The Unmasking Unschool Podcast

The new podcast is here! VALORIZE:  https://www.valorize.systems/ ______ Episode Notes for this final episode of The Unmasking Unschool Podcast: Taking up the power to self define means reorganising your relationships to all things from the inside out instead of the outside in. This kind of journey is profound. All encompassing. And transforms even the mundane aspects of your life. Becaus...

The new podcast is here! VALORIZE: https://www.valorize.systems/

The new podcast is here! VALORIZE:  https://www.valorize.systems/ If you are someone who has learned that you have to manage your energy, your protective vigilance around your energy will be high. This relationship with your energy treats it like a finite resource that gets emptied. And needs a lot of space and time to drip back up into adequacy. It's the relationship of: managing the cost ...

The new podcast is here! VALORIZE:  https://www.valorize.systems/ The ability to exercise CHOICE in what reality you operate in, and how you respond, is a kind of freedom. Not freedom from accountability. But freedom to be in integrity with what you *actually* most value. In the first of four 'bridge' episodes (from this podcast to the next!), I speak to how starting with low belief is just ...

Part Two of my big announcement is the NEW DIRECTION and focus of my coaching: which is YOUR WORK IN THE WORLD I share the core insight that underpins my new offer, and what the offer is: it's called FLAREHOUSE HERE IS ALL THE INFO: https://www.solasystems.xyz/FLAREHOUSE (https://www.solasystems.xyz/FLAREHOUSE) _______________ Transcript: https://www.solasystems.xyz/s/019

This week on the Unmasking Unschool Podcast, I invited previous podcast guest Laurie Green back onto the podcast, this time to talk about the culmination of what was once a vague dream, now realised as a tangible reality in the form of a BOOK. The BOOK: Deliquescent Beings: A Neuroqueering Book of Love https://www.neuroqueering.network/product/deliquescentbeings/ Neuroqueering Love: A Gather...

It turns out I'm in a SEASON of change... Listen to PART ONE of my big announcement and why I closed doors to UNMASKING UNSCHOOL early!! ___________ TRANSCRIPT (https://www.solasystems.xyz/s/017) ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of th...

Unmasking Unschool is open for enrolment! ENROL HERE: https://www.solasystems.xyz/unun This is the online group coaching, support system, and social context for #autistic/audhd visionaries, creatives, change-makers who are not here to fit in, to enact the life pivots, self re-inventions involved in becoming your boldest self, and realising your most impactful work in the world. ___________ T...

In this week’s episode of The Unmasking Unschool Podcast, I am joined by Rebekah Ubuntu (they/them, she/her) who generously shares their unique perspective on what it means to be in transition; Refusing to be a finished product; a destination, a known self, and being open to the mystery of being in process. Rebekah articulates felt truths that have emerged inside the experience of not knowin...

I'm doing something I've never done before. I'm taking NEW ACTION I'm inviting all my clients, my podcast listeners, and my subscribers into ONE space; To coach with me, LIVE FREE NOW and you are invited. I'm inviting you too, to take NEW ACTION To become someone who can CREATE CHANGE on purpose. Who can shift the culture, the structure, the fabric of your life experience into higher integr...

"The art world is so opaque and it really doesn't provide a lot of feedback or clear communication. So many processes are difficult to navigate, I think, probably for most people. And then for someone like me, who really needs to understand the whole process, why things are happening, it's just so difficult to access. and because there was a sense of scarcity and precarity, we didn't really fe...

"I don't think I need some tweaks. I think I need to burn it down." This week on the Unmasking Unschool podcast, I'm joined by the wonderful Andrea Cox (she/her). Andrea joined Unmasking Unschool in 2023 after a burnout that coincided with realising her neurodivergence, and led to the decision to review every aspect of her life, from the inside out. I talk with Andrea about taking the huge lea...

Today's Unmasking Unschool podcast episode is about a common form of static that can mess with your sense of self corrupt the flow of energy corral your actions into contortions. That static in your sense of self is: Over-identifying with your habitual ACTIONS. Because over-identifying with your actions, when your actions are learned protective and reactive patterns, to past conditions means ...

Your level of self-belief that YOU can • create the creative / rebellious / outstanding / impactful / world-changing / unique visions, projects, services that you dream of • BE YOURSELF and make life work at the same time • experience your FULL self as lovable, seen, enough... that belief level is directly correlated to what your environment (your social, economic, physical context) reflect...

In this week's Unmasking Unschool PODCAST episode I speak to my experiences of having a porous sense of self. The artistic sensibilities and energetic sensitivities that this gifted me but also, how much my journey has been about CREATING and building an ego; developing an individuated, distinct, felt experience of my own boundaried limits so that I'm not LOST in other people. In their gaze, ...

Tightly attuned for survival teaches you: to be oriented to how other people see you. Then comes: a late-diagnosis/self-identifying as autistic, or AuDHD opening a door, unfolding a second adolescence, that doesn't match your age, and the "supposed to have done X by now"s: supposed to know what I like supposed to know how to do life supposed to have a job, kids, partner(s), purpose, blah blah...

Imposter syndrome feels be like: You're not supposed to be here! That's not yours! Who do you think you are? Who asked you? You're not good enough! You don't know enough yet! But is it true? Sometimes, its just a product of industry bias; narrow paths to a position of recognised expertise; ~isms presented as meritocracy. And sometimes its a LACK of feedback, or feedback you can't perceive or ...

Like many late-identified autistic / AuDHD / ADHD folks, a foggy, porous, unstructured sense of self; illusions, fantasies, pipe dreams... was my predominant experience of myself, until I learned to take EFFECTIVE, STRUCTURED ACTION. That action has to be structured a certain way for it to be effective. I couldn't do things the way other people did them nor follow their ideals, without losing...

In this episode, I speak to the importance of knowing and centring in your strengths, to create more energy. And offering a new term as a way to think about some of those strengths, called 'Distinction Depth'. When an environment or activity affords and rewards distinction depth: you excel! Subscribe to the mailing list HERE (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) ___________ TRANSCRIPT (https://www....

In this episode I talk through seven 'C' words; CHOICE CLARITY COMPETENCE CAPACITY CADENCE COACHING and I also reference The Social Change Ecosystem Map: https://buildingmovement.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Ecosystem-Guide-April-2022.pdf and invite you to consider what 'C' or 'season' are you in? I also mention that I am sharing some behind the scenes of the creation of the 'final evolved...

This episode is an interview with Jem Dobie (they/them). Jem is a 'sensory sibling' who has been through the Unmasking Unschool journey, and you're going to hear them talk in generous and vulnerable detail about what it's been like to transform their experience of their life, their sense of self, their relationships and the work they're doing in the world. More about Jem: The Feel Good Circus...

In this episode I talk about what comes after the deep dives into all things autistic stop being satisfying; when information stops being transformative, and you need actual change. I introduce another frame for this series: the 'metaskills' of becoming yourself . TRANSCRIPT (https://www.solasystems.xyz/s/002) ___________ The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives ...

This episode introduces the concepts of 'affordances', 'disaffordances', and 'dysaffordances'; concepts from design thinking that have a lot to offer the project of reframing the value and importance of recognising and embracing what our bodyminds afford us to do, experience, understand. TRANSCRIPT (https://www.solasystems.xyz/podcast-transcripts) This episode mentions: A designer's approach...

In this week's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview I did with the gorgeous, generous, visionary soul that is Opal Turner. I featured on their podcast Rebel with a Cause. This was my first time being a guest on someone else's podcast and it's going to be hard to beat! Opal asked some really juicy questions. We cried. We laughed, and I felt truly held and seen. And I believe it was mutual....

In this week's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview I did with the gorgeous, generous, visionary soul that is Opal Turner. I featured on their podcast Rebel with a Cause. This was my first time being a guest on someone else's podcast and it's going to be hard to beat! Opal asked some really juicy questions. We cried. We laughed, and I felt truly held and seen. And I believe it was mutual....

When what you want to CREATE or BECOME isn’t just new or unknown, but ALSO involves being more of the parts of you that have in the past been actively discouraged, the fear of being “too much/not good enough” can stop you expanding and moving forward into your most fervently coveted dreams and goals. In this episode I share the solution...

Connect with Louisa on Instagram HERE (https://www.instagram.com/louisa_shaeri/) Episode Summary: In the legacy of Eurocentric forms of knowledge, that are about having a self appointed god-like gaze over others and naming and labelling and defining meanings into splits separations and hierarchies, there is an obsession with being right. With doing the right thing in the right way; fitti...

Connect with Louisa on Instagram HERE (https://www.instagram.com/louisa_shaeri/) Episode Summary: Money does not have to equal extraction and exploitation. But when we witness corruption that leads to lives being valued below profit, AND also hear phrases like "charge your worth", it can lead to thinking that our worthiness has something to do with our ability to be productive or fit into ...

Connect with Louisa on Instagram HERE (https://www.instagram.com/louisa_shaeri/) Episode Summary: 'Autistic burnout'? Afraid of reaching and aspiring because of the inevitable crash and burn? Overly familiar with over-adapting and recovery cycles? This episode is for you... and it's about step one: The REFUSAL; the "NO"; the de-consenting; This is how healing can begin. The decision to pu...

Connect with Louisa on Instagram HERE (https://www.instagram.com/louisa_shaeri/) Episode Summary: Are you in a pattern of self sabotage? Do you recognise yourself taking steps forward, and then 102,782,629 steps back? Sibling, I've got you with this week's podcast episode, which is all about what exactly is underlying self sabotage, and also - the details on my recent breakthrough! Transcri...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

Transcript: https://www.solasystems.xyz/blog/030 _____________________ Episode summary: If you've been fearful of having a repeat experience of mutual support and peer groups; of negotiating the unclear rules and expectations of a semi-social space, of not knowing whether it's your turn, or how much space to take up, running the same scripts of tending to others needs instead of your own, ...

Doors are OPEN to The SOLA System + Siblings: https://www.solasystems.xyz/spring The unmasking unschool for the creative #autistic in you to finally feel SEEN, SUPPORTED, and SELF EXPRESSED - Unlearn false selves - Immerse in resonant community - Invent a life that works Create the self-acceptance, worthiness, and energy-supporting structures around your autistic differences to realise a f...

Doors are OPEN to The SOLA System + Siblings: https://www.solasystems.xyz/spring The unmasking unschool 
for the creative #autistic in you to finally feel
 SEEN, SUPPORTED, and SELF EXPRESSED - Unlearn false selves 
- Immerse in resonant community 
- Invent a life that works Create the self-acceptance, worthiness, and energy-supporting structures around your autistic differences, to realise a...

Join me for the free online seminar: How to get unstuck and unmask, when masking is a systemic issue 22 March 2023, 1pm GMT Register: https://www.solasystems.xyz/workshop _____________________ Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance an...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for bonus beams from The SOLA System, plus you'll get the link to join the FREE 'siblings' community of other creative neurodivergents also working to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding yo...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

Download the accompanying .pdf of questions HERE (https://www.solasystems.xyz/opt-in-4ac4e8da-72fd-4bf7-9e17-2aa7defca033) For a version with added 'brown noise' to aid concentration, email Louisa HERE (mailto:hello@solasystems.xyz) Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultiv...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for bonus beams from The SOLA System, plus you'll get the link to join the FREE 'siblings' community of other creative neurodivergents also working to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. Episode summary: Labels can be helpful. To help you name an experience. To ha...

Autistic scripting and why you experience higher levels of rejection than others, and how to evolve your experience of yourself beyond the exhaustion of trying to replicate the ideals of normative culture... Papers mentioned in this episode: https://www.nature.com/articles/srep40700 https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33192918/ _____________________ The sensory siblings podcast is hosted by Lo...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

Are you on my mailing list, sibling? Join here solasystems.xyz (https://www.solasystems.xyz/) for email broadcasts from The SOLA System to help you work to cultivate the self-clarity, self-acceptance and pride to BE who you are. The SOLA System + Siblings, the 6 month online 'unmasking unschool' guiding you on a journey through The SOLA System, alongside a community of siblings to share the jo...

The sensory siblings podcast is hosted by Louisa Shaeri, and beaming to you from the The SOLA System + Siblings, the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for creative, late identified autistic folks who are seeking another way to see, know and be yourself. This is a radical reimagining of what is possible when we redefine ourselves from within; by unlearning who we are not, making self c...

The sensory siblings podcast is hosted by Louisa Shaeri, and beaming to you from the The SOLA System + Siblings, the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for creative, late identified autistic folks who are seeking another way to see, know and be yourself. This is a radical reimagining of what is possible when we redefine ourselves from within; by unlearning who we are not, making self c...

The sensory siblings podcast is hosted by Louisa Shaeri, and beaming to you from the The SOLA System + Siblings, the liberatory framework and unmasking unschool for creative, late identified autistic folks who are seeking another way to see, know and be yourself. This is a radical reimagining of what is possible when we redefine ourselves from within. By unlearning who we are not, making self c...