Eulogy of Jonathan by Timmy (Youngest Brother)

Being the youngest out of the 6 siblings in our family, I feel that I should do one last thing for you Jon. I don't recall doing anything much for you in your life, but I'll take this unexpected opportunity to. And thanks Jon for helping me gain the strength and courage to come up here to speak about you.

I'll start of by saying honestly, I haven't accepted his passing and I don't want to yet, Because I'm still hoping that one day, he'll still wake up and comfort us all and say that he's alright and everything will be alright.

Anyway, I should talk about Jon and my relationship with him. First off, I didn't know him that well at all and we didn't talk much at all honestly. We had a 16 year difference between out ages and throughout the first 10 years of life or so, I didn't see him that much because when he was home, he was normally locked up with in room doing his own things or he was out on duty with the Air Force at night and sleeping throughout the day.

Nevertheless, I still here and there wandered in his room for fun to see him or what he was doing. Although we didn't talk that much, I remember funnily enough he was the only person outside of school to hint to me about puberty. It was just a short incident when I was 7/8 years old, but I was in his room watching him on his computer playing Bowling Buddies or something and he noticed me staring at his leg hair. He then asked me, 'Tim, when you grow older, would you like to have hair on your leg' And I remember distinctively thinking to myself 'erm no that looks disgusting!!' And replied to him with a no and a disgusted face. He laughed and smiled and went back to what he was doing. Regardless of the few situations I was ever together with Jonathan, he always treated me like a little brother and I always looked up to him as my older brother.

Yesterday, I heard something from our siblings that I had no idea about at all. I heard about how proud you were of me and my accomplishments in bowling. And you have no idea how happy I was to hear that. Or maybe you do, I know you're watching over us right now even as we speak. I was so happy that despite us not talking much and now knowing each other well, you were still proud of me as your little brother and went with good memories of me.

I'll talk more about what I know about our big brother Jonathan. I never actually found out much about him and his life by myself since we didn't converse much. Instead, I found out most of what I know about his life from fellow friends and relatives. And from what I've heard, I'm very, VERY proud to call him my older brother. Jon especially had one quality that I always admired about him, and that was his outgoingness personality, which was basically the opposite of me. He never shy-ed away from any situation and was always willing to encourage and help us to do the same, particularly for me during family gatherings over Chinese New Years, Christmas etc. where I'm always too shy to speak to anyone.

Now, I didn't know this about him until the past few years, but one more thing I really admire about him was his willingness to follow his dreams and live a life that not many of us could say we lived. In today's high-stress society where so many of my generation people just follow the 'system' of going through pri school, sec school JC Uni and then to work, so many of us forget how to really LIVE our lives. There's so many of the people out there that just robotically follow this system and some of them go through their entire lives neglecting their passions, their family, things that really matter when it's all said and done. Things that nearing the end, you could reflect back on your life, smile and say to yourself 'Wow, I did all those things' and have no significant regrets about things you didn't do.

I'm so very proud to say that my brother Jonathan, didn't follow the crowd into this robotic system. Despite many of us questioning his decision, he decided to spend his life savings to study baking in France in order to pursue his dream. He lived his life having achieved his biggest dream and passion of baking and he also had the most fun he could have with all his friends that he met along his journey. I am so happy to say that my brother Jonathan became a good role model for us to live our lives, to pursue our dreams and live a very fulfilling life, all while strongly devoting his faith to God and Jesus Christ.

Although like all of us here, I just wish we had way more time with him. I would have liked to see him get married, start his own family and have nephews or nieces of our own. But God had other plans for him, and I'm sure he's in a better place now, or he's right here with us right now, watching over us.

Aligned with his outgoing personality, he also had many groups of close friends that I never knew about and they all knew him as a really great, fun-loving person who was a fantastic joy to have around. Especially in the past few days, I was scrolling through his Facebook page to find out more about my brother I never knew that much about, and I was extremely touched, by the amount of nice messages he was getting from friends around the world. I am so, so proud, that this brother of mine has been about to live such a fulfilling life and was able to touch and bring joy to so many people that he met in his life.

Lastly, I just want to say one thing to him. Hey Jon, thank you so much for coming into the lives of all of us around you and bring joy to us.. Thank you so much for being a role model and showing us a fulfilling way of living our lives. And most of all, thank you So much..... For being MY older brother.... for being proud of me and the things that I've done too. Thank you Jon, and see you again one day, where we will also reunite with the whole family, just like a family gathering during Chinese New Year or Christmas, and it will be a very happy occasion for all of us :) Although if you could right now, please wake up.......