Rob Reiner Case: The Loss Nobody Sees
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You remember who they were. You have photos. You can describe exactly the person they used to be — before the addiction, before the diagnosis, before they became someone unrecognizable wearing a familiar face.
That person is gone. And the world won't let you grieve them. Because they're still alive.
Rob and Michele Reiner lived with this grief for seventeen years. The Nick who existed before the drugs, before the manipulation became his entire personality — that person disappeared slowly, piece by piece, while his body remained. There was no funeral. No acknowledgment. Just a guesthouse on their property occupied by a stranger who knew their names.
Psychologists call this ambiguous loss. Physical presence, psychological absence. It's one of the hardest forms of grief because there's no ending. No closure. Just an infinite middle where hope and despair take turns destroying you.
The Reiners made a movie with Nick in 2015. Did press tours about healing. Talked publicly about their bond. But Nick admitted later he wasn't actually sober during any of it. The redemption was performance. And every time they thought their son had come back, they had to grieve him all over again when the truth surfaced.
That's the cruelty of this loss. Every glimmer of the old them reopens the wound. Every flash of recognition makes the absence sharper when it disappears. You attend the same funeral over and over without ever being allowed to bury the body.
There's no support group for this. No bereavement leave. No cards or casseroles. Just silence and the expectation that you'll keep showing up while bleeding from a wound nobody acknowledges.
You're allowed to grieve someone who's still breathing. The person you loved was real. Their absence is real. And you don't need anyone's permission to mourn them.
But if you need permission anyway — here it is.
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