuss 6 ways the UK seems to be willfully harming children and failing them on a horrific scale. It's nothing short of a moral crisis.

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Lawrence Sprung, which was originally published as episode 15, on 19th March 2023. I wanted to do some shows on how to cope with abuse and alienation. In recent episodes began that by discussing trauma and meditation. Today we talk about suici...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my thoughts on Ai and its implications for family law. I thought it would be interesting to revisit this episode as Ai moves fast and adoption in many areas of life is increasing. It was originally published as episode 35, on 24th December 2023 so it will be inte...

I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. Prior to episode 69, I had only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28). However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update. Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowl...

I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. Prior to episode 69, I had only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28). However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update. Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowl...

I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. I have only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28). However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update. Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowlby kindly agreed to ...

This episode is for those new to the podcast. Every 10 episodes we have a clips episode. They are good but quite long so today is slightly different in that we cover episodes 31-60 in quick-fire soundbites. This gives a shorter format for anyone just discovering the podcast, so they can quickly hear parts from all the shows and choose which episodes they want to listen to in full. Editing th...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Dr. Larry Waldman Ph.D. ABPP, which was originally published as episode 16, on 2nd April 2023. One of the things we do when revisiting older episodes is seeing if we can use modern audio tools to improve the sound quality. That is something th...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Mike Smith PhD, which was originally published as episode 21, on 11th June 2023. He is a digital marketer, executive, podcaster, voice actor, author and, he says, a recovering academic. He lives in California and is the author of the book 'bur...

Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts. This is part 3 of the conversation. Parts 1 and 2 were episodes 62 and 63. We were originally only going to do 2 parts but after formal recording Brent and I spoke for quite a bit more and we decided to publish it....

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Justin Breen, which was originally published as episode 17, on 16th April 2023. Justin is the author of the Wall Street Journal and USA Today Best Selling book Epic Life and runs BREPIC, a PR company. I first connected with Justin when I saw ...

Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts. It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time. Brent says he is happy for listeners in similar situations to contact him about the issues discussed, via X direc...

Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts. It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time. Brent says he is happy for listeners in similar situations to contact him about the issues discussed, via X direc...

Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not. This episode first aired in Christmas 2022 and it highlights 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt We have episodes published and planned with experts in their fields to go into depth in specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try. In my experience n...

Episode 60 is a look back at episodes 51 to 59. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast is nothing without you. As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes. This episode is a compilation of clips but is not exactly a ‘best of’ as that would differ from listener to listener. The episode ...

Today our guest is Professor Ben Hine PhD, CPsychol, FHEA Ben is a psychologist and Professor of Applied Psychology and Head of the School of Human and Social Sciences at the University of West London. He is a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society and has a BSc in Psychology and a PhD from Royal Holloway, University of London. He has published numerous articles in pee...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Jodee Gibson about trauma and coping, which was originally published on 22nd January 2023. It’s a really good episode, thanks to Jodee, who is a human behaviour expert and master coach. Jodee is based in Michigan. Her work is deeply layered i...

I discuss a recent episode I recorded and attempts by some people to cancel it afterwards. I also cover my abuser's demand to cancel all episodes as well as my X account, book and documentary. Finally I mention some of the recent events happening more widely around censorship that are happening to many others.

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Mike Bell of the Family Court Reform Coalition (FCRC), which was originally published as episode 11, on 27th November 2022. Many people, including judges and MPs, have described flaws in the family law system. The flaws seem well known but the...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Orsi, which was originally published on 5th February 2023. We discuss how meditation and yoga can help cope. Methods for coping with trauma are vital when going through alienation, family court or other stress. Orsi has great practical advice ...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Anna Maria DiDio, originally published on 23rd June 2023. Anna Maria lives in Philadelphia. She holds a BA in Psychology from Villanova University and an MSW in Family Specialization from the University of Pennsylvania. For over twenty years,...

Today we talk with Dave Bond who, by any measure, has had an astonishing time in the family courts of the UK and USA. It’s an incredible journey and one that no good parent and child should have to go through. Dave has a crowdfunding effort (link below) and he is writing a book. Personally, I think his story would make a good film. What has happened is astonishing. It's a long conversation s...

Today we talk with Dave Bond who, by any measure, has had an astonishing time in the family courts of the UK and USA. Dave has a crowdfunding effort (link below) and he is writing a book. Personally, I think his story would make a good film. What has happened is astonishing. It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time. Links There is lo...

Today I look at a few recent examples of many at how authorities fail the public. This may put in context part of why Family Court is so bad.

Episode 50 is a look back at episodes 41 to 49. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast would be nothing without you. As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes. This episode is a compilation of episode clips rather than a ‘best of’ clips as that is individual choice. It is for regular...

Many of us have ours and our children’s futures decided by the family law system, not just courts but other decision makers i.e. guardians, child solicitors, social workers, etc. In practise none of them are really accountable for bad outcomes and there is no measuring of outcomes. These are 2 serious flaws I discuss that in this episode.

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at episode 5 which originally aired on 30th October 2022. It was the second episode discussing parenting in Christopher Nolan films with @DerickMcduff from the Underrated podcast (@undercastco). This was a meandering hoot with lots of offshoots! We discuss @Inters...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Derick McDuff about parenting and child separation in the movies, which much of the talk about Christopher Nolan’s film Inception. We also cover other movies and music.  This originally aired as episode 3, way back on 2nd October 2022. If you l...

I have been approached by someone from a documentary maker about my story. I am deciding whether to take part but I am often contacted by parents who want to get their stories out and there are pros and cons to doing so, hence this episode. If any listeners want me to pass on your details, DM or email me and I will. Links Episode 14 - https://audioboom.com/posts/8234043-stories-telling-your...

In the light of a recent news story, I look at paternity testing and whether dads should be able to get a test outside of court proceedings. Some people might see this as an issue for men but it is wider. I discuss how testing has issues for mums, dads and children, including how paternity tests can improve health outcomes for children. Links I mention a recent video from a judge which went v...

This episode I look at the word ‘expert’, not so much to do with court as more widely in society. In many areas of life, experts affect us and sometimes spectacularly let us down. I look at some examples. We need experts but there are few people who really know what they are doing well enough to advise the way experts do and I think we need to be realistic about experts and the word itself. P...

Occasionally I want to look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today is one such episode. I wanted to revisit my discussion with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro from episode 8. I hope you enjoy listening to it. It's one of my favourite episodes and even before today (April 14th 2024) is already the 8th most popular episode ever. It was a wide-ranging and interesting discussion with D...

In this episode I discuss lawyers and MPs protesting about The Garrick Club and how this relates to family law.

Today I cover a news story that happened this week that impacts many parents. Britain's NHS has banned the NHS from prescribing blockers that hamper the physical development of children. I discuss this healthcare story along with comparing it to Britain's medieval family law system.

Episode 40 is a look back at episodes 31 to 39. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast would be nothing without you. As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes. This episode is a compilation of episode clips rather than a ‘best of’ clips as that is individual choice. It is for regular...

In the family court many good and innocent parents and children suffer more and are treated worse than criminals found guilty of crimes. Considering in Britain all cases come under the umbrella of the Ministry of Justice I discuss this in today's episode.

In today’s episode I want to revisit an idea we spoke about way back in episode 5, which was about parental separation in the movie Interstellar and other movies. It’s a great episode, thanks to Derick McDuff. It is a simple idea but one I have found useful over the years. The idea is using email, photos or other online ways to send messages to a child you are alienated from. Those messages ma...

Many of us have seen incentives play out badly in family court, with solicitors milking Legal Aid, milking parents, parents making false allegations to get Legal Aid,  prolonging cases and taking a case that could resolve amicably and blowing it out of the water to the detriment of parents and children. In this episode I discuss how incentives in other industries, and disruption to them, could...

Welcome to the podcast. In this first episode of 2024 I have some thoughts on the new year, my own case and much wider topics. Links Peter Diamandis and Emad Mostaque Clip https://twitter.com/PeterDiamandis/status/1740839831578583088 Episode 28 - Summary of My Story (2018-2022) https://audioboom.com/posts/8218009-story-triple-a-a-portrait-of-abuse-narrated-by-alana-hillenaar Episode 7 - Mik...

I love podcasts and I listen to many, two of which are Exponential Wisdom with @DanSullivanSC and @PeterDiamandis and Moonshots with @PeterDiamandis. I highly recommend listening to both. They cover many things, including AI, which is one of the hot topics of 2023. Those podcasts are not directly connected to our struggles for justice in family law but they are full of forward thinking develo...

Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not. This episode first aired last Christmas and it highlights 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt We have episodes published and planned with experts in their fields to go into depth in specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try. In my experience noth...

In this episode I discuss the current state of transcripts and bundles in the court system and how it hampers justice and reflects the prehistoric condition of family law. I give many ways things can be improved. We need a modern system not a Jurassic one because parents and children deserve better. I gave some other simple reform examples in episodes 2 and 32.

Episode 2 had 6 simple low and no cost ideas for effective reform of family law. In this episode I wanted to give one more in answer to the question: should interviews with family law experts be recorded? The answer is 'Yes'. To not have them recorded represents a serious problem in the robustness and integrity of family law in England and Wales. To have recordings is good practise and protect...

This episode is for those new to the podcast. Every 10 episodes there is a clips episode. We've had 3 so far (episodes 10, 20 and 30). Listening to all 3 clips episodes would take a long time. The guests content is great but, as a shorter introduction episode for anyone just discovering the podcast, I wanted a bitesize clips episode so people can quickly hear parts from all the shows and choo...

Episode 30 already. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast would be nothing without you. As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes. This episode is a compilation of episode clips rather than a ‘best of’ clips as that is individual choice. It is for regular listeners and also a taster...

Today I talk about a book that has helped me: 'Man’s Search For Meaning' by Viktor Frankl. The book applies equally to men and women and I can recommend it to anyone who is being abused or going through tough times. One of the ways of coping with the trauma that we get from abuse and alienation and the Family Court is by exploring stories of adversity. Examples of coping adversity don't get ...

A real-life story of a parent, narrated by actor Alana Hillenaar. It tells of someone experiencing ‘Triple A’ (abuse, abduction and alienation). Best wishes to any parent and child being abused. I hope one day things change so nobody has to go through it. If you would like to tell your story let me know. You can narrate it yourself, do a podcast interview or, if you want to remain private, a...