How to Heal Anxious Attachment and Stop Self-Abandoning in Love with Trevor Hanson

What if the biggest relationship you need to repair is the one you have with yourself?

On this episode of the Smart Dating Academy Podcast, Bela Gandhi sits down with relationship coach Trevor Hanson to unpack anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, self-abandonment, trust issues, and what it really takes to create secure, healthy relationships.

Trevor shares his personal journey from working at Tesla and staying in a toxic relationship to becoming a coach who helps people move from anxious attachment toward security.

You’ll learn:

• Why knowing your patterns intellectually isn't always enough to change them
• What "emotionally corrective experiences" are and why they matter
• How fear of abandonment can cause you to abandon yourself
• Why people-pleasing, over-giving, and putting up walls can all keep you stuck
• How to build self-trust after heartbreak or betrayal
• Why boundaries begin with the boundaries you have with yourself
• A simple daily question that can help you show up for yourself
• Bela's memorable "Swiss cheese vs. American cheese" metaphor for dating confidence

If you're dating after divorce, trying to find love again, struggling with emotional availability, or simply ready to build healthier relationships, this conversation will give you a fresh perspective on where real change begins.

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